3rd Trimester

Would you be offended

So today at my Drs Appointment my OB was talking to me about my birth plan etc and said "Now you know Silas has to go home in a carseat right?!" I was super offended I don't know if I am hormonal or if thats an offensive thing to be told. Do I look that dumb?

Re: Would you be offended

  • I wouldn't be offended, annoyed definitely but not offended.
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  • Oh my gah. I am sure she thought she was covering all her bases, but that would annoy me!
  • I wouldn't be offended.   OB is just making sure.   It's hard for doctors to know what is common knowledge and what is not.
  • I would have thought it was strange but would have laughed it off.
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  • I think at this point I would be offended and annoyed. I think in a normal state I would think she was just making sure that I knew all of the rules.

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  • I don't think I'd be offended. ?Our pediatrician knows us well by now and with each child at each checkup she goes through her routine questions, including the rear facing car seat question at that appointment.
  • Not offended. She doesn't know you from adam. If my mom said it, I'd be annoyed. But the OB? Sadly, she probably does have patients who don't know.
  • I wouldnt be offended. Some people really dont know that. They just do it to make sure people do.
  • I'd like to say that I would would just laugh it off, but with my hormones these days, I'd probably be offended, too.  The worst part is that he probably has to tell you because some people don't know that - like the McDonald's coffee cup that tells you "Caution: Contents are hot"!
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  • No, I wouldn't be offended. There are some really stupid people out there. My MIL believes you get breast cancer from wearing underwire bras, so I'm sure she would need the carseat reminder.
  • Was she joking? I would've been offended and probably would've come back with some smart ass response in the office then cry to my DH when I left.
  • I think I would have come back with "Oh Rats we were thinking bubble wrap in a laundry basket strapped to the hood... but a carseat - that makes sense."
  • No, I just think she was reminding you. Like keep taking your pre-natal vitamins, or what to expect the first week, and don't forget drink at least 10 glasses a wter a day. Thats all I think he/she meant by it. Have a blessed evening.

  • No SH*T! I was just going to strap her to the roof!
  • I wouldn't be offended...maybe they've had issues with couples in the past. 
  • imageALG29:
    Was she joking? I would've been offended and probably would've come back with some smart ass response in the office then cry to my DH when I left.

    That is exactly what I did! I guess its because in CA its pretty obvious everyone owns a car and hello baby goes in a car baby goes in a carseat.

  • imageAlisonLynn:
    No SH*T! I was just going to strap her to the roof!

    Take that 100 bucks from the carseat and go get yourself a massage sounds like the roof is a much better idea! Like one PP said make sure to get bubble wrap for padding!

  • I wouldn't have been offended, but I totally would have made some smarta$$ comment along the lines of strapping the baby to the roof rack. 

    edit: hahahaha I missed the PP about this. Or maybe even the trunk? In my car, the middle of the seat flips down for easy trunk access. 

  • Well i wouldnt be offended , but i might make a smart a$$ comment like "NO WAY!  *mock awe* "Seriously?!? i was TOTALLY planning on just putting her in a Baby Bjorn and strapping her to the front of me" Smile
  • imagemurfygirl:

    imageAlisonLynn:
    No SH*T! I was just going to strap her to the roof!

    Take that 100 bucks from the carseat and go get yourself a massage sounds like the roof is a much better idea! Like one PP said make sure to get bubble wrap for padding!

    LOL! Exactly!

  • I definitely would have made a smart-butt remark! Sadly, there are probably some people that need to be reminded of this.
  • I would be annoyed for sure.  When I was visiting my niece in the NICU the nurse was telling my SIL that babies will cry and that you should never tape a pacifier in their mouth.  Really?  I found that a little offensive, and she wasn't even talking to me!
  • I'm surprised that people expect those that don't know you to somehow know you aren't an idiot. They have to assume the worst. Don't take it personally.
  • Sadly, there was probably a reason why they had to say that to you.

    There are some really stupid people in this world.

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  • imageIrishBrideND:
    I'm surprised that people expect those that don't know you to somehow know you aren't an idiot. They have to assume the worst. Don't take it personally.

    Its not some stranger on the street it is my OB who I have been seeing once a month for almost 36 weeks. She knows my sister and her kids she knows my husband she knows where we live we chat about life at every appointment I am hardly a stranger to her.

  • imagemurfygirl:

    imageIrishBrideND:
    I'm surprised that people expect those that don't know you to somehow know you aren't an idiot. They have to assume the worst. Don't take it personally.

    Its not some stranger on the street it is my OB who I have been seeing once a month for almost 36 weeks. She knows my sister and her kids she knows my husband she knows where we live we chat about life at every appointment I am hardly a stranger to her.

     

    She doesn't really "know" you though.  I wouldn't take it personally. She probably says it to everyone. It would be different if a friend or family member said it. but she was just doing her job.

  • It's not offensive.  It's her job to not assume you know everything about new babies, even if it may seem obvious.  There is no reason to take it personally.
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  • imagekdiaisfly:
    I wouldn't be offended, annoyed definitely but not offended.

    Me too.

  • I would more think he/she was a dumbass.
  • imageBreezie17:
    I would more think he/she was a dumbass.

    Definitely true! Did you see my FB status? It said "How can Drs be so smart yet so dumb?!"

  • imageswimrbride:

    I think at this point I would be offended and annoyed. I think in a normal state I would think she was just making sure that I knew all of the rules.

     

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  • imagemurfygirl:

    imageBreezie17:
    I would more think he/she was a dumbass.

    Definitely true! Did you see my FB status? It said "How can Drs be so smart yet so dumb?!"

    I didn't see...off to go respond there too, LOL!

  • No.  I know someone who has shown up to give birth TWICE without a carseat.  This person is generally not an idiot.  So, I wouldn't be offended.

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  • i would have said something like "you mean i can't just strap him to the ski racks?" wtf? duh!
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  • Your OB probably HAS to say something. It's probably just to cover the bases.
  • That just means that he/she has had parents that didn't know that. I can see how it can be offensive but I don't think he/she meant it that way.
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