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Birthday Invitation Etiquette Question

m&m818m&m818
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Do you send out of town relatives an invite? I was thinking about sending FIL and my dad and invite, but I know they probably won't be able to make a trip up here. But of course if they really wanted to they'd be more than welcome to come. I also don't want them to feel like they are not invited when I post stuff on FB.

My dad is a bit out of touch with us, and I wanted to send him a reminder... Hey! it's Maddy's birthday.. look at how big your granddaughter is now!

But I'm wondering if thats more me, just trying to point out how un-involved he is in her life. Embarrassed

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  • Mrs.K&CMrs.K&C

    Aw, I'm sorry your dad isn't more involved. That's LAME.

    We only have one out of town relative (yeah....seriously) and we did send them an invite even though we knew they couldn't come. It's DH's dad and step-mom and we knew they couldn't come before we sent the invites, but the invites were super cute so we wanted them to get one. 


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  • MeritageMeritage member
    It's purely optional.  Sometimes, I send invites to out of town relatives, and write on the envelope, "Just in case you're in town! :-)"
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  • we-love-to-trywe-love-to-try

    Yes, we sent a lot of out of town invites. Both our extended families are spread across the country and it's always been a family rule that they're invited even if they can't make it.

    Initially, I hated it. I felt like we were 'fishing for gifts' but now that I'm seeing family members get married and have kids, I want the invitation so I can send well wishes and maybe a gift, too. So I appreciate the invite.

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  • m&m818m&m818

    imageMeritage:
    It's purely optional.  Sometimes, I send invites to out of town relatives, and write on the envelope, "Just in case you're in town! :-)"

    Thats a great idea!

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  • SweetiePSweetieP
    imageMeritage:
    It's purely optional.  Sometimes, I send invites to out of town relatives, and write on the envelope, "Just in case you're in town! :-)"
      Great idea!!! :) Most of our family isabout 2 hours away but they come...if they were further, I'd probably do what Meritage suggested.
    Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it.
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  • danandkellydanandkelly
    I would send them to OOT relatives, I did send them to some OOT relatives that I knew wouldn't be able to make it...but I wanted to be sure to not leave anyone out.
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  • AvaLikeLavaAvaLikeLava member
    All of our family is out of town, so yes, we had to. We only sent invites to the aunts/grandparents though. We didn't expect extended family to attend.
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  • MrsEmmMrsEmm

    I decided to consistently send the invites to out of towners. Then when I talk to them I tell them - "I know its far but in the rare case that you can make it I wanted you to know youre invited! We love you & miss you!"

    I always try to assure them that we just never know to send or not because want to include them but DO NOT want to make them feel bad. ?

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