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mandaphilly
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How did...
mandaphilly
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How did you get in this situation, of being a single mother?
What's your story?
- I'm just curious on how everybody got where we are today, no judgement or anything like that.
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Re: How did...
A few variations, but pretty much this.
This - only I had two and I kicked him out
got involved with a DB that had 2 other women pregnant at the same time, then he left, i stupidly took him back thinking i could make a family work for my little girl , he continued to be a jerk, then finally took off one night in a drunken stupor and i threw all of his stuff in our garage on the floor and told him to come and get it or i was putting it out for trash collection.
Oh man, how do I shorten it....here goes:
Douchebag and I were married for little less than three years when we started ttc. As soon as I got pg he became mia. Then when I was six weeks pg got a call from a girl saying she had slept with him while I was out of town. I didn't believe her but then found a hotel receipt that said otherwise. He said he didn't go through with it and begged for forgiveness so I gave him another chance. Fast forward to me being eight months pregnant and basically going through the entire pregnancy alone. He wouldn't come home at night, wouldn't call, was involved in shady things ever since he lost his job. Basically, it was horrible. So I decided to look through his phone and found sexual text messages between him and another girl. Then I also found Craigslist casual encounters e-mails, another cell phone entirely with a message on it from another girl saying she "missed him", condoms in his truck (hey at least he was practicing safe sex), and worst of all-methamphetamines, needles, and a burnt spoon. I kicked his a$$ out that morning and filed for a divorce less than a month later. I had DS in August about two weeks after I filed. So I have been raising him on my own ever since and ex-H has supervised visits only.
Long story short.
We were engaged, I found out I was pg the day I was to be trying on wedding dresses. He was excited which was highly reassuring as I was nervous becauase I had wanted to wait for another couple of years, but by the next day was just as excited. Then he cheated when I was about 8 weeks pg and sick with some pretty intense 'morning sickness', he tried to blame his infidelity on me. I left, it was then I found out he had illegal activity (working and getting paid cash under the table, not paying any taxes) and drug use going on on the side. I made him stop with the drugs, I now give him random u/a's and he's since gotten a legit and thankfully even better paying job. We are now working on being civil (which is extremely hard) just for the baby's sake. He wants to be a part of stbds's life and I can't really deny DS his father just because he's a DB and I hate him. I'm trying to just work out CS and custody with him out of court then just having it officiated.
After a 12 year relationship I found myself single and wanting a baby more than another man. I went to the fertility clinic and did just that. My sweet baby boy is now 5 months old.
That's amazing! Good for you!