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Intro! Hi-I'm Raisa! Kinda long!
Hi!
I'm Raisa, and I'm going to be a single mom. I recently got divorced but was split from my Ex-H for almost a year before we filed. We never had the money to actually get divorced until recently. We got divorced mainly because he wanted to settle down and start a family. I wanted to go to school and travel. Neither of us were happy, so we quit. We're still good friends.
I met my Baby Daddy over the summer. I had decided to visit KS (my home state) after living in WA for 5 years with Ex-H. After being home for a week I met BD. We hooked up through a mutual friend. We got drunk, did the dirty (unprotected, sigh! I know better!), and I never planned on talking to him again. He was talking relationships (he was already in one with another chick but wanted to end it with her) and blah blah BUT I honestly never planned on seeing him after I went back to WA. Besides, I wouldn't want to be with him. He cheats on his girlfriends!!! During the week my dad convinced me to just move home (also to go to Planned Parenthood to get on BC. I took Plan B to make sure I wasn't PG, but the damage had already been done). I was having trouble paying my bills in WA and really just needed a change. I drove up, packed my car, and moved home. I saw BD two more times and that was that...or so I thought. I found out I was PG on August 13th. I mentioned something to him about it but I didn't believe it was his. He still freaked out. When I got my first sono I found out when I got PG and that I was, in fact, 20 weeks.
When I found out my conception date I realized it was BD's. He told me he didn't think it was his because he's infertile. No, he's not! He told me, if LO is his, he wanted to be involved and all that crap. Then he never spoke to me again. I told him if he didn't want to be involved he needed to just walk away and never speak to me again. I told him if he did this I would NOT go after him for child support or anything.
So far, he has only tried to contact me a few times. He told my friend that he wanted to be there when LO is born. Um, NO! He only contacts me when his girlfriend (literally) kicks his a$$, she gets sent to jail for domestic battery, and he's lonely. He actually had the gall to flirt with me the last time he saw me. What a douche!
Any way, I'm a few day's till my EDD and I can't wait to have my little man in my arms! I'm also totally thrilled to have a place to relate to other SP's. 
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Re: Intro! Hi-I'm Raisa! Kinda long!
How old are you?
I'm gonna go ahead and say MUD... especially after BD post above this one.
If not... wowza.
I agree.. this HAS to be MUD! Please let it be MUD...please please please.
You truly are a fool and more.
If you are going to have sex, you use condoms. Ever heard of STDs and when you're sleeping with somebody, in essence you're screwing everybody else they've done???
I strongly advise you to get a paternity test and then go after the father of the child -- NOT "baby daddy" -- for child support.
And somebody like you should not be dating. You have no common sense.
hahahaha!
Haha I was thinking Jer-ry! Jer-ry! Jer-ry!
Absolutely.
You have absolutely no idea what you are getting yourself into.
LOL...I think it is!
Sweetie (OP), it's not something to be proud of. Do you want your child to grow up hating you? If so, you're doing a good job so far.
I think it is. And she's naming her baby Axel.
I actually have a feeling this isn't MUD either...
Well she did get pregnant at a shooting range...
https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/4/22877687/ShowThread.aspx
Ahh, the shooting range makes it MUD for me.
Congrats OP on the most hilarious MUD.
Its not your place to tell the father of your child that you would not be going after child support. That isn't your money, that money belongs to the child. Its your place to fight for every available advantage for the baby, that includes the money that the father is obligated to give for his child.
Have you considered adoption?
Sadly, this really isn't MUD. Google her sn, you'll see for yourself.
I really, really hope you are able to get your life on track for your child.
Both of these
Damn. I retract my earlier statement.
Ok, you're a dumbass. I can't even begin to play nice on this one.
Why is it that stupid people seem to be so fertile?
I think the best thing for this baby is to give it up for adoption. You don't seem to have the sense that God gave a goose.
I am embarrassed for you. You are ku and on dating sites??? And you post that you are pg on the sites? You should seriously think about adoption. I am not usually the snarky one, but I have to say this. You are too immature and self centered to raise a child. I feel sorry for Axel.
Wow!
So much for a place of acceptance.
First of all I moved home because I couldn't pay my bills. I can now and am very self sufficient!
Second, I always use condoms. That was a one time thing. Who here can say they haven't had too much to drink, had unprotected sex, and regretted it in the morning? I realized I had made a mistake and took action to prevent it. I went to Planned Parenthood and got a Plan B pack. I knew it wasn't always 100% effective, but I did take action. I know I was taking a risk with my sexual health by not using a condom, but sometimes it happens.
Third, why am I suddenly a whore because I slept with a guy I had no intention of having a relationship with? People have been doing it since the beginning of time. I wasn't out screwing every guy I saw. In fact, my ex-H was the only man I'd ever slept with before I got divorced. Also, what's wrong with dating while being pregnant? I had the accounts before I conceived and I didn't see a problem with keeping the accounts after I found out I was pregnant. I wasn't going to lie about being pregnant. Honestly, the fact you even found them or cared enough to look is odd.
I can honestly say I've never had unprotected sex, and regretted it, because I was so drunk. In fact, I've never been drunk. Don't drink, if your going to use it as an excuse for your mistakes!