Did most plan for 2u2?

ccrow · January 2010

Just curious not trying to be rude or nosy but we have been debating the pros and cons of children closer together rather than spread out. Just curious others thoughts? I've heard some say I'd like a few crazy years then you get a family able to go and travel rather than start over with a new one just as you get the first able to go. And I've had a friend say she didn't want to steal attention from each so she wanted them 3-4 yes apart. To each his own I know. TIA

Raffes484 · January 2010

We planned for our 2u2. We had always said we wanted our kids 18-24 months apart, no more and they will be about 19 months apart. We're with the group that wants to get it all done early so that once our kids both (or all 3, we may have one more) sleep through the night and are potty trained, we'll never go back to those days.

Mrs.Reem · January 2010

yas it was planned for infertility reasons. My clock was ticking out of time.

Court0026 · January 2010

We planned it. I have always wanted kids close in age and I wanted to be able to take time away from work and enjoy them both for a couple of years.

auslyn804 · January 2010

We planned for it. I wanted to get the diapers/cribs/strollers stage over as close together as we could. I also wanted to be done being pregnant sooner. We are pretty sure we're done after 2.

HarrietNJMommy · January 2010

No, not really. We did want kids close in age, but we were surprised that I kept getting PG while BFing.......

Honestly, you need to do what you think is right for your family. There are pros and cons to every age difference.

pamelainswo · January 2010

We didn't necessarily plan for 2u2, but we started trying as soon as I got my second pp period (wanted to make sure things were back on track). I didn't get the second pp period until DD was a year old. We got lucky and got pregnant right away. We figured that, like DD, it would take 4-5 months to get pregnant, so if that had been the case we would not have had 2u2. As of #2's due date, they will be 21 months apart.

Cakes2114 · January 2010

Yes we wanted 2 under 2.. but maybe 2 or 3 months further apart.. the kids will be 20-21 months apart depending on when #2 arrives...

More of the timing issues was the fact I am a teacher and have to take maternity leave starting in February and not just April like last time.

I am excited to see how close these two are since my closest sibling is 8 years older!

lisaroo · January 2010

We did. We might be moving out of state next year and wanted to have the baby while we still had help from family and friends here for the newborn stage. Also, we decided it would be better for us to get all the baby stages over at once and move on with life lol. I think it would be super hard completely getting out of diapers and waking up at night and then start all over again. (esp. since DD is still a challenging sleeper)

Plus, I think it will be a lot of fun for them to grow up so close in age

sjc2005 · January 2010

Defianately did not plan it, but am totally ok with it now. I'm super nervous, but I know that God will not give me more than I can handle! Mine will be almost 14 months apart. Our 1st was actually somewhat of a suprise and this pregnancy was an even bigger suprise. I know that there is a reason for everything though and that although it might be trying, they will grow up with a built in best friend!

runnergirl79 · January 2010

We planned on 2 under 2. I was really hoping for around a 2 year spacing, and ours are 22 months apart. I'm debating whether or not to try for a similar spacing for our third, but my husband and I haven't made a decision about that just yet.

scherza · January 2010

We definitely didn't plan on it, but it was a good surprise. Having gone through infertility with our first, if we had had to sit down and plan when we were going to get back on that roller coaster, I'm not sure we would have done it for a looooooong time.

I had two under one, which has been challenging, but it's also had its positive aspects. They'll be close enough in age that they'll enjoy a lot of the same things at the same time. I've seen families with kids six or seven years apart, and the kids can play together to an extent but not in the way that kids close to the same age do.

It's also nice to know that they'll continue to share experiences as they get older. My sister and I are 22 months apart, and we had friends and teachers and activities in common when we were in school. We also had kids around the same time and that's been a bonding thing for us. I know our youngest sister, who's six years younger than me and four years younger than middle sis, sometimes feels left out because she was too young for some of the things we did in school and she's the only one who isn't married/working/a mother.

BriAndSean · January 2010

We started trying when Kaylin was 12 months old, so were definitely planning for 2U2. We got PG right away but had a m/c. So we just barely made 2U2 the second time around. DH and I both had siblings close in age. I want her to have the same. I also like the idea of having them in similar stages throughout the next 18 years.

eris1995 · January 2010

Yep we planned for it. We want our kids close in age.

stckgrl79 · January 2010

We planned it. Our first was a surprise so we figured there would be a chance that we would not be successful right away so we started when DD#1 was 9 months old....we were successful. They are almost 19 months apart. Its hard but so worth it!

aldyn · January 2010

We didn't plan for 2u2, per se, but I'm happy it's working out that way. It took us a long time to conceive DD, so I was expecting it to take a lot longer to conceive #2. But, surprise surprise, we got pg our first month trying with #2. I'm not getting any younger so I wanted to have them as close together as possible. As fun and cute as babies are, I want to get out of the baby stage sooner rather than later so we can all start doing the more active, fun stuff as a family.

~*Christina*~ · January 2010

We wanted our 2 (that's how many we are thinking right now) close in age, but we were thinking about 2 years apart. So, we definitely didn't plan to be this quick, but now we are excited. The babies will be 14 months apart. My niece and nephew were exactly a year apart and they are so close, they always have been. So I am hoping that these two being so close in age can have that same type of bond. But fore warning, it took us a year to get pregnant with my first child, and the one and only time we didn't use some type of birth control (besides breastfeeding) after Isabella I got pregnant. You are VERY fertile after you have a baby.

jkelly41 · January 2010

We wanted our kids close in age because DH is six years older than his sister and he doesn't like that big of a gap. I wanted them close because I love being pregnant and my siblings and I are all close, so I was fine with it!

amstep · January 2010

Definitely planned it. Started trying for #2 as soon as DS turned 1. We don't live near family, and will be transferred several times, and so we wanted our son to have someone to play with, even if he was the new kid in town. We're manufacturing our own playgroup. I thought we wanted 3, but we're going to see how 2u2 goes first, lol.

jlw2505 · January 2010

We had hoped for 2 right around 2 years apart. Took 7 cycles with #1 and got a BFP the 1st try with #2 so we ended up with 2u2 - 21 months apart. I am in the group that wanted my kids close in age, to get the baby years over with close together. I am an older mom (39 now) and didn't want to wait to long to have my girls. My girls are now 3 1/2 years and 22 months and I am loving life. We are at that point where we can do more and more stuff and go places. Took the girls to their first Elmo Live show this weekend and the girls totally loved it - both of them. If they were further apart, things like that get hard as they both don't enjoy the same stuff while my girls really do enjoy a lot of the same stuff - not everything but it works out great for me. Its not for everyone though. I have plenty of friends who have kids anywhere from 2 years apart to 5 years apart. It is all really a personal choice and decision.

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