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Separate them at daycare or not?

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Esp for moms of older kids....

If you had your choice would you separate them in a daycare setting or would you prefer they stay together?

 

Weighing pros and cons in case it's my decision to make.

 

On one hand I think it would be good for them to have a chance to socialize without each other but on the other hand they've never really been to a daycare center and might transition better with the comfort of being around each other.  When we have play dates they do fine playing with other kids and totally ignoring each other so it's not like they've got some freaky co-dependent thing going on.

 

And FWIW - the younger one is fully potty trained and VERY verbal so it's not so much a matter of age appropriate activities, etc. 

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Re: Separate them at daycare or not?

  • HappyTXChickHappyTXChick

    Is it an option for you?  I figured most will divide them up by age and that would put them in different rooms.  Would they put your 3yo in the 2yo room, or vice versa?  Or is it not set up that way at all?

    But if I had the option, I would say separate them.  For DS's last year here in the onsite childcare at my work I'm pretty sure DD and DS will end up in the same class.  I dread that because I just feel like if they are around each other all day, then by evening I could seem them fighting more and being more annoyed and tired of each other.  Also, possibly more competitive during the day on activities.  I want them to each have their own experiences during the day to tell us about when they get home.  That won't happen until they are 4 and 5 so I have some time to get ready for it :-)

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  • Mr.&MrsSMr.&MrsS
    Mine arent as old as yours, so I am not sure how I would feel when they are the same age as your boys. But for now, I like having them together. Before, Brady was in a center and he would have been in the toddler room and Nolan would have been in the infant room and they would be separate. That was all I knew when Brady was in a center and it seemed normal. Well we couldnt afford two in a center, and we had some issues with the place so we switched to an in home day care. Of course, since it is in home they are together. And they like being together. The teachers even said that once Nolan started there Brady just seemed happier (not that he ever wasnt happy there, but he just seemed different in a good way). They split them into groups through out the day based on age groups so they arent together all day. I think it is great. Brady gets all upset if we take him to day care and Nolan doesnt stay (like if he has a Dr appt or something). I can see pros and cons to both...but I like having them together. But I also like how they split them into groups too so that they can do things separately too. (Not that they really play together yet...Nolan is too young. But they like being around each other).
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  • lrrblrrb
    I do think its strange they don't put the kids in different rooms by ages?  Like school cut off ages?  In my case my girls are going to be in the same grade bc they are only 5 months apart and so far at pre-school we keep them in the same class.  We like it that way. 

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  • HarrietNJMommyHarrietNJMommy

    I'm not sure. They're going to be in separate classes when they go to school, so I don't think having them together for a little while is going to really hurt them.

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  • scherzascherza

    I think it depends on the setting.  Some places are small enough that they have the 2 and 3 year olds in one room.

    Our daycare is very small (12 kids) and they're all together.  Obviously, William is doing baby things right now and Elizabeth is running around like toddlers do, but by this time next year they'll be in the thick of things together, and they'll be in the same room at Sunday school as well.

    I'd be fine with mine sticking together.

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