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Babies on the Brain
Never post your sleep training plans on FB.
Guy I know just did this and he is getting all kinds of unsolicited advice.
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Re: Never post your sleep training plans on FB.
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LOL--I'm one that swears by it.
He's using Ferber and his baby is six months old.
::snorts::
Babywise? Really?
We're a Ferber family.
Yeah well we Fockerize him.
I was a skeptic, but so many friends IRL swore by it. We did the eat, sleep, play and feed every three hours (even if it meant waking him to feed), as well as pushing for full feedings every time I nursed him. Worked like a charm. He occasionally wanted to eat in less than the three hour span and I would feed him, but for the most part he took to the schedule right away. We don't do cry it out (but don't really need to since for the most part, he doesn't cry or fuss and usually sleeps all night). If we find that we need to do sleep training, I will likely turn to Ferber first.
Fockerize?
Meet the Fockers
Same (exact) thing here, too. STTN since 7 weeks. He's been waking up around 11 for the last two weeks, but I think it's because he's ready to drop a nap.
That's what I thought you meant. But I should really watch more movies because I have no idea what that means.
I'm glad to hear that you haven't gone batshiitcrazy with it like some people I know who let their 6 week old CIO or practice "couch time" and all the other junk that BW promotes.
It's like magic! He truly started sleeping right when the book said he would, dropped feedings, etc. We found out our neighbors used it too and they said they get pissed when people tell them how lucky they are since it is such hard work up front. Setting the alarm to wake him up at night was brutal those first weeks! So worth it though.
Get ready to hate me....
We didn't need sleep training. :-)
That's the thing. When I got done reading it, I was like "What is all the fuss about?" I don't remember any BSC stuff. Maybe b/c I read the revised edition? No idea what couch time is.
Anyway, didn't mean to turn this into a BW post. I just feel bad for my friend getting criticized for Ferber. Damned if you do, and damned if you don't when it comes to baby advice!
We only had ONE bad night with Ferber. One night. One HOUR. And that was it. It has been HEAVEN in my house ever since then. I will never hesitate to Ferberize my future children when they are old enough and we're all ready the way I did with Joshua.
Same here! I beat myself up over it so much but he's so much happier now that he's getting a good nights sleep. And so are we.
Yes. Same here. Although, I don't remember the part about needing to wake them to feed them. We had to do that at the very beginning anyway because he wasn't gaining weight because a) I had no supply; and b) his body was burning so many calories recovering from surgery.
I don't remember any BSC stuff either. It is my personal opinion that most (MOST, not all) people that hate Babywise have never read it.
I think people should just use what works for their family and not judge others unless they are doing something that it blatantly neglectful.
I mostly agree with you. I do think, however, that some parents get entirely too caught up in the schedule and don't realize that babies' needs change periodically. What works at two months may not work at six. (My friend is a prime example of this. She won't waver in her son's mealtime outside of 10 minutes. Even if the child seems hungry. And she let him CIO at 6 weeks, which really broke my heart.)
Having done my homework after hearing her talk about BW, I can say that Ezzo has some practices that are BSC. Those may come primarily in Toddlerwise and Childwise, though. (Couch time, for example.)
Oh, yes. I've heard the next two books are totally bsc. So, not planning on reading those. My friend told me that Toddlerwise told her to swat her one year old's hand when she did something wrong.
Um, sorry. No.
BUT, Babywise was not like that.
We didn't really need to do CIO, but when we have had to do it a few times, we don't let him go more than five minutes fussing.
It was really, really hard for me to get to the point where I was okay with Ferberizing Joshua. It took me having a near breakdown in the pedi's office and her telling me that he would be okay to muster up the courage to try it. I don't think it would've worked if I'd tried it before he was six months old, though.
I can't imagine. I give the side-eye to those who can listen to their baby cry and not be bothered by it. We visited friends like this and it about drove me over the edge.
That's the thing! I couldn't do it. I mean COULD NOT DO IT. And I spent the first four months of his life here. Practically trapped in this house because he hated the car so much. I could not listen to him cry. It made me crazy and then I'd cry. And I felt like I'd done something wrong to have such an unhappy baby. (He really was unhappy. luckily, that has passed.) That one hour of Ferber and my life is totally different.
I don't like hearing him cry, but I can deal.
TBH, I think I'm a bit desensitized. I have to watch so many not cool things happen to him, that I can't freak out over them. Like, needles in his head, needles in his feet, tubes in his wenis, etc, etc.
I can't imagine