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shower for 2nd baby?
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What is proper etiquette? I have a 2 year old son and DD will arrive in May. If I have a shower, do I register? What's smart and what's rude?!
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Re: shower for 2nd baby?
There is a lot of different opinions on a shower for baby #2. I think it seems to be what's the "norm" in your area and with your family and friends. My SIL is pregnant with #2 and several people have already mentioned throwing her a shower, and it's not seen as tacky by anybody. But to some it can be...so I would just wait to see if somebody offers to throw you a shower, but I don't think registering ever hurts! It's fun to pick stuff out, and it's there if anybody happens to ask for a gift idea, shower or not!
Hope that helps, I know it's not a straight answer!
My take - if someone offers you a shower, sure, you can accept. But as it's for a 2nd child, I would keep the guest list SMALL. To your immediate family and closest friends.
Lets be realistic - how much different stuff do you relaly need for a girl vs a boy? People are going to buy you clothes no matter what. You don't need a shower for clothes.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
Where I am from it is common to have 2nd baby showers but it is still looked as being really inappropriate. It is kind of like the dollar dance at a wedding around here...people line up with their buck for a dance while talking with their friends about how rude they think it is
. I think that it is the amount of time between kids that determines whether you can have one without people thinking "didn't I just buy her a gift?". I agree that the best 2nd showers are small or family. Meet the baby parties after are really fun too!
Someone could host a "sprinkle" for you, which is simply to offer you some things you don't already have. In this instance, you can create a registry of smaller, less expensive items and the person hosting the sprinkle can inform guests verbally of the registry, if they ask.
You should not have a full out shower, your children are too close in age.
What on earth would you put on a registry besides clothes, new bottles (maybe), diapers and a couple of other things? Seriously for a 2nd shower when your DS is only 2 years old is really for diapers and wipes. People will buy you a ton of clothes because you are having a girl...but even if you were having a boy people buy clothes (and diapers). I think a registry would be a waste of time...unless you want a double stroller and want to get the completion discount. I wwoul still not have it put on the invite.