How do you deal...

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• BabyMenzel

  January 2010

  yeah so we're done.
  

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• CharmCitySmith

  January 2010

  Honestly, I just remind myself every day that there are waaaaaay WORSE things than being single and/or a single mother. I do get lonely and when that feeling hits (usually at night), I take the time to write in my journal and usually by the time I'm finished doing that, I feel better and can go on about my business.

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• CharmCitySmith

  January 2010

  Sorry after re-reading your question my response makes NO SENSE.

  As it stands right now, my  LO is too small to really know that his father isn't around so I can't even give you any advice on that. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this!

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• BabyMenzel

  January 2010

  lilcyndiluwho:

  This past summer, when I broke up with the guy I'd been dating for several months I borrowed a suggestion from another single mom I know who said it worked well with her DS in the same situation. I told DS (2.5 at the time) that the BF had a new job that required him to live on the moon and that he had to fly on a rocket ship to get there and that whenever the moon was out he could wave to the moon to say hello.  It worked like a charm and there was no crying.  He said hello to the moon a few times and that was it.   I also knew for certain that I wouldn't be seeing the BF any more and wasn't likely to just run into him anywhere.  

  This is exactly the reason (ok, one of the reasons) I have zero interest in dating right now.  I can cope just fine with a relationship ending after a few months.  DS doesn't understand these things though and I'm more scared of him getting hurt than me.

  this absolutely. hurt me, i don't care, but you will NOT hurt my son and if you do, momma bear will come out!

  ds is verrrrrrrrrry aware of SO and has been calling him constantly but idk how to explain to a 19m old that he's not going to be around
  

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• kirbear member

  January 2010

  Sorry you are going through this with your son.  It's hard at his age, because he can only understand so much.  I'd say to come up with a response that you stick with depending on how much your son understands (whether it be he went bye bye, he went away, or he moved etc...) and each time he asks for him give that same response and reassure him that you are there and then try to distract him with playing ,cuddling etc...  You don't want him to think that people will continue to go away and not come back, so reassure him that mommy is always here and in time he will get it.  

  Hang in there!
  

  Kirsten DD 4-7-06

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• ShanJosh777 member

  January 2010

  Ugh, I'm so sorry.  I have no advice and I am definitely not looking forward to this.... I was telling my BFF that I don't plan on letting DS meet any guy unless we are engaged.  Obviously I know that's not reasonable at all... but I just can't imagine dealing with this kind of thing.

  

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• achase123

  January 2010

  That's so hard!  DS is to little to understand and hopefully someone will come into my life before he is old enough to remember.  Once he is old enough I will be very, very, very cautious about introducing him to ppl.  I was dating a guy for a little bit and he had two girls so he couldn't come over until they were asleep.  So when he came over it was a little later and DS was already in bed so his contact with him was minimal.

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• skimberlin

  January 2010

  This scares me so much!!!! I am so sorry, I wish I had advice. I will def be praying for you though!

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