So irritated

So my XH took dd for an overnight last night for the first time since November.  He picked her up at 6:30, left with her at 6:37 and was on facebook by 6:45.  Then he had his girlfriend over for a bit according to dd and then was back on facebook at 9:15 while dd was still awake. so, he spent zero quality time with dd as he dropped her to daycare at 7:30am this morning (despite not having work until 3pm).

At home she goes to sleep by 8pm, there she was up until at least 10.00. Then he said she was up crying a good part of the night yet he still woke her up to get her to daycare the minute they opened. As if that is not annoying enough... he didn't brush her teeth despite me sharing the dentists recomendations with him, Didn't even brush her hair, let alone do it so she went to school looking like a ragamuffin.  So I pick her up from school and she is a mess, and absolutely exhausted and whiney which then ruins her time at gymnastics (that I pay big bucks for) UGH

Then the worst part is that dd has encopresis (she withholds her bowel movements- its extreme and we work with a child psychologist for this). Shes been in therapy for just over a year now and xh refuses to participate in it.  Well, dd refuses to use the toilet at his house to poop so last night she did not go (after going 14 days in a row at my house- her best ever and i even had her off her meds for 10days for first time in 2years). She is so sensitive that skipping one day of not going to the bathroom sets her back to holding it in and unfortunately if history replays, she will need laxatives to now  go to the bathroom for another few weeks until we get back on track- just in time for another overnight....

I think the best part that made me laugh is that today I notified him of my plans for her birthday (April) and he had the nerve to tell me that I should work around his plans that hes thinking of making. haha I told him he can take her during the day (he is off that day) but that wasn't good enough. Does he really think that when he takes her 2 hours per week and has never planned anything on any other birthday that I am going to just bow down to him and not spend time with dd on her birthday night considering I have to work during the day??? What a jackass.... Then he proceeded to tell me that the past doesn't matter, only the future does.... Um, no you dug your own grave buddy- can't make that go away!!!!!  When will he realize that parenthood is 365 days per year, not just holidays and fun days??  UGH, wish he'd fall off the earth!!!!