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Visitation
I am very curious as to how visitation works for everyone else. Mr. Douche only has scheduled visitation for 10 hours a week which, I am assuming, is less than most folks that have visitation.
What is your visitation schedule?
How did you decide that is what it would be?
How often does it really happen?
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Re: Visitation
What is your visitation schedule?
He gets them Tuesday from 4:00-6:30 and Friday from 6:00 pm - Saturday at 6:00 pm. He gets two weeks of vaca in the summer.
How did you decide that is what it would be?
I had an idea in mind that this is the schedule I wanted. I had my attorney offer him 8 hours a week on Saturday, supervised by his mother. His attorney came back with this schedule, which is what I wanted in the first place. I like to play hardball.
How often does it really happen?
Well, he actually took the girls yesterday from 6-6. Color me surprised because it was his first overnighter. Of course, he claims he didn't put them to bed until 10, they were up all night, and slept until 1 pm today. I hate dealing with the fallout.
What is your visitation schedule?
My ex has 2-3 weekends a month, provided he is off of work. (He works a 24hr shift.) We alternate holidays on an even/odd yearly schedule. He has two weeks in the summer, and the week of Christmas-New Years Day.
How did you decide that is what it would be?
My attorney and I decided, but I believe its pretty standard. I specifically put the verbiage in about him being off of work. There is no reason for my daughter to be with him if he is working. We are going to amend the visitation to include my son in the next few months. After that, ex will pick up both children or he will not have either one of them. I will not allow him to continue to separate the kids.
How often does it really happen?
Not very often. In December alone, he stood her up one weekend, and had her for only 6 hrs on Christmas Day. I think he only had her for 12 hours last month, 12/6 for 6hrs, and 12/25 for 6hrs. He has never had visitation with his son.
What is your visitation schedule?
He gets DD Wednesday from 5 PM tp 7 PM and Friday from 6:00 pm - Sunday at 6:00 pm. Every other holiday and 2 weeks of vavca a year.
How did you decide that is what it would be?
We worked it out ourselves. I sent a parenting plan that has some verbiage he didn't like and it started with supervised visits, work to all day visits unsupervised and then after 6 month was the schedule we have now. He hated it, got p1ssed, changed the wording and agreed to everything.
How often does it really happen?
What actually happens is he gets EOW and the option to have every Saturday(9-5 PM) ifI don't have plans with DD. (I work Saturdays).
Usually he takes about one saturday a month. He'll go 3-4 weeks without seeing her and then he'll see her every week for a couple weeks. Then back to not seeing her. So, it is very back and forth.
I'm thrilled to have my time with DD plus he lives over and hour away so I don't mind when he skips. Of course when she gets older and it hurts her feelings I will rethink that.
What is your visitation schedule?
7 hr visit on one of his days off each week. Depending on how his days off fall he can also have a short visit (2-3 hrs) if it means going a full week without seeing her. He is also entitled to 2 24 hr periods in the month. Ours is a bit loose because his days off rotate each week. We share time on the holidays- he takes her from 2-4 hrs. Oh he also gets two weeks of vacation (not consecutive)
How did you decide that is what it would be?
Through our lawyers. At the time he had crazy ideas as to what he wanted- just trying to get to me as he knew the baby was the way to hurt me. So we offered him minimal and then sort of met partway. We had a whole formal plan that spelled out exactly how to increase his visits as he had never spent long periods of time with her before.
How often does it really happen?
In the beginning he actually saw her for most of what he was entitled, except the sleepovers were never quite 24 hrs, which is fine with me. Now, he sees her for 2 hours most weeks, and maybe 1 overnight a month, but for example, next week he is picking her up at 6:30 pm (she goes to bed at 8) and bringing her to daycare at 7:30am. So- its like he does it to just be able to say he did it. No quality time there.... As much as it annoys me at times, I do feel that this works best for my dd. Long visits are hard for her as he has no clue and she wants to come home. My worry is that all of a sudden his gf will push him to be more involved and all of a sudden he will want all of this time- which will be very hard for dd (who is dx with some emotional things- one of which is separation anxiety from me). Imagine being a gf to a guy who sees his kid for 2 hrs a week and thinking he is just "so great"? barf!!
What is your visitation schedule?
Every other weekend Saturday 9 AM through Sunday 6 PM
Holiday- Christmas Eve and Father's Day
How did you decide that is what it would be?
When we got divorced, he asked for the every other weekend and nothing else. I suggested the 2 holidays.
How often does it really happen?
So far so good. He follows through on the time to the exact minute.
What is your visitation schedule?
Ex has supervised visits 3x/week, Tuesdays, Thursdays and Sundays for three hours each. To be supervised in my home by me unless we agree upon something else.
How did you decide that is what it would be? Decided through mediation although ex-H is now mad at me because he doesn't get that much time and he can't drive anywhere with him.
How often does it really happen?
Less than half of the time and when he does come he is usually late and leaves early...unless he spends time trying to harass me about getting back together.