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Shayna0182 · January 2010

Has anyone else pregnant had the comments lately. It never seems like I get "congratulations", or "How nice" It's usually "Oh you're brave", or "I could never do that" It's very rude, and I'm getting really sick of it. If people can't say anything nice, then they shouldn't say anything at all!

laura&dan05 · January 2010

Yeah I have got some similar responses which is why I'm not announcing it anymore. A lot of people have been excited and happy for us but some of the comments have been strange.

After telling DHs friend and his wife she announced that they were happy with their one baby and that she was glad she wasn't in our shoes...then added congratulations. Another friend told me I was having Irish twins and that I was going to have my hands full. Geee thanks!

betsnup · January 2010

I still get them, but to be honest, sometimes I feel the same way - how the heck am I going to do it? I know we'll survive, and we are really excited, but still, it's pretty daunting just having one baby, let alone two under two! I try not to get too bothered, because it's a pretty normal reaction. Don't let other people get you down and put a damper on your excitement!

rasuhu · January 2010

I'm not pregnant yet, but TTC after twins. If this cycle is successful, the new baby would be about exactly 2 years younger than our twins. I DREAD all of the comments I will get, especially "are you sure it's just one?!?" in addition to the ones you posted above!! Augh...

NFL_Wife · January 2010

YES! I was so upset at the beginning of my pregnancy because every time we told someone we'd hear "wow, that's going to be hard" or "were you trying? they're going to be so close!"

And what I don't understand is when DS was first born, everyone kept asking when we were going to have #2. Then we get pregnant and everyone says its so soon. WTF?

Everyone has an opinion when you're pregnant. I finally stopped listening and got excited. It's my family, not theirs, and I'm not asking for their help or support, so they can take their comments and shove them! LOL

Mama Jan · January 2010

It doesn't end once the baby is born

I usually just smile and say "Oh it's a lot of fun! I wouldn't have it any other way." (When I was pregnant, I said "I'm so excited for them to grow up together! I hope they will be best friends!")

My favorite is the "Don't you know how this happens?" comments. When I'm feeling snarky, I inform them that DS1 took 2 years to conceive so getting pregnant so fast was an overwhelming blessing. They always end up with their foot in their mouth and hopefully will think twice before making comments like that to someone else. I mean, we are lucky we didn't have to do fertility treatments, but what if we had? Shame on them for making such a comment...

bacala1 · January 2010

I get the opposite. Usually people say it's great that I'm getting over with the diapers etc. at the same time instead of having to start all over and that it's nice that they are going to be close in age.

Jen&Len · January 2010

I got a lot of the, "was this a surprise" comments. I don't really even consider 21 months apart that close...it's pretty much 2 years apart, which I feel is fairly common. I also stopped announcing it and just let word spread via the gossip vine.

mrsain1105 · January 2010

Jen&Len:
I got a lot of the, "was this a surprise" comments. I don't really even consider 21 months apart that close...it's pretty much 2 years apart, which I feel is fairly common. I also stopped announcing it and just let word spread via the gossip vine.

I got a lot of this too. My response is "I'm pretty sure I'm not the first woman to decide to space her kids approximately 2 years apart."

lisaroo · January 2010

The comments were really hard for me in the beginning because I wasn't expecting them. I got a lot of "Wow. Good luck" and "better you than me" type reactions. The worst was someone I have known my entire life telling me that what I did was incredibly unfair to DD, that I damaged our bond forever, and that she could never imagine having her kids so close together. (She has 3)

However, for the most part, people were congratulatory and the ones who HAVE done it have said they wouldn't change it.

Rinnie · January 2010

People suck!

I was pregnant with twins and they were due when DD was 20 months old.

Some of the comments people would say when I told them I can't even post because I would be afraid that they would hurt other people.

I still get comments in the store from people. Like better you then me, Your crazy etc...

I just smile at them and walk away, but on those days when I am having a bad day - I would so love to say a nasty comment - but I don't:)

You can say what I always wanted to say. In the nicest tone and voice say, "Well I don't know about you, but my mother always taught me if you don't have anything nice to say, you shouldn't say anything." And just walk away.

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