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So why do we feel guilty??

lidleyboschlidleybosch
in Babies: 3 - 6 Months
I had and issue this weekend where I wanted some time to myself and told DH so.  I said, " I am so tired, and would like some time to myself, that does not make me a bad mom, does it?"  And his reply, " Are you okay?  I am worried about you, you don't seem that interested in DD today."  ARGGGHHH, give me a break!!   He was WORRIED about me?  WHY and what was he worried I was going to do?  I LOVE being with Olive, but I had a realle long, stressfull work week and just wanted a bit of quiet time.  DH then offered to take DD with him to watch football at a friends house.  The friend is a single guy.  I said, "No, you just go, you won't have any fun with Olive there."  What I should have said was "Yes, you go and take her with you!!  Enjoy the game!"  I needed the break, so why didn't I just let him take her?  He is perfectly capable and handles her very well so there was no reason for him not to take her, it was me that got in the way of some quiet time!
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Re: So why do we feel guilty??

  • MadisenMadisen
    I was just talking to my sis about this yesterday.  No matter what, mom guilt gets me.  It's in my head though and LO is just fine.  Next time, let your DH take her.
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  • ksaylesksayles member

    I would have let him take her. DH takes DD with him if he is home and I need a break.

    Everyone needs time for themselves. If you don't let him give you a hand you can burnout, very quickly. You should not feel guilty for letting your husband help you. 

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  • LilCMomLilCMom
    Getting some quiet time to yourself makes you a BETTER mom...you deserve it! Plus it's good for DH to get some one-on-one time with you LO. My DH is great about taking her when I need to get away for awhile; it makes me more refreshed and it helps them appreciate what we do with our LOs when they're not there!
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  • Hopeful1!Hopeful1!

    Here is a good article about mommy guilt.

     https://www.parenting.com/article/Pregnancy/Relationships/Getting-Over-New-Mom-Guilt?cnn=yes

     

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  • lovesazzielovesazzie member
    It is normal. For some reason, we feel like we should be able to do EVERYTHING. It's just not realistic... we all need breaks. Next time take him up on the offer! p.s. I love the name Olive!
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  • redhead712771redhead712771
    I have the same issue, just letting DH take her for a few hours here at home. It's not a trust thing at all, it's that I feel like I need to suck it up and give him the chance for some free time. Just this weekend I spent 2 hours scrapbooking while DH kept her and I felt bad the whole time, he even offered to let me take a nap after I fed her but I already felt bad enough.
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  • lidleyboschlidleybosch

    imagesazzie:
    It is normal. For some reason, we feel like we should be able to do EVERYTHING. It's just not realistic... we all need breaks. Next time take him up on the offer! p.s. I love the name Olive!

     

    thanks!

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  • Temp67694062501186Temp67694062501186 member
    I think I would have done exactly what you did.  Darn mom guilt.  :-/
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  • nmr79nmr79
      I had the same thing yesterday.  DH took her to the neighbor's house to watch football.  I loved it, took a nap, and then when I saw her later, felt guilty for enjoying 'me' time.  I guess that's how it goes...
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