Anyone else just not a baby person?

wheelenl · January 2010

I never realized I wasn't really a baby person until DS #1 was born. I love him and new DS, but the baby phase is not only frustrating but also it bores me. Of course he's sweet, etc. but I see my cute 3yo and frankly I can't wait for this one to be about 18 months old.I don't look back and wish my preschooler were still a baby for a second.

I know it will get better when he STTN, communicates for real, etc. But boy, I am done.

alybookgirl · January 2010

I thought I was a baby person until I had DD. The repetitiveness of taking care of a small baby is kind of boring. She STTN so I am rested and ready to go each day but she doesn't do much but smile and coo. I find myself looking forward to when she's older and can play, talk, etc. I love how snuggly she is, but cannot wait for her to be able to sit up and hold her toys, etc.

SamsMom91 · January 2010

Thank you for writing this. I also thought I was a baby person until DS1 was mine to take care of all the time. Now that he's 2, I'm finding him much more fun. My 8 week old (our second sons were born on the same day) is driving me up the wall with his colic. I just want him to be Samuel's age like TOMORROW.

We may have another baby, at which point I'm sure I'll be looking forward to that one's toddlerhood, too.

We may get flamed, but go ahead....I have my flame retardant jammies on.

etude de la vie · January 2010

Thank you for posting this! I was just telling DH how I dislike the newborn phase. I am so sick of bouncing, standing, swaying, and my arms/back is killing me. Newborns are boring..... I get excited when she smiles but overall I wish she could at least grab something or sit somewhere.

and yes with colic & this reflux I am just DONE.... I am counting down the days until 3 months hoping it all goes away and she can start to interact with me a little more (and be a little happier).

SeaStar430 · January 2010

I was never a baby person before I got pregnant, and I'm still not now. But in a different way than you are saying...I never liked kids much either. But I knew I'd be obsessed with my own, and I am, and having one has made me appreciate and understand others infinitely more.

This is my first so I can't compare this to an older stage, but it is promising that it gets much better, I think it's pretty great now but I'm SO ready for her to start doing more!

MrsPatterson · January 2010

I always thought I was a baby person too! Turns out I'm not so much. I love my DS like crazy and smile like an idiot when he is smiling and laughing, but he doesn't do that too often. Most of the time, if he's awake, he's fussy. But I don't even think that I'd like the baby stage if he was happy all the time. I'm getting really sick of people asking me how I'm doing, then telling me not to wish the time away when I give them an even remotely honest answer.

woolgathered · January 2010

I am so glad you asked this. I have been feeling so guilty about not being a baby person! I just can't wait until he can communicate a little bit better - something other than crying or whatever.

Scooter359 · January 2010

I was the opposite. I thought I wasnt a baby person until I had Mason. At first it was hard, but now that he coos,smiles and is more interactive, its so easy to make him happy I dont want it to change.

I have two step daughters, the tantrums they throw and the fighting, I cant stand it, talking back. They are in that emotional stage so they do this all the time. Dont get me wrong, I love them to death though. but I want my baby to be like this for as long as possible.

Hilabeanz · January 2010

Yep, I'm not a baby person. I don't know what I'd do without DD to constantly make me smile and laugh and take my mind off of how miserable DS is with his reflux, colic or whatever his "issue of the day" is.

nmc29 · January 2010

Not at all.

I love DS, but I can't wait until he's more independent and interactive. I live for the day when I can plop him down and he can play on his own for a little bit.

sophiet496 · January 2010

Yes, thanks for posting this! It makes me feel better. I am always thinking how I can't wait for DS to be older. He's been a challenging baby in that he isn't napping and is generally cranky most of the day. He doesn't like to be held very much unless I'm walking laps around the house which isn't very fun for me! I also love the smiles and giggles, but otherwise, I feel like my days are one giant gamee of "try to keep LO from crying" and bottles, laundry, and diapers, oh my! I can't wait until he's more content and able to do more.

jmac22 · January 2010

I could've written this post....3 1/2 years old is so much better than 6 1/2 weeks old! I seriously think this all the time!

ohamtobe · January 2010

I am definitely NOT a newborn person at all! The newborn phase is such an exhausting grind with very little reward, and though in the big scheme of things it does pass relatively quickly, when you are in the thick of it, it seems like it is never going to end. I find that I am reminding myself more and more that it won't last forever. But some days (and nights!), it is really, really hard. I definitely enjoy it more the older they get, though there are also many days when I can go without the terrible 2's that DD#1 seems to be going through! Smile

nickicl · January 2010

SeaStar430:

I was never a baby person before I got pregnant, and I'm still not now. But in a different way than you are saying...I never liked kids much either. But I knew I'd be obsessed with my own, and I am, and having one has made me appreciate and understand others infinitely more.

This is my first so I can't compare this to an older stage, but it is promising that it gets much better, I think it's pretty great now but I'm SO ready for her to start doing more!

This!

mjaye97 · January 2010

I think this is the best post I have ever seen on the bump! It makes me feel so much better! A few weeks ago my MIL asked me if I liked having a baby in the house again and she looked at me like I had 3 heads when I told her that I'll like it when DS is older. I felt bad when my niece was born because I wasn't all excited and wanting to hold her all of the time, but I'm just not a baby person. Truth be told I look forward to going back to work.

Heavncentt · January 2010

WOW, good post! I have always wanted to be a Mom, love babies and kids. We tried for a long time and finally have our first. I am quite surprised at how freakin hard this newborn stage truly is. I thought I would be loving it and be so happy, but most of the time I am in constant "survival" mode. I look forward to him being a bit older so that I can take him to play, talk to him, etc. Don't get me wrong, I adore this little guy and live for every moment. But, the constant lack of sleep, eating every 2-3 hours, and general fussiness I am so done with. I just want him to sleep more solid stretches through the night so that I can feel normal again. He is the cutest little guy but his "playing when its time to eat" and the "witching hour" each afternoon wear on my nerves. Whewww, thank you for this post and for letting me vent even if others might flame us for our thoughts. Some days I feel like such a bad Mom for feeling this way. My DH says it is just because he doesn't do much right now, it will pass and he will be more fun.