Can I vent for a second?

Re: Can I vent for a second?

• MrsAO

  January 2010

  Aw, woo woo woo! (That's what my mom always says to make me feel better about things that irritate or upset me).

  I completely get what you're saying.  People think that I can take care of M while working from home and always give me the side I when I tell them M has to go to daycare (actually my SAHM cousin) when hubby is working.  Um, I'd very much like to keep, not to mention I need, my job!

  Kudos to you for having it all together.  Just continue to kill 'em with your awesomeness and eventually they'll all see that Candi is the real deal!

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• star21gazer

  January 2010

  MrsAO:

  Aw, woo woo woo! (That's what my mom always says to make me feel better about things that irritate or upset me).

  I completely get what you're saying.  People think that I can take care of M while working from home and always give me the side I when I tell them M has to go to daycare (actually my SAHM cousin) when hubby is working.  Um, I'd very much like to keep, not to mention I need, my job!

  Kudos to you for having it all together.  Just continue to kill 'em with your awesomeness and eventually they'll all see that Candi is the real deal!

  If I worked from home Aubrey would be in daycare too...like you said you want to keep your job. 

  Don't get me wrong there are days when I might not get something done that I had intended to do because Aubrey might have been fussy, or I might have been tired, or I just wanted to play with her and the other things could wait...but overall our days are pretty routine you know?  
  

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• lilcrablegs

  January 2010

  star21gazer:

  Why do people just assume because you have a 3 month old at home your life is absolute chaos?  They act like I should be wearing my pj's all day, haven't showered in a couple of days, going insane, and a total mess?!?!  Seriously???  Is it that hard to believe that we are on a routine, that I actually get a shower and dressed in clean clothes and fix my hair and makeup everyday?  I function better and get way more done if I am ready for the day.  Why is it just an assumption that all new mothers are living in chaos? 

  I can see both sides of this one...in that I appreciate when people understand that taking care of a baby is a lot of work and requires a lot of attention.  Some people think mommies sit at home all day doing nothing, which as you know is not the case!

  The sleeping question is annoying.  It's just what everyone asks about a new baby.  When you're pregnant, they ask about morning sickness.  When the baby comes, they ask about sleeping.  I guess they want to hear horror stories!  When people ask me how long he's sleeping, I usually just say, "enough."

  

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• aubie96 member

  January 2010

  I already hate how I'm getting that I'll NEVER get any sleep, better get it now - uh, it's not like I can store it somewhere for the winter!!!  I'm not a bear!!!

  And while I have a plan, we're flexible.  I think DH's and mine sleep schedules being different will help, but again, I'm flex.

  I think it will be MUCH harder when I go back to work, that's for sure.

  And EVERY pregnancy and baby is different - people just assume that what happened to/for them, will happen to you.

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• kc0721 member

  January 2010

  I think other people assume these kinds of things b/c they've been told sooo many times that taking care of a baby is hard work. That women devote so much time to the baby that they don't have time for themselves. ( I don't think this, I think that people have been told these things more times than not) Some people have no experience with baby's so they don't know how much work goes into them and how much sleep they get and so on and so fourth.  It would probably make me made that people make these assumptions, however I would try to give some folks the benefit of the doubt, especially if they didn't have kids or know anything about kids. 

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