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Your thoughts? Maybe I am a bit... biased?

r9stedtr9stedt
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STBXH and I split about two months ago.   Until recently, he hasn't wanted much to do with L -our son.

 

New years weekend he kept him Sunday & Monday night-- However he wanted to bring him home Monday because STBXH was tired and needed sleep before work. I told him if he couldn't handle it, bring him home, but I already had plans.  He kept him.

Next weekend, kept him Sunday night.

This past weekend, he was to keep him Saturday night and Sunday night (He offered).  Then when he picked him up, he told me that he might take him over to MIL's (who is our DCP) bc SIL's FI was celebrating his 21st bday.   (Did you catch all that ;) ) I was irritated because I could have just kept him.  I had already made plans, and yes, I could have cancelled, but geez.   He went on to tell me he wasn't for sure yet, etc, etc.    Well, he ended up being at the same place I was Saturday night.   Whatever.   At noon he still hadn't picked him up from MIL's.

He just texted me "I can watch L saturday night and sunday night".  

I'm trying to refrain myself from saying "Are you going to take him to your mom's?"    I don't want things to get sticky.  I am waiting on the lawyer to actually file papers.   

 

IDK.... I can't tell if he actually misses L, or if he just wants to look like a good parent.   SIGH.   I find it sad that I even have to worry about that.

 

I'm rambling.

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Re: Your thoughts? Maybe I am a bit... biased?

  • inbetweeninbetween

    Honestly, I feel like the only reason h comes to see dd the 2, 30-45 minute visits that he comes a week is simply to not look like a bad father.

    I don't know about your personal situation, but it has become very clear that H simply isn't ready to be a father yet. Until we go to court, he will not have visits outside of the home that I am living in.

    I wish guys felt half of the emotions that females do...maybe just maybe they would be a little better then they are.

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  • r9stedtr9stedt
    See, I know he is perfectly capable of being a good father.  I'm just thinking his reasoning behind why doing is is wrong.   Make sense?
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  • MelandJeffMelandJeff

    And, as far as his motives for WHY, dont even worry about it. The important thing is that he IS.

    It, no matter why, is good for L. Plain and simple.

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  • r9stedtr9stedt
    imageMelandJeff:

    And, as far as his motives for WHY, dont even worry about it. The important thing is that he IS.

    It, no matter why, is good for L. Plain and simple.

    That is a FABULOUS way of looking at it.   Thanks, slore. ;)

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  • meghan_mariemeghan_marie member
    Because all he is and all he ever will be is a sperm donor. I'd be pis*ed if Josh took LO over to his mother's so he could go out for the night. Why even ask for the kid if you aren't going to even see him?? I personally would cancel any and all plans to be with my child, especially if he didn't live with me! That's BS. He's just stupid.
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