For those who have already picked names...

amandydean · January 2010

Are you telling your family/friends as soon as you know the name, or are you waiting a while? We're 99% sure of a name, but hesitant to tell anyone about it until we're closer to time. It's a name we both love (Finn Edward), but since it's slightly uncommon, we're not sure how our friends and especially family will like it. Most people would be tactful enough not to say anything, but a few family members might just tell us they hate it and ask us to choose another name.

Of course, we don't want to base our decision on their opinions, and feel like maybe it would be better if we wait until much closer to baby's birth (or even after he's born) to tell anyone his name.

Anyone else thinking along the same lines? In a way, I'm kind of excited to share, but I definitely don't want anyone else's opinion to dampen my excitement. We wouldn't change our minds because of anything someone said, but it would be a bit of a letdown, I think, if someone said they absolutely hated the name.

Also, anyone have family who was outspoken about your choices of names? How did you handle it?

SoldiersGreenBean · January 2010

We're not sharing until they're here.

I don't want negative comments or 'helpful' suggestions.

Stephanie2167 · January 2010

We told people right away. As for her middle name we just decided so we have been telling people slowly but surely...especially when people start giving recommendations for her middle name. I hate when people do that.

MommyTori1 · January 2010

We decided and have told anyone who asks... Mostly family who aren't the type to say disrespectful things, especially since we're set on the name. No negative comments yet!

Maplebear · January 2010

We are not telling anyone our name (when we figure it out) because people don't think before they speak, especially in our family. When we announce the name after he is born, they really won't be able to say much about it.

We are just going to tell people that we are going to announce the name after the birth because we don't want it critiqued by anyone, and we want there to be a little bit of a surprise since we announced the sex already.

aerobaby · January 2010

we are revealing the name when we reveal the sex at our Gender Reveal party Feb 13th! How i'm going to do it is, get little blue and pink gift boxes, and make copies of the ultrasound pic and write the name on it... and let them open it to find out!

buddhagouda · January 2010

We're telling everyone. We haven't gotten any negative comments, but I don't care if we do. It's not going to make me change my mind.

haleybeth81 · January 2010

We told everyone with DD and with this LO (the boy and girl name). With DD I had several people actually tell me I was being mean naming her that (her name is Hylis Anne which is my gm name and DH's gm name) and I pretty much told them this was her name and it wasn't going to change. Now everyone loves my girl name for this LO but hate the boy name (Ruth Elizabeth after family again and William (Liam) Padrig which was DH's choice and I like it). Someone is going to say something no matter what you call LO so if you're very sensitive I would wait. If you know that's what your DS will be called and nothing will change it then tell. HTH

prego760 · January 2010

Yes we refer to baby as the name and since we have so many pregnant friends right now we wanted to make sure everyone knew this name was taken.

CD+AL · January 2010

We didn't share DS' name until after he was born, and we'll do the same thing this time. It was a great decision, especially b/c there were a couple of lukewarm reactions to it (Henry) as it was, but by that point, it was his name. Plus, this time we told everyone what we are having, so it's the only surprise left. If someone asks, we just say that we haven't decided for sure yet (true) and that we want it to be a surprise after DD is born (true). For the most part, everyone drops it at that point. If anything, they offer unsolicited but easy to handle suggestions.

daisy_girl75 · January 2010

I have a name picked out but DH is still thinking on it and I've told when people ask. I've picked Abigail Marie. And it comes with mixed reviews but I don't really care what anyone else thinks, either.

I know, it's hard. Everyone wants to give advice, suggestions, or just be rude and say they don't like it. I strongly believe that everyone is entitled to their opinion but I don't have to agree with it and that's what I tell them when they say something rude. I think you should do what is comfortable to you though.

P.S. I think Finn Edward is adorable. :-)

lois0011 · January 2010

We aren't sharing, most of our names are very unique and I would like to avoid opinions!

BTW I like your name choice!

Kel&Jay · January 2010

We're still trying to decide whether or not we'll tell people the name we've chosen. But several of our friends are expecting LOs around the same time so we may end up telling just to avoid two of us chosing the same name.

Also, I LOVE Finn. It was one of the names we'd picked if we were having a boy.

NiceAsstra · January 2010

We're not telling people really- except for our 3 friends that are pg as well. We want to 'claim' the name so to speak.

MrsBNDO · January 2010

We probably won't share, but if pressed - maybe. However, our family and friends have shown great tact in the past re: our name choices, so I would suspect that even if they hated the name, they'd be able to temper their reactions accordingly.

mrsnuss2b · January 2010

We're not sharing...my in laws (MIL, SILs, BIL) have been asking repeatedly and while it's awkward to deny them, they have been so in my face about the entire pregnancy that I know they will have feedback...not to mention that BIL and SIL have called "dibs" on two names (they are not pregnant). So, we've got names picked out and when people ask we just say "Oh, we've got some names in the mix...we're getting close to agreeing!" And then we just smile and change the subject. It is totally up to you, but even my twin sis (the closest person to me next to DH) couldn't help herself with suggesting names after I bounced a couple ideas off of her...

CanonMom · January 2010

yes we wound up telling everyone because our families like to give personalized gifts.

Also we have TONS of pregnant mommies on our local forum, and I really wanted to let them know Brynn was taken (even though its not common..)

jwoods6056 · January 2010

We are telling people now that we decided. And, we have had no negative comments at all. Both names (first & middle) are family names from both of our families so everyone seems to like it.

cutie420311 · January 2010

I'm not telling anyone. I don't want their opinions. people at work ask me all the time, i tell them it's none of their business.

cdc1982 · January 2010

We haven't picked names yet but we've known since day 1 that we weren't going to share the name until after the baby is born. We want it to be a surprise & we really don't want to hear peoples opinions of the name where they try to get us to change it before the baby is born. We're hoping that the knowledge that the name is on the BC will help cut down on some of those annoying opinions ^_^

sucrets4 · January 2010

aerobaby:
we are revealing the name when we reveal the sex at our Gender Reveal party Feb 13th! How i'm going to do it is, get little blue and pink gift boxes, and make copies of the ultrasound pic and write the name on it... and let them open it to find out!

People really do this?

megdrew1218 · January 2010

SoldiersGreenBean:

We're not sharing until they're here.

I don't want negative comments or 'helpful' suggestions.

This.

It's harder to look at a precious baby, then look up and say something bad. Easier to be negative if it's still in womb.

mysticporter · January 2010

We were pretty sure certain family members would be outspoken about name choices, so we didn't tell them until after DD was born. We just didn't want to deal with feedback at that point. We've got the same plan now.

JenCrabbe13 · January 2010

When people ask, we tell. We came up with a boy's name a few years ago, so we are set with the name. No one has said that they didn't like the name, but I don't think that I would care if they did say something.

hroyer1998 · January 2010

We are telling people our planned names and have generally received a positive response. At the end of the day if someone was like "I don't like those names" I would say "well then don't name your kids with that name". I could give two hoots what people think.

preppynewlywed · January 2010

Everyone knows the names we picked. We've had them picked forever.

No one has said anything, but then again, we've picked two really classic names.

I want things monogrammed, so I had to spill the beans.

And Ketch · January 2010

We're not sharing because:

1 - I don't want anyone's opinions. Our names really aren't unique but you never know.

2 - We're honoring people with them and some are still alive, so we want that to be a surprise.

ChristinaD09 · January 2010

Our families would have been outspoken about the name, so I was pretty nervous. They had clearly not been that thrilled with our girl name choice, back when we thought it would be a girl (I think because it was very similar to one of the cousin's babies name)--so after that, I thought I wouldn't want to tell anyone.

But once we came up with the name after finding out we were having a boy, we started to gradually tell the family, and it spread like wildfire pretty much that night. We haven't had any negative comments--everyone has said they love it. I think Grandpa may have been a little heartbroken we didn't name the baby after him, actually, but he never said that explicitly, and he would have had to deal with it at some point--I guess better now than at the birth.

MrsDCruz · January 2010

We already told everyone (Daniel John after his father and both of his Granfathers)... DH's sister gave us a lot of crap about it (Jealousy I think) but I pretty much told her that we didnt give a rip about what she thought and she has better get over and keep her nasty comments to herself or she would not be included in anything related to her nephew at all... shut her right up.

MrsAmyB · January 2010

SoldiersGreenBean:

We're not sharing until they're here.

I don't want negative comments or 'helpful' suggestions.

This. We did it last time too. We feel it was the best decision we made.

bells039 · January 2010

buddhagouda:

We're telling everyone. We haven't gotten any negative comments, but I don't care if we do. It's not going to make me change my mind.

This

Bride2b2004 · January 2010

NO! We will not tell our name. You will find that people do not mind being very outspoken regarding potential names. Once the baby is here and named, you can expect acceptance, but there is a whole different attitude about potential names.

You *think* you won't change your name because of something s/o says, but people might say things that you can't get out of your head. I guarantee that the name choice of Finn will generate mixed feedback and the negative will dampen your excitement, get on your nerves and may even "ruin" the name for you. If you are serious about the name, I would advise that you keep it between the two of you. Also, what if he is born and doesn't look like a Finn? It just isn't worth the drama to overshare now. Besides, it is nice to leave something a surprise for when the baby comes.

To answer your last Q: We told my brother ruined our girl's name choice (Amanda) by saying something stupid and annoying that I cannot get out of my head. We handled it by not mentioning any real name choices again... we were dumb enough to tell him, so he gave his feedback, which I am still ticked off about.

sing4him2 · January 2010

We picked the names a long time ago, but decided not to tell because DH's family is too opinionated and we just don't care what they think.

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