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3rd Trimester
Jolaine83
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MIL vent - one of those days...
Jolaine83
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My MIL is special. Well meaning but completely tactless. It's given us a few rough times.
DH has a large extended family and since they are so spread out age-wise, MIL told me not to expect a baby shower from them as they tend to "forget about the youngest cousins" ie, DH and his sister. This was okay with me since my Aunt was throwing one for me. I was a little disappointed, but I kind of see myself as lucky to get a shower anyhow.
SIL (DH's sister) is pregnant with her third girl, due the week after me. They basically live off of my IL's, despite making more money than DH and I. Mostly, they spend their money on a lot of extras that DH and I give up to live more independently.
They are also completely disorganized and "lost" all of the baby clothes from their other two daughters. SIL posted about this loss on facebook, saying she hoped they could keep looking in the storage shed and find it, even though she'd love to buy new clothing for new baby. MIL suggested instead (responding to her post) that maybe someone in the family should step up and throw her a shower instead.
Am I wrong to be annoyed about this? I understand if the family doesn't want to throw one as much for me - but they should consider that this is also DH's child, our first and the first boy grandchild in the family - so no hand-me-down's are available.
Again, don't take this as me being ungrateful. I was perfectly okay with no shower from his side - I understood the reasoning I'd been given. I just now find that it's most likely a load of BS and being fed that makes me a little annoyed.
UGH! Vent over!
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Re: MIL vent - one of those days...
I'm so sorry! I can't believe you MIL made that post on facebook...EWWW! That's so tacky!
I think it's sorry that for a 3rd child she receive a shower and you not for your first.
I don't think he completely gets it. But when it comes to the drama of his mother and sister, he's so used to it. He basically just told me that we'd make sure we got everything we needed without it, so I shouldn't let it bother me - there wasn't anything we could do about it anyhow.
Yeah, guys don't always get it, do they! At least he's confident that you will be able to get everything you need. And all the bump ladies understand and sympathize! It really sucks and I'd be so hurt. I'm really mad for you! What is wrong with that lady....
This annoys the he** out of me! When someone volunteers to do something for you and then acts like it was the most trying, horrible thing they ever did, like they are Mother Teresa or something...I mean after a very gracious thank you and thank you gift, what else do we need to do?...bow down in honor of them..
Yeah...I give up trying to understand.
Thanks everyone for making me feel less crazy! I just didn't see this coming since it was my SIL who threw the bridal shower for me on their side.
Confronting her about it would do no good. She tends to be one of those who doesn't regret what she does/says. And in the end, when I do say something to her, I tend to come out seeming like the oversensitive DIL. The good news, is that the shower for SIL is very unlikely - she's going to be induced in 5-6 weeks and nothing is planned as of yet. It'll just mean that if they don't find anything it'll be my IL's who are once again fixing their mistakes.