Are you avoiding TTC for Xmas time EDDs?

Smores730 · January 2010

My DH is almost ready to get on the TTC #2 bandwagon and maybe wants to try next month. That's fine, but if we aren't successful, we're then looking at due dates in December and early January and I just can't sell myself on the idea of it. I also don't know if once we start TTC, if I'll have the will power to wait a few months for better due dates! Argh! What are you guys doing?!

punkfiction_v.3 · January 2010

i have no idea why it would be a big deal.

(says someone with a mid december child)

Disneygeek77 · January 2010

A few years ago I would have avoided TTC to avoid a december birthday. I have a december birthday and yeah it can suck to get combination gifts. However, my DD was born close to Thanksgiving so we have pretty much decided to roll with it and if we do have another Dec baby, oh well we will try to make it as special as we possibly can.

betsnup · January 2010

Honestly, it never crossed my mind. I just wanted a baby, I didn't care what month the baby is born.

Plus, if I REALLY cared, I would have planned it around birthstones, LOL. November is the ugliest one, IMO, and March (when #2 is due), isn't much better.

BabyBurns · January 2010

We had DD on Christmas Eve, and while Christmastime is even more special now, I would definitely want to avoid a due date around this time. In fact, we're going to be aiming for a March-June baby next time

noah-bear · January 2010

I'm hoping to get a BFP regardless of the EDD. (starting in March that is)

southernbelle82 · January 2010

For future children, we will try to avoid Dec/January birthdays. Not that I have anything against them, we just have a TON of family birthdays in those months. I'd like to avoid July too b/c there are 4 family birthdays in that month...including mine. But ultimately, we'll take what we get Smile

noah-bear · January 2010

betsnup:
Honestly, it never crossed my mind. I just wanted a baby, I didn't care what month the baby is born.
Plus, if I REALLY cared, I would have planned it around birthstones, LOL. November is the ugliest one, IMO, and March (when #2 is due), isn't much better.

If I did that, I'd try for a September baby. Blue is my favouritest colour of all!!!

bridezillatobe2009 · January 2010

my birthday is dec 6 and i HATE it. no one could ever come to my party because of christmas parties and the like

mrs_kelly1014 · January 2010

punkfiction_v.3:

i have no idea why it would be a big deal.

(says someone with a mid december child)

I also don't see the huge deal and DS's birthday is 12-22. That being said, we will avoid it next time just because I want my kids to have birthdays that are not super close to each other.

betsnup · January 2010

noah-bear:
betsnup:
Honestly, it never crossed my mind. I just wanted a baby, I didn't care what month the baby is born.
Plus, if I REALLY cared, I would have planned it around birthstones, LOL. November is the ugliest one, IMO, and March (when #2 is due), isn't much better.
If I did that, I'd try for a September baby. Blue is my favouritest colour of all!!!

I will forever be jealousE of my mom - she has an April baby (Diamond!) and I'm a September baby. It's no surprise Sapphires are my favorite.

fIowerchild · January 2010

'Better due dates'. Huh?

Mrs.V · January 2010

DS was born on Christmas eve and its not bad! I wouldn't try to avoid that month, unless you're just starting to TTC and decide to wait one month longer. Once TTCing though, I wouldn't skip a month just to avoid Christmas! We had a wonderful birthday/Christmas Eve this year and it was very festive! I loved it!

ajanes · January 2010

My bday is 12-28 and yeah it kind of sucked but my mom made a huge effort to make by birthday special. I even had a half birthday swim party at one point. We are actually trying for a Dec/Jan baby. I don't want another Oct/Nov baby. DH is a football coach and I really don't want another baby during football season. I'm afraid we may have a little *oops* on our hands though.

Smores730 · January 2010

Geez, it's not a personal attack on anyone who already has a child born in December. Is it really hard to believe some people don't want due dates around christmas time? I swear, you can't have an opinion about anything on this board without someone taking it personally.

punkfiction_v.3 · January 2010

fIowerchild:
'Better due dates'. Huh?

lol this is what im thinking. my face is like

meplusone · January 2010

I have a Dec birthday and it is a pain. I would have avoided have a baby in Dec if possible. We ended up with a Sept baby and this time a July baby. It's nice to space them out and have some celebrations throughout the year.

But I am older so if it came down to it, I would take whatever EDD happened. If I had the choice (and was young!) I would not TTC for a Dec birthday.

PhilsWife07 · January 2010

I would. For me, Christmastime is crazy enough without the added pressure and expense of planning a birthday party. We plan to have one more child after this one and will hopefully have a Spring baby the next time around.

PhilsWife07 · January 2010

betsnup:
Honestly, it never crossed my mind. I just wanted a baby, I didn't care what month the baby is born.
Plus, if I REALLY cared, I would have planned it around birthstones, LOL. November is the ugliest one, IMO, and March (when #2 is due), isn't much better.

Aww, I love March's birth stone! I will give you November though. Not very pretty.

teg · January 2010

oh I wouldn't. no guarantees you'll get pregnant, so i don't see the point in avoiding. DS's birthday is 12/16, and we'll all learn to deal.

TheSkimmy · January 2010

As someone who struggles with Infertility and miscarriage loss... I would take a baby any month of the year. Maybe before my issues I would have wanted to avoid. But now I'm thankful for any living child.

CalBears · January 2010

I'll be thankful for any due date!

JimsBride08 · January 2010

Nope. We just started TTC and I won't be avoiding Christmas EDD. The only thing I might try to avoid is a birth in July, August, or September so I'm not gigantic and hot in the middle of summer.

happilyeverafter2005 · January 2010

If DH and are do not get pregnant this month or next we are taking a break for two months. We will start trying again in May.

ncbelle · January 2010

Kiddo was born 3 days after Christmas - it's no biggie to me and I'll be perfectly happy if #2 comes at the same time.

jrzbryde · January 2010

Yes, this was discussed before we ever started trying (if I wasn't pregnant by March we were going to take the month off). Both of our birthdays are the week after Christmas, and we hate it. We are always so exhausted from the holidays, we don't even celebrate our birthdays. Also, as a kid I hated never getting a school birthday party because we were always on break. Of course, I realize not all December people are as traumatized as I am!

KeepingItLowKey · January 2010

bridezillatobe2009:
my birthday is dec 6 and i HATE it. no one could ever come to my party because of christmas parties and the like

Heh, my husband and my BFF have Dec. 6 birthdays and we always have great parties for them.

It wouldn't bother me at all. But we don't emphasize gifts at birthdays or Christmas so if that's the reason people get worried, I wouldn't understand.

anna7602 · January 2010

I don't think I want a winter baby, period. DD was born in May and it was really nice to be able to get out of the house all summer with a newborn. We don't have a car, so the weather factor is a big deal.

IckyThump · January 2010

We're not avoiding Christmas per se, but I would rather not have a winter baby. We're going to TTC in June/July and hope for a spring baby.

Doug'sFiance · January 2010

CalBears:
I'll be thankful for any due date!

Ditto! As a person who miscarried a 12/25 EDD baby I'll be thrilled with another pregnancy no matter when. Don't take it for granted.

LaLaSweets · January 2010

If and when we decide to ttc again i would want a late spring early summer baby just in case i have another girl, i have tons of clothes from dd

trizzie · January 2010

No, I just want to get pregnant again. FWIW, Dh's bday is 12/26 and it has never been a huge deal to him.

earthboundmisfit · January 2010

No way in hell. I am ready for another baby since forever ago and I'm not putting it on hold just because DC might be born around Christmas. As it were, my EDDS based off of a cycle that stays normal are October 9th, November 9th and December 10th so that's not close enough to the holidays to bug me.

lite-bright · January 2010

If we decide to have #3, we'll avoid December/January EDDs.

The first time around, we just wanted to get pregnant ASAP and didn't care about EDDs. DD#1 was born 1/5. DH and I make a concerted effort to separate her birthday from Christmas (make sure holiday decorations are down, no combined gifts, etc.) but it still kind of sucks to have her birthday come when everybody is just recovering from Christmas.

Part of the problem for us, I'm sure, is that pretty much all our family is out of state, so we're not having family parties or something where people would be reminded. So a lot of her gifts from relatives (grandparents, aunts/uncles) arrive late. She's too young to recognize that yet, but DH and I were kind of bummed this year that so many people forgot her birthday.

brideon082104 · January 2010

Yes we are. My husband works for UPS and mid-November to early January it is CRAZY busy as you can imagine. He makes lots of overtime and LOTS of extra money. When we have our second we're planning on dh being home with me for the first 3-4 weeks so we don't want that during Xmas season because (a) UPS would NOT be happy with him and might not even let him have the time off and (b)he'd lose out on a lot of money!

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