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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
s/o interracial relationships...if you are in one
do you get negative comments, looks, etc? I was surprised in the polls below people were saying they got some stares, etc. I've been with my husband for 5 years and no one has ever looked at us sideways or made a comment about it. Maybe its only an issue in certain parts of the country?
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Re: s/o interracial relationships...if you are in one
nope,but it's only b/c i "don't look" mexican/native american. b/c you know, we all look alike
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upon moving to southern va i've also been told "but you don't look like the tobacco farm mexicans"
i can't believe anyone thinks it's 'okay" to actually say the word vomit that comes forth.
We've never got any comments. At least, none that we are aware of.
Sydney, born 11.26.08
Not comments but looks from strangers (live in DC). No one really looked at us when we lived in California or Canada or the UK. People do gawk like hell in DC (but we live in a very white part of NW DC).
Comments only come as accidental backhanded compliments/observations from acquaintances... things like "well your DH isn't really BLACK black, you know..." and I have to point out he has a little black mummy who who say differently... then they point out effectively that he's successful and not a criminal.... awesome... (then say he's not a criminal, not that he's 'not black'... ) and Dh's Thai side of the family wondered out loud why our baby "is white" (has red hair and blue eyes... um genetics???) because older asian people seem to assume that babies will get "all the dark" as they say... ummm noooo...
i have been given bad service in asian restaurants (japanese and vietnamese in the DC/northern VA area and chinese in chicago) when eating with my husband (who is filipino).
those are the only times when it has been blatant. interestingly enough, we have never gotten a second look in my itty-bitty, 99.9% white hometown.
We have gotten looks and stares but no one really says anything, which is good because I won't tolerate it. When I notice others stare, I usually smile at them and say "Hello" really loud which embarasses them because they got caught. I have had other guys say "Couldn't you find a nice white guy> or do you only date black men? I try to ignore the ignorance of others. I feel that I am above it.
People are just really rude. You would think that by 2010, people would have gotten over the issue with black/white or any biracial marriages. Sad.
I am basically just c&ping my response from another thread. Their have been many times when J and I have gone out in public I have gotten EVIL stares from Hispanic women. They will also talk about me and not think I am understanding what they are saying. It has gotten worse since I had PD as well. But, I live in Houston and a lot of times when this happens is when we go to the meat markets or taqueria's (which is where I ALWAYS want to go, he HATES them). The worse is when we went to San Antino, the looks we got on the riverwalk were bad.
But to answer your question VV from the other thread, I think the reason why we might get it more here then you would have in NYC is because J LOOKS Mexican, you wouldn't think he was from Cuba, PR or ES. And the people from those countries never give us a 2nd glance. It is the people of Mexican heritage. I should have made that clearer above. Sorry.
Morgan is super cute! I'm Vietnamese and my husband and caucasian and the only comments we receive are mostly positive (our daughter is so cute..LOL- best of both worlds etc)! We do get some weird stares when we're in China Town but thats because he's 5"10 about 250 lbs and i'm 4"8 and 90 lbs but I blame that on how very different we look in size!
But to be honest with you, I was shocked at the reaction of my IL's when our neice (early 20's, on my DS side) had a baby who is half African-American. I love that little girl who is 1 year older than my daughter and she is really sweet; but, for some reason my IL's were treating her very differently to my own daughter. My late MIL (who I got along fantastically with) would often wring her nose whenever her great grandchilds name was brought up, and for Christmas they would either buy her a crappy small present or "forget" about her. My BIL didn't even want to pitch in for a present so I always made sure WE got her something nice and she was invited to our family events!! It was really sad. Her mother doesnt visit mucyh and is often not invited to family events but to be fair our neice also didnt really call or visit my MIL alot so their relationship was always not so strong to begin with. It just doesn't make it right though...