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"You time"

HilabeanzHilabeanz
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Hi Ladies,

 Just wondering what you do for and when you get time for yourself.  By the time DH comes home (almost 6:00) I am done for the day.  I really want time for myself but then it's time to make dinner,clean it up, do baths and start getting ready for bed.  Also, a lot of times DH wants to go run an errand or do some paperwork for his part time job.  I have been putting myself to bed pretty early (between 8:30-9:00) because DS is not STTN yet and I need all the rest I can get before he's up at 2:30.  I feel like I rarely get time for myself.  OR if I do go out of the house to do something, I have to take one of the kids with me because DH doesn't like to have them both by himself.  I think this is turning into a vent, but I'm curious to see how you and your DH's work this thing out.

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  • kgb1411kgb1411 member
    During my maternity leave, I went to the gym in the evenings once or twice a week after dinner/before bedtime and DH watched the boys.  Since I've been back to work, I haven't really done that b/c it's the only time I get to see my babies.  My parents do either come down or take the boys every other Saturday night so that DH and I can go out on our own. 
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  • Shayna0182Shayna0182 member
    I get my time when ds goes to bed around 8:30.  That's when I mess around on the computer or watch some tv.  Dh and I never get to go out just the two of us, so it is hard.
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  • raceyraeraceyrae

    I'm wondering that myself.  Right now, DD#2 seems to want to be constantly held between 6 p.m. and 11 p.m. that by the time DH gets home (6 p.m.) I really don't get to take a break anyways.  Luckily DH makes dinner (he's always been the cook in our house) but I play with the two girls while he cooks, then do dishes, get DD#1 ready for bed, then spend the rest of the evening either nursing DD#2 or trying to get her to settle down (I hate the witching hours).  I'm hoping to go to my book club meeting next week by DH seems to think he can't handle the two girls by himself (although he'll be gone for a week at the beginning of February, leaving me to tackle bedtime with the two by mself).

    Honestly, I'm pretty exhausted right now and could really use some me time. 

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  • HappyTXChickHappyTXChick
    The kids and I get home at 4:30.  DH has a flexible schedule and usually gets home around 4:30 - 5:00 too.  (Some days he is already home when we get there doing some work from home, and every once in a while he gets caught up in a meeting till after 6:00)  So I have to admit we are lucky with good schedules.
    It is just understood that 5pm - 7pm is kid time.  We cook dinner, clean up, wash bottles, bathe kids, and DD is down by 6:30 and DS is down by 7:00.  But we work together really well.  If I'm bathing kids, he is washing bottles and dishes (or vice versa).  When DS goes down at 7pm, it is our time.  We either watch our DVR'd shows, I go jogging, go soak in the bath, one of us runs out to do some shopping that we need to do, etc.  But the key is that my DH is amazing and works with me.  We don't even have to discuss who will do what anymore.  If he starts cooking, then I entertain kids, then if he is giving a bath, I clean the kitchen.  Talk to your DH about working together while the kids are awake and then when the kiddos are down taking care of individual things you need to do, have couple time, or YOU time!
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  • HappyTXChickHappyTXChick

    I should also add...

    You (and some of the other posters) have younger babies than mine.  When DD was that young it was definitely harder.  Whent hey fall into a good sleep routine things get MUCH easier!

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