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HELP! Stop my pestering family!

mamaholicmamaholic member
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When we told our families about LO at Christmas, we also told them about our next appointment which was about a week later.

Fast-forward to the day of the appointment and HOLY COW! I have never had so many calls and texts in one day! I was so overwhelmed. My appointment was supposed to be at 8am but they postponed it until 2:30 so ALL day it was nonstop! I was already nervous enough and I didn't need any more pressure.

So DH & I decided that we will no longer be telling anyone when our appointments are. It is our business. We will tell them what we want them to know when we want them to know. I know they are interested and care, but geez!

Question:
How do we convey this to our families without being rude?

TIA

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Re: HELP! Stop my pestering family!

  • Ba LollyBa Lolly
    It was the first appointment... so it was a big thing.  I suppose the excitement about appointments will die down once you have nothing to report and they last 2.5 minutes.
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  • shaunnalarshaunnalar
    That's why having a blog is so great.  We just told family and friends to read our blog for updates. 
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  • megdrew1218megdrew1218 member
    That's nice that they care so much! I'd just avoid telling them when appointments are if you can. FB/blog updates might be the best way to tell everyone at once so your phone is constantly ringing. :-)
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  • OregonMamaOregonMama
    My mom always asks and I just tell her it's either this day or that day but that I don't have my calendar so I don't remember exactly.  It usually works :o)
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  • mamaholicmamaholic member

    imageshaunnalar:
    That's why having a blog is so great.  We just told family and friends to read our blog for updates. 

    This is a great idea! We have one, but it doesn't have any baby related info because we haven't told anyone else. I am just trying to figure out how to avoid the, "When's your next appointment, so I can mark it on my calendar," question that I just got from my mom. Ugh!

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  • WearingRedWearingRed member
    I told my MIL out right that I will call her WHEN I get out of my appointments AFTER I talk to my DH and that if I don't call its becuase I am not out yet or it has been rescheduled. I will tell her all about the appointments on my terms or I will not talk to her about them at all. But I have to be direct with her or she will find a loop hole to slip through. I know it just becuase she is super excited.

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  • uagirluagirl member
    I'm not telling family (other than DH) when my appointments are.  That is driving them crazy, so they call and flat out ask when the appointment is.  I usually give them a vague answer like "In a couple of weeks."  So far they haven't pushed beyond that.
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  • meggiejomeggiejo
    Just a piece of advice, I would make sure to set the tone of everything now- ex. how you let everyone know results of appts.- so everyone understands you don't want constantly pestered. I was afraid to do this with DH's family with DS since we were newly married and by the time i got to 36 weeks they were all calling twice a day- he comes from a family of 7, so it was really annoying! When it gets closer to your EDD people crawl out of the woodwork to bug you about if you have had the baby yet.
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