How much time did you spend with your baby in the hospital??

wille2b · January 2010

bm hasnt decided what she wants yet and i am just curious how much time you got to spend with your LO in those first few days???

Temp206787500007404 · January 2010

All day everyday that they would let her out of the nursery. We were in birthmom's room with her though during the day, unless she was napping and then we were in our family room next door.

She got passed around and loved on by all of us.

And then she stayed in our family room with us at night until after her 1 am feeding and then we sent her to the nursery.

ryannat · January 2010

We were in the BM's room from just after Maddie's birth. The BM asked us to be in L&D with her, but we couldn't make it to the hospital in time. We stayed with her in her room for the two days that the BM was in the hospital. We made sure she was comfortable with us there and would leave a couple of times a day so she could have some time to her self to rest and eat, but she wanted us to be with her most of the time. We stayed in a hotel at night and the BM had Maddie go to the nursery so she could also get some sleep. After the BM was released from the hospital Maddie went to the transitional nursery for one more night until she could be released and we brought her home.

Art Teacher · January 2010

We got to the hospital at 1pm. We were with Zoe from then until about 3:30pm. We were with her and her birthmom for a few more minutes after that. We stayed in a hotel that night. We were with Zoe another couple hours the next day before we brought her home.

lisanjay · January 2010

We spent a huge amount of time with bmom/her family and baby the 3 days they were both in the hospital. We also had a room in the hospital but chose to stay at the hotel that was connected through a skywalk to the building. Birthmom wanted the baby in her room at night. The first night DD went to the nursery but the other night she stayed with her birthmom. After birth we stayed in the room with bmom/baby/family, shared dinner with them and stayed until about 9 pm. We would leave every so often to give bmom and her family/visitors time alone with the baby. The second day we got to the hospital between 8 and 9 am and stayed until around 9 pm again, leaving for lunch, dinner and letting bmom and family spend time with DD. Same thing the 3rd day. We also took DD to our room in the hospital several times. It was really nice to get to know DD's bmom and family so much better those 3 days.

We wanted to give bmom as much time with her daughter that she wanted. We didn't want her to later wish "if only I could have held her more or saw her more." We felt that if TPR was signed that we would get a lifetime with this beautiful child and that Bmom should spend as much time as possible with her daughter.

Amy720 · January 2010

Our situation was a little different. We were called after Ben was born. He was born on Sunday and we were called Monday afternoon and we got to the hospital a few hours before they released him. BM at first wanted to meet us and then she decided to leave before we were introduced to Ben. We waited in the lobby and the SW came down and told us she decided to leave and took us up to see Ben.

cjmorgan · January 2010

I'm going to a bm...haven't picked a family yet, but I have figured out my birth plan. I'm going to let the adoptive mom and dad be in the delivery room (unless it turns into a C-section because then only one person can be there and I want my dad with me haha). After that (if they agree) I would like my son to stay in my room the whole time, but I want the adoptive family to come in and hold him and be with him whenever they want (unless I'm sleeping)! I also heard somewhere that a baby connects with their mother right away after birth so i plan on letting my son be handed to the mom first instead of me. Also my adoption is a "high risk" adoption since I plan on letting the mom and dad take my son home right after he's allowed to leave the hospital (even thought the adoption will not be finalized for 10 days after birth). Every bm is different obviously, but I feel like since they are gonna be the parents they deserve to connect and be with him as much as possible when he's first born! Hope that helps!

kmkaull · January 2010

Quinn's birthmom invited us to the hospital the day after he was born. We spent a few hours with him in her room. She asked for that time in the hospital to be hers with her family and the baby. I was disappointed at first, but honestly, never think about it now. So much happens after the hospital!

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