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m/c question

kelliejeannekelliejeanne
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I was told yesterday by my OB that I am having a chemical pregnancy. I'm guessing I'm somewhere in my 5th week.I am spotting brown (have been since the 10th). And my breasts are sore, today my cereal tasted horrible. I am looking forward to trying again and Ive got to say it's frustrating (and sad)  having pregnancy symptoms when I know it's not actually happening. 

 I was wondering if anyone knows when I should expect to start bleeding? Yesterday's beta was 23 and I'm going back on Monday to "make sure it's 0". I was told we could try again once I've had my period (or the miscarriage if you want to look at it that way). I feel like once I end this cycle I'll feel some closure. 

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  • michroccmichrocc member

    I'm very sorry for your loss.  I can't say for sure, but I'd imagine it'll happen fairly soon.  I had my levels tested on a Monday and they were 26...by that weekend I was having AF.

    GL and hugs

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  • kelliejeannekelliejeanne
    imagemichrocc:

    I'm very sorry for your loss.  I can't say for sure, but I'd imagine it'll happen fairly soon.  I had my levels tested on a Monday and they were 26...by that weekend I was having AF.

    GL and hugs

    Thank you. I think the process is starting, the spotting is getting more pink. No cramping yet. I'm at work and a little scared that it could get bad.

    You know, my emotions are def all over the map. I was sad yesterday and numb later in the day. By the end of the day I was feeling better (talking to my BFF who had been through this 2x helped ALOT). I found out I was pregnant on Sunday and immediately felt like something wasn't right - by that time I had been having brown discharge for 8 days. Tues was ny 2nd beta. So I had 2 days of knowing I was pregnant. I feel kind of grateful that I was spared knowing for longer.

    This was our 2nd cycle ttc. I was really worried that I couldn't get pregnant (just paranoia, no actual reason to think I couldn't). My silver lining to this sad experience is that now I know I can get pregnant, that my husband and I are able to concieve.

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  • michroccmichrocc member

    It is such a heartbreaking thing to go through, and your emotions are all 100% valid - sad, numb, okay...then repeat, with anger thrown in for good measure. 

    It's weird to discuss "silver linings" when you're in the midst of something so awful, but I completely understand. I lost my LO at what would have been 10-11 weeks. It's one of the hardest things I've ever gone through, but I couldn't help but think about how much worse it would be to go 15 weeks, 20 weeks, 30 weeks, 40+ weeks, etc.  The thing is, there is always a way in which your situation can be worse.  Someone on here once said that "life isn't a pissing contest.." and it's true. Knowing that gives you perspective that can be helpful, as long as it doesn't make you feel like it isn't your right to be sad.  I don't know if all that makes sense.

    All the best and lots of hugs 

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  • kelliejeannekelliejeanne
    imagemichrocc:

    It is such a heartbreaking thing to go through, and your emotions are all 100% valid - sad, numb, okay...then repeat, with anger thrown in for good measure. 

    It's weird to discuss "silver linings" when you're in the midst of something so awful, but I completely understand. I lost my LO at what would have been 10-11 weeks. It's one of the hardest things I've ever gone through, but I couldn't help but think about how much worse it would be to go 15 weeks, 20 weeks, 30 weeks, 40+ weeks, etc.  The thing is, there is always a way in which your situation can be worse.  Someone on here once said that "life isn't a pissing contest.." and it's true. Knowing that gives you perspective that can be helpful, as long as it doesn't make you feel like it isn't your right to be sad.  I don't know if all that makes sense.

    All the best and lots of hugs 

    That all makes sense. And I am so sorry for your loss as well.

    I am ready for whatever happens emotionally. I am lucky that I have really understanding family and friends (who know whats going on) and no one has been insensitive. I feel loved and supported and definitely have faith that I'll be ok. But yes, this totally sucks.

    T& P & Hugs to you too. I am very happy to have found this board. Thank you.

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  • stefanie0414stefanie0414
    I had a chemical pregancy in December and the bleeding was pretty heavy for the first day of my period.  The cramps were the worst....but they went away later that night.  I am sorry for your loss....i can totally empathize with you.  Good luck as you try again!! 
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  • rowanthefrogrowanthefrog member

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  As you can see I've had a few CPs now.  I think you will start bleeding in the next day or so.  It will most likely be heavier than a normal period.  I typically have had minimal cramping.  If you have any questions let me know, I'm happy to share my experience.


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