Shower hosts asking me to change registry - WWYD?

laurenrobbie · January 2010

So one of my showers is held in a different city than mine. We are only registered at BRU and Buy Buy Baby. In the different city there is a BRU but not BBB.

My shower hosts have asked me to register at Target because the BRU in this city is "far away". I am very familiar with said city and it's not - from the area where most of the attendees live, they are both about 20 minutes, just in opposite directions. Still, I don't want to inconvenience anyone - if it really is a big deal to get to the BRU I don't want people to have to do that just for my shower or anything.

But I think it is sort of odd to ask me to register at a completely different place. I have looked @ Target and very few of the remaining items on my registry are there. Also, we are Team Green so it's not like I can just throw a bunch of clothes on there and be done. We already have so many yellow and green 0-3 gowns, sleepers, etc. Plus, I have heard really bad things about Target's return policy, and if I registered there I'd only be doing it to appease the hosts, and would likely end up returning most of the stuff.

I do want to be gracious to the people attending the shower but WWYD?

kwhitson · January 2010

that's completely crazy IMO. I would not go out and register some place different many of the reasons you listed. If people feel that the BRU is too far away, then they can order on-line.

swimrbride · January 2010

It is not their decision where you are registered. We registered at the same places you did and avoided Target because of the return policy and there was nothing there that couldn't be bought at the other two. People can drive a few minutes to a store.

liza0828 · January 2010

Honestly I wouldn't worry about it. In my experience most people didn't buy off the registry anyway.

laineybix · January 2010

I'd thank them for their input and politely decline. You have registered...there is such a thing as online ordering....and you don't want to have to deal with the crappy returns policy at Target. If it is not convenient for people to get to places, then they can register for a gift card online - no shipping or processing fees.

Do you have gift cards welcome listed on all of your registries?

Just my 2c.

chelsearosehicks · January 2010

This is just silly to me because I live in a town where Wal-Mart is the only big store. So I always buy gifts straight off the registry online and have it shipped either to me or the registrant if I can't make it to the shower. But even when I lived near stores, it's so much easier to buy online. Some things you can't even find in the store. I don't think you should change your registry. Especially since most people won't even look at it and will buy you what they want to buy you.

lnyost · January 2010

NO, I would not change my registry, WTF!! It takes so much time and energy to register, do people realize that? Plus, it's called ordering online if you can't get to a store. People crack me up.

Ciconrad · January 2010

I wouldn't change it. There is the internet these days if someone doesn't have the time to go to a store.

sidewalk_angel · January 2010

Most people at my showers didn't even buy of my registries. I think it is your decision where you would like to register at.

frostnoel · January 2010

I have never heard of shower hosts telling the guest of honor where to register. You are already registered for the items you want. It seems that the option is possibly inconvenience the attendees or definently inconvenience the guest of honor. I would explain to the hosts that Target doesn't have any of the items you want and leave it at that. If you do return gifts bought from Target chances are you would only get gift cards, which if there's nothing there you want, aren't going to doyou a lot of good.

balletrina · January 2010

I never understand why people go to the store to buy registry gifts instead of just ordering them online... it's so much easier... unless they procrastinate and don't have time to have it shipped to them before the shower... but then isn't that their problem?

seanandcallie · January 2010

I would not do another registry. People can always look at the items on your BRU and BBB lists and get them elsewhere. I do think the hostess should remind people to include gift receipts.

Luv2dnce81 · January 2010

I would not change my registry. The guests can always purchase an item off your registry online and get it shipped to you or them (if they prefer to bring a gift to the shower with them).?

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sejabernathy · January 2010

kewhitson:
that's completely crazy IMO. I would not go out and register some place different many of the reasons you listed. If people feel that the BRU is too far away, then they can order on-line.

THIS exactly! Don't stress over this!

MandyWes · January 2010

kewhitson:
that's completely crazy IMO. I would not go out and register some place different many of the reasons you listed. If people feel that the BRU is too far away, then they can order on-line.

This 100%! If you had wanted to register at Target, then you would have. I would leave your registries where they are and people can order online if they have a problem. The BRU near where I'm from is about 25 minutes away from where most people live but I still got shower presents from there. (as well as other stores, including Target.)

thomas&lynn · January 2010

I'd tell her "I'd love to but they simply don't carry the items I need."

ashleycallan · January 2010

Tell them that they can order online as well... that is what I did!!

MandyWes · January 2010

Also- just noticed you are in Charlotte, like me! WTF? There are 2 Babies R Us stores in Charlotte! One in Concord and one in Pineville. Don't change a thing! I'm flabbergasted by your hostesses right now.

Sunsh1ne · January 2010

Don't change anything.

hterry85 · January 2010

Maybe jsut stick with some basics at target? bottles, diapers, wipes, etc?

officers_girl · January 2010

If it were me, I'd probably register for a few things at Target.

Honestly, those people are probably going to shop at Target anyway. Wouldn't you rather them at least have the option to get something that you need/want?

Also, although their return policy isn't the best, if someone buys you something from there, the best shot you have at returning it is if you're registered there and you can add it to you registry before you return it.

jill_aitoro7 · January 2010

What nerve! Absolutely do not change a thing.. As everyone else has suggeted, point to the online ordering option, and maybe politely note that you chose those two stores because they had what you specifically were looking for and also have the best policies for returns and exchanges.

I registered at the same two places -- mostly at Buy Buy Baby actually -- and suspect some might wish I went with a chain that had more locations, but I'm not willing to change it. Actually, my shower is less than 3 weeks away and very little has been purchased off either registry, which makes me think people opted to not buy from it anyway.. sorta disappointing in itself.

jarbatz · January 2010

kewhitson:
that's completely crazy IMO. I would not go out and register some place different many of the reasons you listed. If people feel that the BRU is too far away, then they can order on-line.

Exactly my sentiment! Don't people order online anyway? I avoid going to BRU at all costs!

shanad · January 2010

I think what she is asking is crazy. There is a think now a days called, shopping online. Buy Buy Baby is online if your guest can't get to the store. There is no need for you to register somewhere else. For the last shower, I had to travel a half an hour to get to a BRU, then my mom suggested for another shower we are going to, to go online to purchase the item and it had free shipping.

Also, I registered at Target for my wedding and I couldn't take things back if I didn't have a reciept and the item was over $20. Don't do it. We were stuck with a laundry sorter in our garage that was too big for our laundry room because my cousin did not provide a gift reciept.

Good Luck! If it was me, I would just tell her that those are the major stores, and you already registered there. I don't think the guest will really have a problem.

kdiaisfly · January 2010

That's ridiculous. Has she never heard of the internet?

pandagirl15 · January 2010

I wouldn't change. Target's return policy IS really bad. Plus, if they don't want to drive to the BRU, they could get you gift cards from the local grocery store. They sell them here, anyway.

msmous · January 2010

I wouldn't register somewhere else just because of my guests, but I know that most of them won't buy from any registry anyway.

shadowboxerkd · January 2010

Well that takes a lot of nerve! You're pregnant, and they want you to go out of your way to register somewhere else? They're basically saying, "We want to get you gifts, but we don't really want to go out of our way at all to do it, so if you can make it really easy for us, that would be great..." Wow.

Mrs. Busy · January 2010

I wouldn't change my registry. The guests can always bring gift cards or have their gifts shipped to your home since it will be out of town.

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