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Success after IF
epphd
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I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
Brutal (infant care) day
epphd
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Starting at 10 a.m. and continuing still, Sam has cried non-stop (and HARD) unless he is feeding, or at least latched/half latched. DH came home this evening and between the two of us we got him settled down and napping, but he hasn't slept for more than 45 minutes all day.
I think he is sore from the circ, and (thanks to you guys) I was able to give him some tylenol and will keep it up as often as possible.
It took 3 hours but I did manage to place an order to amazon for The Happiest Baby on the Block and No-Cry Sleep solution (for later).
I am starting to feel better mastitis wise, but in no way am 100% better. The doc said 24-48 hours after starting meds I should feel great... here's hoping by tomorrow there is a bigger improvement.
Man, this is hard!
I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
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Re: Brutal (infant care) day
Hang in there...it WILL get better. Those first couple weeks are exhausting! Everyone would say to me try to enjoy it b/c it will be gone before you know it. I didn't believe them....and now a year later....I get a full nights sleep. Well most nights....
The nursing will get better too! It's that first month you have to get through & then all of a sudden it just clicks for both of you.
Good luck!!
Nancy
I'm sorry you guys had a rough day. Here are some thoughts: do you swaddle Sam? He was so used to being all warm and tight (for lack of a better word) in your belly - so swaddling will bring him comfort, and hopefully calm him down. I absolutely swear by the Miracle Blanket. We tried all of those other swaddling blankets and they weren't half as good as the Miracle Blanket. You can get one from Amazon.com ; I can't recommend it enough.
Also, try bouncing him (preferably swadded) on a yoga ball with a vacuum or hair dryer on.
And I'm sure you know, but burping is huge with babies. My DS was so sad tonight and I patted his back for a looooooong time and he finally burped and he was then a happy little guy
Good luck! Tomorrow is a new day - and it WILL get better. You're doing a great job!
Ugh, I'm so sorry...those first few weeks are SO FREAKING HARD.
If you can, get your hands on a copy of the HBOTB DVD--it's really good and succinct and just as good as wading through the entire book, which I know you don't have time or energy for. I checked it out at the public library....maybe have your DH call and see if they have it.
When H was a newborn the biggest thing that helped us from HBOTB was the "shhhhhhh" part. Really loudly in his ear. Match his crying volume with your "shhhhhhh" volume. Worked like a charm to calm Henry down. Still does, actually.
GOOD LUCK!
The first few weeks are awful. Tight swaddles are your friend. White noise is your friend. Holding baby sort of on his side and swooshing him back and forth while loudly (but nicely) saying SHHHHH SHHHHHH SHHHHHH can be helpful (this is all Happiest Baby on the Block stuff.)
Nursing like a nut is TOTALLY normal right now - he's working with your body to establish a good supply.
Hang in there E!!!!
"When it comes to sleeping, whatever your baby does is normal. If one thing has damaged parents enjoyment of their babies, it's rigid expectations about how and when the baby should sleep." ~ James McKenna, Ph.D., Mother Baby Behavioral Sleep Center, University of Notre Dame
hang in there...
the HBOTB will help, and so will time..
Thanks everyone - I think that's why it was so hard today...nothing seemed to help - not shushing, not swaddling, not mobi-ing, not white noise. That's why we think he is just uncomfortable
Hopefully tomorrow will be better, for both of us!!
And yes, I ordered the HBOTB DVD and book because I'm a dork. And I'm reading Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. I suspect all of these books will contradict each other to some degree but I am fully prepared to only accept the parts that make sense to us
Thankfully DH is a huge help. He is out picking up dinner - yea!
And of course, you guys are great - again, thank you!
I am a runner, knitter, scientist, DE-IVF veteran, and stage III colon cancer survivor.
I am a firm believer in taking bits and pieces from different philosophies, in order to form your own style of parenting... I combined the baby whisperer and HBOTB to some eventual success... and I am doing the same with toddler discipline! There is something in each of those books that will work for you!!
I'm sorry, honey, it can be so hard!
I actually ordered The Happiest Baby to my kindle yesterday! Oh, and I bought a swing Thursday night, put it together yesterday, and it's been a miracle!!
As a previous poster brought up gas becomes a big problem around now as they are taking in bigger gulps of milk. My DD cried and cried for about four days before I figuered out is was gas, I began burping after each breast and many times it took longer then breast feeding to get a bubble out (and it turns out each kiddo has their own trick to it), gas drops like they are going out of style, before every feeding, bicycles with the legs, massaging the tummy, some tummy time.
Also you are now on meds for mastasis, so look out for thush which can be terribly uncomfortable on babies, heck my toddler had it and it made her miserable.
Hope today is a better day, and I am glad you DH is helping out, food and sleep are so awsome at this time. And you son is adorable.
Oh, I totally know where you are coming from. Our DS didn't sleep much the first 8 weeks and sounds alot like yours. It got lots better at 8wks, who knows why. We did use a lot of gas meds thru that time too as it seemed to help some. I had mastistis only once and it was killer, hurt for a few days. The boob it happened to lost some production and has not regained it in the last 4 months. We did try HBOTB and thought some of it helped. Our baby just wanted to be held, walked around, constantly for 8 wks.