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stbxh is badmouthing me on fb...

lnbohaclnbohac
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stbxh and I were in contact all weekend (despite the no contact order).  Grnated, I was the one to email him first but is was due to an esclating issue with parenting time.  He decided to take that one communication and run with it.  By the sunday he almost had me convinced that I shoud give him another chance, that maybe the girl he is charged with raping really was just a tramp, etc.  He was so charming all weekend, and I was a total basketcase (just like how I was for most of our marriage).  Finally broke down and told my parents ant they talked some sense into me.  One weekend of being caring and complementary can't erase two years of being unhappy, the mind games he likes to play with me, and generally draining my accounts dry with his "big ideas".  So sunday night I called him in front of my parents to tell him that I was going through with the divorce and to not talk to to me.  My dad even called him and told him he would report him to the prosecutor if he contacts me again.

So then he calls me at work on monday asking if I was serious about not wanting to talk to him.  I said yes and hung up.  Then he emails an old high school friend of mine on fb (he only met her once for an hour over thanksgiving) saying that he didn't realize how hurt I was by him cheating and that he wanted me to be happy, blah blah blah.  She forwarded me his email.  Then he emailed my dad saying that we made all these decisions about how to rent/sell the condo we lived in (Um, I didn't agree to any of his big ideas).  So, I decided to do the right thing and tell the prosecutor about this past weekend.  They are very disapointed in me for contacting him but that doesn't change anything for the case (he did tell me his side of the story).  I'm assuming that he has gotten wind that the prosecutor has revoked his bond because on fb he posted a status update saying that My dad and I are low lifes and one day our son will know exactly what we did to him (stbxh) that wrecked his life.  Um, last time I checked, he wrecked his own life. 

I just needed to get this out.  Thanks!

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  • peeps61308peeps61308 member
    I am so sorry about all of this. I know how easy it can be to get caught up in all this mess, but he is accused of rape for God's sake. There is NOTHING that he can say to help you get past that. Your son deserves better!! Hope everything works out for you!
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  • nbjenninbjenni
    Take him off your friends list and block him. This is what I did to my stbxh.
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  • lnbohaclnbohac
    The thing is he is not on my friends list.  he didn't get a facebook page till after he bonded out of jail in early jan.  He sent me a friend request but I denied it.  However, when he emailed my friend I decided to check his page and thats when I saw what he wrote.  I'm not feeding the monster.  I'm not doing anything to him. he brought all this crap upon himself.  My sister told me that he is probably feeling like he is being backed into a corner and when he realized all his efforts this weekend to smooth things over didn't work, his true self showed up.  I'm not sure if he will be hauled back to jail now or wait till the bond revocation hearing so I'm a bit nervous since I just know he thinks I'm the cause of his current troubles and he will be plotting his revenge. 
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  • nbjenninbjenni

    imagelnbohac:
    The thing is he is not on my friends list.  he didn't get a facebook page till after he bonded out of jail in early jan.  He sent me a friend request but I denied it.  However, when he emailed my friend I decided to check his page and thats when I saw what he wrote.  I'm not feeding the monster.  I'm not doing anything to him. he brought all this crap upon himself.  My sister told me that he is probably feeling like he is being backed into a corner and when he realized all his efforts this weekend to smooth things over didn't work, his true self showed up.  I'm not sure if he will be hauled back to jail now or wait till the bond revocation hearing so I'm a bit nervous since I just know he thinks I'm the cause of his current troubles and he will be plotting his revenge. 

    I blocked mine because he was trying to add my friends and see when I commented on their pages. This is how he figured out my plans for New Year's Eve (which I ended up not going to because I was sick). Once I blocked him, he could no longer see anything I posted. And I can't see his - which is good because I need to let go.

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  • achase123achase123
    I completely understand the charm-I have fallen prey to it to.  I always said that STBXH is the nicest person in the world when he wants something but he can be the biggest POS that ever existed as well.  It sounds like you realized you had fallen for his antics and decided to get help.  I swear, ppl like that are like a drug and you have to be careful not to go back for another "hit".  It's hard but the further you are away from him the better.  They always show their true colors sooner rather than later and remind us why we cannot EVER give them a second chance. 
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