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s/o: Would DH's parents have picked YOU?
Ali's post got me thinking. If your DH's parents were to pick someone for him, would it have been you? Why or why not? Who would they have chosen for him?
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Re: s/o: Would DH's parents have picked YOU?
BWAHAHAHAHA
Considering his mom was still trying to set him up on dates with Jewish girls after we had already been dating for five years, I think it's a resounding NO to that question.
This. It was a rocky road to get to where we are now, which still isn't the best situation.
If you were to ask my ILs NOW if they would have picked me, then I think they'd say yes. But if you'd asked them while DH and I were dating if I were the right girl for him, they might have said no. My ILs are very "East Coast" yankee-ish, from Connecticut. They really didn't like the fact that DH moved to Texas because it was so far away, and I think their whole image of someone from Texas was VERY stereotypical. DH said that when he told them he was dating a girl here, they were sort of skeptical about the fact that I was originally a Texan. I think they thought they were going to meet me and I'd be some kind of big-haired, overly made-up pageant queen who raised pigs as a talent.
Lucky for them I am not the stereotypical Texan, and DH and I are a good match. They came to love me very quickly and we now have a wonderful relationship, and they see that DH and I are very well suited to each other.
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anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
ditto. Except my big clue (or one of them anyway) is that they still don't get my name right...after 13 years together. And there are a whopping four letters in it.
DH is into eating healthy and working out and he's a lot smaller now than he was in college. I swear they think I'm starving him!
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THIS. Except for my ILs wanted someone Methodist. Or really someone other than me would've done just fine. But after 6+ years, they're getting to the point where they'll speak to me, so I'm not complaining.
No way, DH's mom doesn't really appreciate my sarcasm, she also doesn't seem to understand that her son is usually pretty sarcastic though.
They also probably would have chosen someone in the medical field for him, instead of someone who runs for the hills at the sight of blood. But I don't think they really hold that against me, they more think it's funny. Most of the women in his family are nurses
Not a chance!!!
I'm sure they wanted some sweet little country girl who cooks and cleans and submits to her husband.
They got a crazy girl from Houston, from a broken home and a family full of issues (we compare my family to his as the Osbournes and the Bradys!). I am a strong person who does not just submit to DH and I think they feel like I've probably corrupted him, taken him from his family, etc etc.
And I KNOW they think I'm a whack job of a mom - I mean, CDing, BWing, not starting solids until 6 months when they wanted us to start at 3.. I'm sure they're horrified. I get passive-aggressive comments about it from them all the time. Or things like "Well.. that's interesting".
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Hard to say. They've always been nice to my face and were okay that I had a kid....in fact they were too okay with it. It was actually really creepy, they wanted Jakob to call them Grandma and Grandpa before we were even engaged. They would have picked a girl who would have been extremely grateful for their acceptance. Instead they got me, who neither was looking for acceptance or needed it.
Waiiiit, whaaat? You're not? Well ***. There goes my whole image of you.
Yeah, that'd be a big fat NO. I still think his mom would've tried to marry him herself if it was legal.
Ha! MF would have totally would have picked me.
My MIL would have picked me, too. My BIL just got married over New Years and in her speech during the reception she mentioned that she really loved her first DIL (me) and so she couldn't wait to get to know her new one. Awwww.
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This. I suspect that she thought he was going to be her "retirement fund". I suspect that she wanted him to marry someone that had no family of her own so that SHE could be her new mommy. I suspect that she wanted him to marry someone who had no brains and was submissive to her husband so that SHE could do all the planning, run his household, and make all the decisions (for her son). And I am SURE she didn't appreciate him marrying out of his race...but I can't really fault her for that because even *my* parents had a problem with that...generations...
Looks like I am the only yes here. DH's parents LOVE me and always have. I think they would have picked someone just like me for him if given the chance. In fact, when it took DH 8 years to propose, FIL told him that he was going to marry me himself if DH didn't go ahead and propose.
My parents picking DH....hmmm.....that's whole other story that does not have the same P&R feel.
Maybe, if I were Catholic. I think they also think I'm too sensitive. But I do think they like me.
ETA: I do know they think I'm right for DH, and that they love the way I support him.
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I think so. I met all the criteria: Jewish, college educated, loved their son.
Funny; my XILs loved me. Like, more than at least one of their own daughters, I think.
It became a joke among my family and friends how XMIL would always say "Of ALL the girls (XH) dated, you're the best one."
I, on the other hand, would never have chosen them.
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DH's mom and stepdad love me. DH jokes that they love me more than they love him. They were the types to say to DH, "If you don't marry this girl, you are crazy." In my recent birthday card, they said that they cannot imagine life without me. Aw.
I think DH's dad would prefer that DH had married someone more submissive to DH who wanted to stay home with kids and talk about Mercedes SUVs, Lulu Lemon gym clothes, and Pottery Barn pillows all day with the rest of the family. DH's stepmom would prefer all of that plus she wishes that I were from somewhere in Latin America and that we lived in California. I know that they think I am good for DH, though.
NO. However, I don't think there is a girl in the world she would have picked. She didn't raise him, but all the sudden is all into family and treats him like a baby and now that he's living a nice life, she wants to take all the credit and always talks about what a great job she did raising him. Except she lived in another state ...
Oh did I get off topic?
AND ... welcome to my run on sentence.
Ha. Same here! During the last presidential election, I tried to keep my mouth shut as long as possible around his family because I knew I would be alone in my opinions -- but eventually people figured out how I was voting and FIL spent a good deal of that evening trying to convince me that voting was pointless because DH's vote would just "cancel mine out". Nice try. I voted and they were appalled with the party I supported. I have never been given such looks of disgust in my life. It was great. Ugh.
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ummmm. i don't think so.
i would probably be hispanic, and more of an open book. I think DH's family thinks I'm secretive because I don't feel comfortable opening up about everything. I know they love me, and I know they know DH and I are good for eachother - and that's half the battle... so I'm happy.
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