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So tired of visitors!!
We have had visitors practically every day since we brought DD home from the hospital. I hate telling people they can't come see her, but I think we are going to have to draw the line.
And just when I thought that DH and I were going to get some time alone with DD, he invited his mother to spend the night with us while we were out for supper tonight!! Now I'm sitting here while she is holding my baby and I'm folding our laundry, awesome Saturday night.
Ok, vent over.
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Re: So tired of visitors!!
ooh take advantage of that now! i wish i had someone to come hold LO so i could do.......ANYTHING! lol. we had famiy here last week and i cleaned the house, did all the laundry, took a nap, took a bath, walked the dog, did the dishes......you get the point.
now no one is here, and my house is a mess and i have about 5 loads of laundry piled in my hallway.
and it's 1230 and i am waiting for this stupid load of CD's to finish so i can put them in the dryer. blaaah. you could always send your visitors my way! 
KICK HER OUT!
I seriously resented MIL the first week we were home she was here 3 days and the only time I got to hold my son was feeding time. Not exactly what I wanted. Seriously VISITORS need to understand that if they want to see the baby, they should sit and do laundry while YOU hold your baby. YOU did the work bringing them into the world, not them!
Sorry as you can see I have some frustration too
Be the mama bear and put up limits! This is an important bonding time for your new family. People will understand that you need some quiet time alone. And if they don't, screw them. Seriously.
I know how you feel. Our family lives out of state, and we told them we wanted a month to bond with our baby before anyone came to visit. However, the baby was over 2 weeks late, and I had to have an emergency c-section, so I was in the hospital for a few extra days, and we only had a week alone before the visitors started. First my mom, who was here for a week, then mother in law, who was here for a week, and she invited her husband and daughter for the weekend, without even asking us first. They all stayed in our house! By the end of that second week, I was ready to punch someone, I didn't get a chance to even hold my baby unless he was eating, and they didn't help at ALL with any housework, and I was still trying to recover from the surgery. All they did was get in the way and hog the baby.
We're not letting anyone else come and visit ever again, well, at least not to stay in our home. We're actually moving into a smaller apartment just to deter visitors, and asking them to stay in a hotel. I'd gladly pay for a hotel for them to stay in as long as they stayed out of my face. And definitely not for a week, if they want to visit, I think I can only handle a day or two at a time. UGH!
We had this too - for 3 full weeks. We finally started telling people NO. You have to get rest!!!!!!! And your baby is only that tiny for a nanosecond. Enjoy it!! If your MIL wants to be there w/ your week old baby, SHE should be folding the laundry so YOU can hang out w/ the LO!!
I learned VERY quickly with DD#1 that most people completely loose their minds when it comes to babies. They stop thinking about what's best for mommy and baby, and think only of what they want (to hold the baby). This time around we have been really strict with visitors, and actually told the ILs NO when they asked to visit yesterday (my MIL is the 'hold the baby while I work' kind of person).
You need to set limits, especially with your MIL if she doesn't seem to get it. I still resent mine for the fact that she and FIL (along with SIL) came and stayed for 6 hours when DD#1 wasn't even 24 hours old....she held DD the whole time (except when I needed to feed), and left DH to get me dinner etc (because I was not really supposed to be up and around).
Ugh, this was/is my biggest frustration right now too! People just don't think...come over to our house, make a mess for us to clean up when you leave, eat our food-no don't bring any for us, and hold our baby for hours. I'm sick of the lack of consideration, I guess.
I think we need to start telling people NO, or asking them to do dishes, bring food, help around the house, or whatever when they come over instead of just creating a bigger mess for us.
We had our baby Dec 9th. We only had immediate family at the hosptial.
After coming home, we didn't have any visitors until after Christmas, since we wanted our bonding time with our son. My DH's family came out from Texas for Christmas so they were the only ones that visited along with the few people in my family. All our friends understood. It was nice not having people over for a while