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3rd Trimester
bb80
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This is really stupid but... (shower related)
bb80
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I gotta get it out!!
My mom hosted a huge shower for my brother's "baby momma" a few months ago...she basically invited her whole facebook list....on facebook...even though my mom wanted to do paper invites. A ton of people showed up...most of them she barely talks to though...My poor mom spent hundreds of dollars.
Fast forward to august, baby is born, DNA test is run, NOT his kid.....yep
she's bsc, if i told you all about it we would be here alllllll day
I am not inviting that many people, only close family and friends maybe 30 ppl will show up. I can't help but think that her shower will outshine mine.....BAD i know!! a lot of the same ppl will be there..and i wonder if they're gonna wonder why hers was so big and mine is so small....i have a problem with obsessing over what other people think of me, can you tell?
I guess venting, flame if you must
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Re: This is really stupid but... (shower related)
Wow. I feel bad for your mom. What a kick in the balls.
FWIW, I don't think anyone will compare your showers. At least I wouldn't if I was invited to both of them. I prefer small intimate crowds anyway.
I am not going to flame you, we all have little confessions that we know are stupid but we can't help it!
here's mine to make you feel better...
am a teacher and it seems to be teachers favorite thing to "go in" on gifts....so people will throw in 5 or 10 bucks towards something and that is there shower gift...that annoys me but I know it sounds totally stuck up! haha.
GL
thanks.....
the thing about my mom is, she is super forgiving, almost to a fault. they waited three months to even do a dna test, and by then she was bonded to the baby so now she babysits all the time, for free
Just enjoy your shower and don't worry about what anyone else thinks! Everybody is different and likes different things...
As long as those that mean the most to you and are important in your life are there, that is all that matters! Some people need to invite huge amounts of people that they aren't even in contact with or are not a big part of their life, clearly for other reasons... which seems to be the case with that girl...
I say just enjoy what you want and what you are comfortable with.
i totally know what you mean
ty, that made me feel a bit better
That would bother me too.. everyone feels like this every once in awhile about one thing or another..
for example, i'm due soon- and last night my BIL's BSC fiance announced that she thinks she may be KU, again (their DS will be 1 on the 23rd..) and she SHOULD not IMO (and others) be having another child.. at least this soon! For her health and the babies (she had many complications and my nephew was premature and the Dr told her to wait at least 3 years before TTC baby #2)
Anyways, she's an attention go-getter.. and now I kinda feel like everything is on her when my baby is about to be born... I know it's stupid and immature to feel this way, but I do... even tho i'm sure it'll all be good- lol
this is my MFFC!
I am also a teacher! I completely understand. There are so many things I need (first baby) and I know I will get one or two because this always happens. It sounds selfish but if is true! My family had a shower for me and no one shopped on the registry they bought whatever they wanted so I am starting to panic!! I do not have a diaper bag, bottles, etc and the baby is due in three weeks!
Sidenote: I am also married to a firefighter (a very cliche couple)!
IMO, I think people might actually PREFER the smaller shower. Gives them more one on one time with you so to speak.
I personally would rather 20 people that I know give a darn about me than 50 that haven't spoken to me in months or years. . . A babyshower is a celebration of the pregnancy (the baby) You don't want to worry about entertaining a lot of people when you,re trying to enjoy yourself.
I have no comment on your shower situation, but how sh!tty do you have to be as a person to allow someone else's mom to throw you a huge shower and then use them for a free babysitter once it came out that they were not the grandparent of your child?
Pretty sh!tty, if you ask me.
I was going to say something similar to what NastyAnnie said - your Brother's baby mama sounds like a big hillbilly A)for doing that to your mom and B)for inviting all those people. I am sure your shower will be much nicer and much classier.