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I'm such a horrible person....

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Awhile back I posted on here about a friend that told me she was ku! I vented about how her and her DH were planning to get ku and are not ready for kids cause he can't keep a steady job and smokes weed! Also they dont live in a clean environment to bring up a kid with 4 dogs that rule the house!

Well i got a kicked in the asss last night... I ran into her at a bar and she was drinking!!??Huh? Here she lost the baby at New Years and this was her 1st time out of the house! OMG... I am such an asss!! I feel horrible now that I said any of that... I just feel awful!!! 

 

Please tell me it wasn't my fault!! And I am a dumbass for saying that about a friend...something! She doesn't know I said or thought such things... but I just feel like crap now.

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  • shall923shall923 member
    It is not your fault. You didn't cause her to lose her baby. I understand why you think that is not a good environment for a baby. I have said that about more than one person in my life. Sometimes that is just the truth. I do hope your friend finds comfort but you shouldn't blame yourself.
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  • GinaincaliGinaincali member
    oh honey!  It wasn't your fault not at all!  ::hugs::
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  • JillwithaniJillwithani member
    It's not anyone's fault it happened. We all know there is no rhyme or reason and no way to physically "jinx" a pregnancy. Don't feel like crap though, did you talk to her about your loses so she doesn't feel all alone?
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  • Mrs.EmmaLouiseMrs.EmmaLouise member

    The same thing has happened to me.  And since her m/c I stopped thinking about other peoples pregnanices that way.

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  • travers081906travers081906

    imageJillwithani:
    It's not anyone's fault it happened. We all know there is no rhyme or reason and no way to physically "jinx" a pregnancy. Don't feel like crap though, did you talk to her about your loses so she doesn't feel all alone?
    I just feel bad cause I said those things behind her back, ya know...

    we txt a little... its still to new for her to talk about in public, i didnt want to make her cry in a bar!! Plus this was her 1st time out since it happened...so I stayed off the subject unless she said something. 

    Thing that sucks is she found out all she needed was progesterone pill... I guess she tried to tell her DR that she needed it and he said no...so she switched DR's and by the time she had her appt. she lost her baby...

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  • BlindysWifeBlindysWife member
    Awww hon, nothing you said would've changed the outcome for her. Big hugs!

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  • schen0510schen0510
    It is totally not your fault.  She went through something horrible, which we all know, and now the best thing you can do is comfort her.  You know what it is like, how hard it can be, and she totally needs a friend that understands.  We all say things in the heat of the moment.  I sure know I do!  Stay strong and be there for her!  ((Hugs))
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  • mamaholicmamaholic member

    I am so sorry. I know you know in your heart of hearts it's not your fault. You know as well as any of us that it could happen to anyone -- even someone with the best of intentions, in the best environment, with the best timing.

    Just be there for your friend and show her support like you are so good at here. 

    ((((hugs))))

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  • triple_sevenstriple_sevens member
    Not your fault AT ALL. Give her love and support now when she needs it and you can do it. That will make up for the uncharitable thoughts you had before.
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  • butterfly843butterfly843
    Sending hugs, it isn't your fault and you aren't a horrible person.

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