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veebug22
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If you drank before you knew you were PG...
veebug22
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I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance or thoughts from others who have spoken to their OBs about this.
I drank quite a bit over the holidays and in early January because of people coming over for dinner, staying with us, attending parties, etc. I would say 4-5 times a week I was drinking 1-2 glasses of wine, but there were also a couple nights where I was definitely a little drunk and happy. There were usually 2 days a week where I wasn't drinking at all. Excessive, I know, but it was the holidays and there was a lot of social drinking going on. I thought I knew when I ovulated (mid-Dec), I took a number of tests between 10-15 days later that were all negative, so by late Dec I figured I was not PG and drank at a couple social events along with wine in the evenings with dinner.
Because we are military I have to go into our military healthcare center and be seen by the "wellness" lady before getting a referral to an OB. She says I'm 8 weeks along going off of my last period, but I know I have very long cycles and I think I'm actually about 6 weeks. That would still mean that after conception, there are about 3 weeks in there from late Dec to mid-Jan that I didn't know I was PG and drinking a fair amount. The lady was asking about this, and giving me a hard time, asking why I would do that if I thought I was PG. Well, I didn't know I was PG. Well were you on BCP? No. Well then you should have realized that you could be and not done that. You weren't thinking. Why were you drinking that much? Well, it was the holidays, I had negative PG tests, and we were attending social events and hosting dinners, etc. Then she goes on to say that they try not to give people a hard time about the drinking, but I do need to know that drinking can cause damage to the baby, and that I shouldn't be drinking during my pregnancy. I told her, again, I have not touched alcohol nor had the desire to since getting the positive test, but I didn't know before. I was almost in tears. Listen lady, do you not THINK that I am concerned about this already? But there's nothing I can do about it now, and I would NOT have done it if I thought I were PG and hadn't taken numerous tests that said negative and had no symptoms to speak of at that point!
Anyway, I guess I just wanted to rant about this insensitive woman, but now I feel quite guilty and am a bit more concerned that I might really have had some potentially terrible effect on the baby. Has anyone been in a similar situation and talked to their OB? I know that drinking in the first 2 weeks after conception isn't as much of a serious concern and happens frequently, but I obviously drank for a week or two after that, depending on how far along I turn out to be, and I know at least one of those nights I was fairly tipsy 
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Re: If you drank before you knew you were PG...
You're fine! Don't worry, just don't keep drinking :-)
A friend of mine didn't know she was pg until she was 8 weeks, and drank up until that point. THe OB told her not to worry. She just had her baby and all is well!
I'm so sorry you had that experience. I drank before I knew I was pg with DS and had a glass of wine the night before I tested. Just because you aren't on BCP doesn't mean you need to refrain from drinking. DS took 7 months to conceive and trust me I was drinking until I got that positive test.
BTW - I'm in CT as well.
I agree- I wouldn't worry about it. My SIL didn't know she was pg with my nephew and it was over the holidays. She was freaked out b/c she was pretty drunk on New Years but she had a perfectly healthy baby.
DUE with Baby #2 on 10/26/14
There are many girls that follow the 'drink 'til it's pink' motto, myself included. From what I've heard and read, the baby is not getting anything from you prior to six weeks along. Relax, as long as you're not drinking now that you know, you'll be fine.
Edited to add: I got pretty drunk at a holiday party about a week before I found out.
Don't worry about it, it happens all the time. I was drinking like a rockstar before I found out due to the holidays and friends and relatives being in town (this was an unplanned pregnancy and we use protection, so I had absolutely no reason to think I was pregnant!)
I was really worried at first, but it was explained to me that pretty much any drinking you do in the first 6 weeks will have no effect on the embryo - the first two weeks you aren't pregnant yet, the next week or two the embryo is not implanted or is in the process of implantation, and then the next two weeks after that the embryo is still living off the yolk sac, and isn't really 'hooked up' to receive any toxins from the mother yet. Knowing that made me feel MUCH better.
So congratulations, don't stress, and enjoy your pregnancy!I was in the same boat. Found out when I was 6 weeks and had no reason to think I was PG since I was on the Pill. Had quite a few drinks between conception and then. I couldn't even get very excited when I found out because I was so worried about the drinking I'd done. I talked to my OB about it and she said if I'd really drank enough to do harm, I probably would have miscarried. I had an u/s at 11 weeks and so far so good. I'm not even worried about it now, especially since I can't do anything to change it!
Stop worrying, you're baby will be OK!
DD (my first) was a surprise pregnancy and I had NO idea I was pregnant... I definitely had quite a bit to drink from the time of conception to the time I tested positive. The doctor told me not to worry about it, I wasn't even sharing blood with her yet (until around 6 weeks or so). She was fine - no problems during the pregnancy, birth and even now and she's 3.
Just don't drink anymore and you should be fine!
hahaha.. i was on vacation before finding out i was pregnant, i drank about a bottle of wine a day for a week. i also smoked a couple joints too. read "what to expect"book and it tells you that if you did this or that before you found it, its completly fine. just dont keep doing it!!!