tired and frusterated

MelodyMoonstone · January 2010

I'm just tired. It's making everything worse. LO has croup right now, but all in all, he's just not a happy baby. For the first few weeks, if he was awake, he was crying. He didn't have much in the way of chill down time. Now he's sick and he won't let us put him down. When he eats (I bf) he's fine and then afterwards, he's so gassy. At least I assume he's gassy - he cries and pulls his legs up. Not sure how he can be so miserable when there's no air coming out of my nipples. His latch is questionable sometimes and he tears me up, so we've been in constant contact with a LC. I feel so badly that he gets so upset after eating.

I'm terrified that he has reflux or colic, just because he seems so upset always. He was so miserable all weekend, so I made an appt with the pedi on Monday and we found out he was sick. He doesn't cry specifically in the evenings, he cries during the day. I'm not sure how long I can take the constant crying and misery. I can't go anywhere because I'm afraid he'll start to lose his mind.

Tell me it gets better soon. I'm tired, stressed and worried that my baby will never be happy.

j9lovey · January 2010

I felt exactly the same way and we found out that our LO had acid reflux. It's really not a big deal. My DS used to scream and throw himself backwards after he ate. I had to stop BFing b/c he would just start screaming at the sight of my breast after a while and I was getting WAY too frustrated. I have heard that cutting out dairy from your diet can help Acid Reflux. YOu can try sitting him up while eating (football hold). Make sure your LO stays upright for at least 3O mintues after eating. My LO takes Zantac 2 times a day...it doesn't cure them just make them more comfortable. As for going out with the baby...just go out and if he really gets that fussy then leave the store. I think everyone understands that babies cry. My LO is just starting to feel better and sleep more. Some days he is still miserable...but most days I can actually play with him. Don't be afraid to ask for help or just leave the baby with someone you trust and take some ME time. You need it. GL and hang in there it will get better- Just be patient.

TommysGirl56 · January 2010

This is very much how I felt the first few months with Alannah. She did not have reflux...just a colicky baby. I would be in tears because she spent the entire day crying, but if she was set down, she would absolutely scream. So I was unable to shower, eat, sleep, etc. It was exhausting, and I believe, a real factor in developing PPD. Alannah was gassy despite the fact that I was EBF, as well. I don't know why, but that sure did not help matters. You could try Mylicon...it helped some.

Alannah totally changed her personality at around 3 months. It was miraculous. She was suddenly a much happier, not gassy baby. So I know is is incredibly tough, but keep hanging in there. You are so strong for keeping it together while going through all of this!

It is wonderful that you have an appointment with the pedi. Hopefully they can easily discover the issue and LO will start feeling better. However, you need to start feeling better, too. I feel I waited too long being stressed, panicky and depressed. One of the best ways you can help your LO is by getting help for yourself, too. So please see your doctor so that you can begin a path towards being happier and better able to cope with daily life. And remember, you will always find support, here!

((Hugs))