From another board: Who are you allowing in the delivery room?

uagirl · January 2010

I can't imagine an audience, so DH and I have decided it will just be us. Thankfully, our hospital doesn't allow visitors to stand in the hallways outside the rooms, so I'm hoping we will at least get a few minutes alone with LO before DH goes to share with the family.

Soon2BMrsWiley · January 2010

Me and DH in the delivery room with the understanding that if I need my mother...only SHE will be allowed in (but I am planning on an epi so I do not anticipate needing her). Once LO is born and I am recovered, we are insisting on around 45 minutes to an hour of alone time with the baby before anyone else is allowed in. We plan on informing the nursing staff of our desires once we get there.

ImMrsMoses · January 2010

I'm not pregnant yet, but I already know that it will be just me and DH in the room. I do want my mom to have the opportunity to come in first after the birth, but she does not need to witness the actual delivery.

hamillm · January 2010

I knew I wanted my mother in there, so I'm so glad she made it to town in time! MIL made it about 10 min before he was born, but she waited in the waiting room.

uagirl · January 2010

Soon2BMrsWiley:
Me and DH in the delivery room with the understanding that if I need my mother...only SHE will be allowed in (but I am planning on an epi so I do not anticipate needing her). Once LO is born and I am recovered, we are insisting on around 45 minutes to an hour of alone time with the baby before anyone else is allowed in. We plan on informing the nursing staff of our desires once we get there.

I never thought about letting the nursing staff know when to allow visitors. I like the 45 min.-1 hour rule. I'll have to remember that one.

sdkrlm · January 2010

I told everyone that it was just going to be DH and I. then MIL got mad adn didn't speak to us for a month.

I told my mom that she wasn't there when we put her in there, she didn't need to be there when she came out.

As it was, I had a c-section and only DH was allowed in.

sdkrlm · January 2010

oh and as much as I wanted to see Avery, the 2 hours I had in recovery by myself was awesome

MrsAO · January 2010

Soon2BMrsWiley:
Me and DH in the delivery room with the understanding that if I need my mother...only SHE will be allowed in (but I am planning on an epi so I do not anticipate needing her). Once LO is born and I am recovered, we are insisting on around 45 minutes to an hour of alone time with the baby before anyone else is allowed in. We plan on informing the nursing staff of our desires once we get there.

This was my plan exactly. DH is great and would've been a good support, however sometimes I need a little more "petting", and the athlete in him causes him to have more of a "shake it off, it's not that bad" attitude. I'm close to my mom and I know she would've babied me, as bad as that sounds. That being said, I had a c-section so it was just me and DH afterall b/c that's all they allow in the OR. Once in my room, my recovery period was 1 hour and no one else was allowed in besides DH and baby of course, so alone time wasn't an issue.

aubie96 · January 2010

Our plan is just me and DH with the exception that if I need my mom she is allowed in. My sister might help to calm me as she is just such a relaxed person but they know right now it's just us and not them unless I ask for them. (I can tend to get worked up/stressed out in pain situations......... yeah, I'll be more the baby than the one arriving!!! ha)

We will get alone time, that's our plan and then we'll allow family in. My IL's may just wait until after my family leaves as it's a 10 hr drive for them. Plus, I don't think I can handle everyone at once!!!

tippykins · January 2010

we will be birthing at a birth center, and they allow whomever we want to be there. but it will only be dh and i. i really don't want everyone and their mother to be in my space while i'm trying to give birth. i'm a private person anyway, so that's just my personality.

ameliaandmatt · January 2010

I plan on having (plenty of) medication, so early on as I'm waiting on labor to progress I'm not completely against having some company, but as contractions get worse or it's time to push, everybody but DH out! We've already told our families that we plan on having at least an hour (more like 2) to be just the 3 of us before we let anyone else in to meet her.

kc0721 · January 2010

It will only be DH and myself in the delivery room. I'm going to mention to the staff and nurses that we'd like about an hour of alone time. I don't wanna be bumrushed as soon as the baby is born.

mrssamuels2b · January 2010

Soon2BMrsWiley:
Me and DH in the delivery room with the understanding that if I need my mother...only SHE will be allowed in (but I am planning on an epi so I do not anticipate needing her). Once LO is born and I am recovered, we are insisting on around 45 minutes to an hour of alone time with the baby before anyone else is allowed in. We plan on informing the nursing staff of our desires once we get there.

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ricejl · January 2010

sdkrlm:

I told my mom that she wasn't there when we put her in there, she didn't need to be there when she came out.

This cracke me up. Yes we plan on just my hubby and I. I am going to ask about the 1 hour by ourselves. In fact we've already discussed that the whole time we are in the hospital that we just want family coming to visit. Friends can come once we are settled at home and I'm feeling better.

star21gazer · January 2010

Since I went in the night before for an inductions me and Wes were by ourselves until about 9am the next morning...my parents and inlaws hung out for a while with us in the birthing suite, everyone but Wes left the room anytime I was checked and when I got the epi..right after I got the epi Wes and my parents and his went and got a bite of lunch and I got a nice little nap which was a relief since I hadn't slept hardly at all up to that point...and as soon as it was determined that I would need a C-section the only one in the OR was Wes because that was all that was allowed.

After I returned to my room from recovery..the nurses wouldn't allow anyone but me and Wes and Aubrey in the room for about an hour per my request..I wanted time with her alone since it was my first shot of holding her and all. After that was when everyone else was let in.

MissLMS · January 2010

Our original plan was that my mom was going to be there during labor that when it came time to pushing, it was going to be DH and I only. My mom and I are not super close and I figured that it should be a moment for only DH and I.

But, when it came down to it, it was one moment where I felt like I really needed and wanted my mom to be there. I thought I would be wierded out about her seeing me... down there... during childbirth but she was an amazing source of support for both Michael and I.

I gave birth at 5:40 a.m., so we didn't have any visitors besides my mom being there. (Plus, we don't have family that lives in town.) Our first visitors didn't arrive until lunchtime, so that gave us several hours to spend with K alone while my mom went home to catch up on her sleep.

Next time around, if my sister has not had any children, I may ask her if she wants to be there for the birth. I've been amazed at her connection with K and I know she would feel honored be there for the actual birth next go around.

Leelee06 · January 2010

We're planning on just DH and my sister if I need her and she can get down in time. DH is would baby me and be the "you can do it" person. My sister is the tough one and would keep me from cracking. I would like about a 45 min to an hour after the baby is born to DH and myself, especially because I want to immediately try to BF and DH bond in his own way.

My aunt and uncle achieved their delivery alone by not telling anyone that they were in labor. The just told everyone once the baby had arrived. My mom was upset about this, but I can understand their reasons for doing it.

hlw082104 · January 2010

I had always said I didn't want anyone really to be hanging out in the room with me..but since not much went on for hours and hours pretty much everyone who came to visit while I was in labor including our pastor got to come in and say hello. Which looking back now kind of weirds me out but nothing was really going on after 9 hours of being there and I knew he would make me feel better about things not going the way I wanted them to. So, anyway, I ended up having a C-section around midnight and was in recovery until 2:00ish. We did tell the nurses that we didn't want anyone else to see/hold DS or know which baby he was in the nursery until I got to hold him. My family had been there since that morning at 6:30 am so I hated to make them wait a whole lot longer to see DS. So DH and I had about 15 min with DS before they all came in which was ok at the time because I wanted everyone to share in the joy.

What I know for next time is that more than likely I will have a planned c-section and DH and I will have a lot more time to bond with the baby before everyone comes in. I would really love for DH and I to have an hour or so and then another 30 min with DS in there with us before everyone else but am not sure if that would be ok with the hospital if there's any flu restrictions or whatever.

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