"You can take Tylenol for that." (back from l&d)

Re: "You can take Tylenol for that." (back from l&d)

• akaluttenberger

  January 2010

  I hope she was at least kind how she said all that- the thing about the medical community is that they see the same thing over and over again and tend to blow people off or treat them condecendingly, even when it is NEW to the person experiencing it.  I myself have been guilty of this.

  Hope you feel better soon! (ie ba-by-ba-by ba-by)

  (edit- not hoping you go prematurely, just hoping the time passes quickly for you, and pain free)

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• serrill2

  January 2010

  She was just being snarky.  You had waves of back pain that was regular and slight bleeding and you are 5 days to a term baby.

  She could have been nicer.

  They acted like that on one of my kids, didn't take me seriously because I was about as far along as you.  When they finally got around to checking me, I was over 6 cm, they had to call a stat and she was here in less than an hour with them dressing my OB in blues as he ran into the room to catch her.

  I wouldn't feel badly if I were you, you did the right thing to go in.

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• lecooke

  January 2010

  Well I sure felt stupid.  But I could just tell that she was thinking I was a dumbass the whole time.  Oh well.
  

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• Lambie. member

  January 2010

  OK, people are probably going to think I am totally shiity for this confession but I am putting it out there.  I am 100% guilty of saying those things (although I hope I was a little more helpful than take Tylenol) to pregnant woman as an L&D nurse.  I did NOT say it to be snarky or mean but like mentioned, we can sometimes become desensitized to the situation.  Don't feel bad or stupid, you didn't know and you were encouraged to go in.  It is better to be safe than sorry.  If you had sex and were spotting I believe you were having contractions as I have seen tons of people come to the hospital for the exact same thing only to have their sex contractions die off after a couple to several hours.  Happens all the time.  And her comment wasn't for you but for the women who go in over and over at the end of their pregnancy because they are genuinely uncomfortable or impatient but hoping they can fool someone into thinking they are in labor so they will get their baby delivered.  Also happens all the time.  Sorry you had a bad experience.

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• lecooke

  January 2010

  I'm just going to assume that she hadn't had her morning coffee yet.  And while I was a bit sensitive to how she said everything, I don't blame her.

  I just hope that once Monday comes around I'm not still feeling like this.  Because it's going to be rather hard to work.  But I'm just going to try to relax today and hope that things are better tomorrow.

  This whole end of pregnancy scares the shiit out of me.  
  

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• akaluttenberger

  January 2010

  I realize I generalized above by saying the "medical community tends to" --my apologies-- an accurate statement would have read "SOME in the medical community tend to."

  There are so many quality professionals out there who don't let the daily grind affect how they treat the individual patient, and for that we can all be grateful.

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• Lambie. member

  January 2010

  akaluttenberger:

  I realize I generalized above by saying the "medical community tends to" --my apologies-- an accurate statement would have read "SOME in the medical community tend to."

  There are so many quality professionals out there who don't let the daily grind affect how they treat the individual patient, and for that we can all be grateful.

  True, but even they can have an off day.  Doctors, nurses etc. are human also.

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• lecooke

  January 2010

  Lambie.:

  akaluttenberger:

  I realize I generalized above by saying the "medical community tends to" --my apologies-- an accurate statement would have read "SOME in the medical community tend to."

  There are so many quality professionals out there who don't let the daily grind affect how they treat the individual patient, and for that we can all be grateful.

  True, but even they can have an off day.  Doctors, nurses etc. are human also.

  Everyone has off days no matter what you do.  I find myself snapping at my students all of the time when I shouldn't have.  Shiit happens!
  

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• jCamsquared

  January 2010

  I'm sorry you were made to feel stupid, but I'm glad you went in. Like PP said, it's better to be safe than sorry. Hopefully Daven will cook a couple more weeks though!

  

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• bdjSLP

  January 2010

  You know, it's really hard to know when labor starts.  Don't be too hard on yourself.  Thank goodness my water broke because when I got to the hospital, I was having contractions and couldn't even feel them at first.  Just felt crampy.  Hang in there!
  

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• Anna&Matt member

  January 2010

  FWIW we've been to L&D twice for false alarms now and both times felt like an idiot. But they said it's better to go get checked out than not so we have been.

  That said before I even consider it now I try the tylenol and juice and nap thing - if I can nap through the contractions I figure it's not the real thing.

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• Mee83shell member

  January 2010

  lecooke:

  After being convinced to go in and being monitored for an hour, I'm not in labor.  Not even dilated at all.  I feel stupid.

  The nurse said that I wasn't having contractions and I said well what do you call it then?  I freaking hurt bad!

  That's just being pregnant.

  Are you friggin kidding me?

  The nurse said to come back in when I'm really in labor.  Oh yeah, and take some Tylenol.  

  FFS.

  False alarm.  Sorry, ladies!
  

  Better to be safe than sorry.  And seriously, if you hurt that bad, it sounds like more than just being pregnant.   

  I'm sure you're disappointed...sorry we got your hopes up!
  

  
  1/1 Spotting, 1/3 beta 36,000, 1/5 u/s empty sac measuring 7w (9w5d), 1/6 d&c
  You will always be loved & missed our sweet angel.

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