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trizzie
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m/c 01-07-10
If you have had a loss, please come in...
trizzie
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I know there are loss boards on here and the ladies on there are fantastic. But, I *know* more people here and feel more comfortable here. I m/c on Thursday, it was our first loss and it was early (six weeks). Frankly, I am in a tailspin - completely depressed and at the same time anxious to start trying again. And totally nervous about this happening again even though the doctor said there was no reason to fear it since it was our first loss and I have had a successful pregnancy. I guess I don't really have a question after all, I just needed to get this all out. I have never felt so awful in my life. If you made it this far - thanks. (sorry to be a debbie downer 
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Re: If you have had a loss, please come in...
I am so very sorry for your loss.
I had two miscarriages before we had DS, and it was the worst time of my life. What you're feeling is totally normal. I couldn't wait to try again, but I was also scared to death at the thought of trying again and surviving another 1st tri.
I highly recommend the book 'Pregnancy After a Loss' by Carol Cirulli Lanham. Take care!
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I'm so sorry
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I'm glad that you posted though - it's important to talk about it and grieve. ?I have been in your shoes and it sucked.
?I'm always here to listen, if you ever want to talk PM me. But I assure you that everything you feel is normal. XOXO?
I'm so sorry. It is completely nerve wracking. After my loss I was so eager to ttc again, but I was nervous as hell.
Everyday it gets a little better.
I lost my first pregnancy at 7 weeks, had to have a D&C. I was devasted and "scarred for life".
2 months later I found out I was pg again and that beautiful girl in my siggie is the result. There is hope after m/c, even though it is really, really hard to believe.
I am SO sorry for your loss. I still shed tears for that baby that will never be. What you are feeling is completely normal. You will be scared to death with your next pg, but there is hope that everything will be just fine. I am no longer scarred for life, just thankful for my little girl. I will be totally scared with the next pg as well.
You really lose alot of innocence when you miscarry. It takes the carefree fun of pregnancy away forever.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I also had one around 6 weeks, it happened the day after Thanksigiving. Mine was an ectopic, we only found out that I was pregnant 5 days before our loss because it was ectopic. So it was definitely a roller coaster of emotions to say the least.
I am very anxious to begin trying again, but unfortunately we aren't able to until March, so it's hard waiting. But I'm also very nervous because my chances of it happening again raise from 1% to 12%. And even though I didn't lose my tube, I'm afraid that it's damaged and I'll have trouble getting pregnant again.
Hang in there!
Don't apologize at all. I could have written this myself three months ago. I am sorry for your loss, and my thoughts go out to you and your family. I will say having DD around made it much easier to make it through each day.
Triz, it gets better but, in the mean time let yourself grieve. What you're feeling is completely normal.
I had a m/c right before Emerson. I had one period and got pregnant with Emerson right away. I know several ladies that are on tonight that the exact same thing happened to them.
Your pregnancy hormones are up right now. If you're serious about getting pregnant again soon, really try after this first af comes. I can almost promise you you'll get pregnant immediately!
In the mean time know that everything you're feeling is perfectly normal. Everything will eventually get better. I'm sorry you're having to go through it. It hurts like hell.
I'm so sorry. I had a m/c before DD was born. Whenever I hear anything like this, I can remember like yesterday the feelings and the sense of sadness. First, it's ok to be sad. And the book mentioned is good. The doctor's office gave it to me and I was super pissed off about it (I don't know why). But, in the end, it did make me feel better. Let yourself mourn your loss. Talk to your husband/friends/family if you can and feel like it. If you don't feel like it, then don't. Give it time. Know that things always happen for a reason - cliche but true.
I'm so sorry : (
I m/c at 6 weeks also before dd. My best piece of advice is to face the sad feelings you are feeling. I bottled mine up and I think the loss really bothered me more then I ever knew. And talk to your dh about it a lot, that will help.
Ditto : ( After we got pg again (6 months after I m/c) it was hard not to worry and to get excited about the pregnancy. Just know that there are a lot women who have gone through and don't ever be afraid to talk about it.
Sorry for your loss =( I've been there and it sucks. I'm still not "over it" and I don't think I ever will be. Even though it was early loss, don't let anyone tell you to minimize your feelings just because you were "only" 6 weeks. If it helps any, I make sure to remember my baby on the day that we lost him/her. Every December 22nd I light a candle and burn it for the entire day. It's something small to do but it reasures me that my baby is remembered.
I m/c Dec 22nd 2007 at 5.5wks, got my first AF on Jan 17th 2008 and got a BFP Feb 17th 2008. So if you are up for TTC again, things with your cycle should hopefully return to normal.
GL! my pregnancy with DD was nervewracking but at a certain point you have to remember to take a breathe and know that m/c are beyond your control, and the odds of it happening again are low.
2 beautiful children
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I'm so sorry, I know exactly what you are going through. I m/c at just over 6weeks a week before Christmas and I was stunned, because my first pregnancy with DD was so great and no complications. It never occured to me I could suffer a m/c, but it can happen to anyone with no rhyme or reason
I just got my post m/c AF so we are on to our first cycle of trying again, fingers crossed. Doesn't mean we'll forget about that baby, but life does go on.
I had a 7 week loss almost 9 years ago. It was an early loss, but it took a long time to grieve. I walked around with an emptiness until DS was conceived. Sure I was a nervous wreck the 1st tri, but I expected that. Since DS was born, I felt whole again.
Take whatever time you need to grieve. Talk to someone. Very few people IRL know about my loss.
I am sorry about your loss. I found out that I was expecting the end of last March & then on Holy Thursday (won't forget that day...) I had my miscarriage. It has taken my body months for it to get back on the right track. I don't think I got my period back until the end of June...errrrrr.
Good luck & if you need to talk just PM me.
I'm so sorry
I had a m/c in Sept (at almost 13 weeks). Please PM if you ever want to talk.
As for the mc/pl and TTCAL boards, I found them intimidating as well, but I now find myself going to the TTCAL board before coming here. The ladies there are amazing.
We're on our 3rd cycle TTC post D&C and basd on my temp drop this morning (and BFN yesterday), I don't think we're getting the BFP this month.