Well, that took my breath away

stephm0188 · January 2010

After last night's Facebook post, I've just been adding people left and right. I opened up my friend request page a few minutes ago because I saw I had one waiting for me.

It's from my mother.

The same mother who ditched me when I was a kid,

I seriously feel like throwing up. And there's my dirty laundry for you all to see.

EStar628 · January 2010

whoa.

mlf625 · January 2010

Wowsa. That's intense. Did you add her?

destea1 · January 2010

Uuuuggggh seriously?? WTF could possibly be going through that woman's head? "Hey sorry I ditched ya - but hey! Let's be FB friends so I can apologize real nice like over the interweb!".

Sorry Steph, that's crap.

AngieandTony · January 2010

that is heavy. you have a lot of options here. you could ignore the request and then go to settings and block her completely. or you could add her and then completely restrict her access to your stuff and see where it goes.

good luck with whatever you choose.

TrumpetBride · January 2010

holy crap. I'm sorry Steph. Sad

J+O · January 2010

Oh wow. I'm sorry Steph.

I've learned facebook can be a bad thing... It gives people the opportunity to say things to people they really barely know, but feel that they do because they can catch a glimpse into your life. It's a fake relationship behind a screen for some.

mamamoos · January 2010

crazy.

intense is right. wow.

crappy that she reached out through facebook. are you ok with the fact that she reached out at all?

TheNerdyKatie · January 2010

I am sorry sweetie. If you need to talk to me I am here for you. Left Hug

Momma.Brown · January 2010

oh wow steph. thats intense.

i dont even know what to say to you to make you feel better about that. (hugs)

KittyCatBio · January 2010

*hugs*

stephm0188 · January 2010

It's not happening. Hell will freeze over first.

Up until I had Adam, I was always pretty matter-of-fact about it... "Yeah, my mother abandoned us after our dad died."

But ass corny as this is going to sound, once I had him all these new angry feelings hit.... How does a mother do that to her child?? I can't even fathom it.

It's not just me I have to protect. I have Adam, and I don't ever want him to know what she's like.

mamamoos · January 2010

stephm0188:

It's not happening. Hell will freeze over first.

Up until I had Adam, I was always pretty matter-of-fact about it... "Yeah, my mother abandoned us after our dad died."

But ass corny as this is going to sound, once I had him all these new angry feelings hit.... How does a mother do that to her child?? I can't even fathom it.

It's not just me I have to protect. I have Adam, and I don't ever want him to know what she's like.

i had no idea about the backstory. you're definitely making the right call.

((hugs))

Mjmksb04 · January 2010

Wow, I am sorry.

MrsG2B07 · January 2010

destea1:
Uuuuggggh seriously?? WTF could possibly be going through that woman's head? "Hey sorry I ditched ya - but hey! Let's be FB friends so I can apologize real nice like over the interweb!".

Sorry Steph, that's crap.

I agree. That's probably not the best way to re-connect with your child.

J+O · January 2010

stephm0188:
But ass corny as this is going to sound, once I had him all these new angry feelings hit.... How does a mother do that to her child?? I can't even fathom it.

Not corny at all!

You know, a lot of new emotions from my childhood came back when I had Jack too and I got really angry. Things I thought I was over... but I started to see a counselor and he said major life events will trigger those feelings all over again sometimes, like when you have a child, or Adam becomes the age when your mother left, or when Adam has a child himself someday.

JAC1027 · January 2010

I'm sorry, that sucks.

sunnygyrl · January 2010

That is so wrong. I am sorry!

*blondiem* · January 2010

I am sorry, Steph.

carolinag · January 2010

ignore ignore ignore.

any mother who doesn't want to be a part of your real life does NOT get to be a part of your fb life. she doesn't get to deserve to see pictures of you and adam.

i'm so sorry steph.

Mrs.McLovin · January 2010

Ugh.

MrsJuneHawk · January 2010

Ignore, block and GOOD RIDDANCE! Super Angry

*NNO* · January 2010

I'm taking a quick break from studying, and just saw your post.
That is a hard pill to swallow. I would be in complete shock, then would feel anger, then would totally shut down.
Why would she think everything is fine and dandy, and she can try to be "friends" with you.
I'm sorry...but certain people need to have the welcome mat swept from under them. She is obviously not welcome into your life.

Sorry you are dealing with this mess.

Gramyson · January 2010

how lame of her to ask you to be fb friends. seriously.

i'm sorry, steph...that sucks.

SuperCuteBenz · January 2010

I am sorry you have to deal with this!

On a similiar note, my father hasn't talked to me in almost 11 years. He lives in Virginia. For some reason he added himself to the Omaha network, and now he randomly appears in my people to add.

It makes me sick just to see his picture.

megontoast · January 2010

stephm0188:

It's not happening. Hell will freeze over first.

Up until I had Adam, I was always pretty matter-of-fact about it... "Yeah, my mother abandoned us after our dad died."

But ass corny as this is going to sound, once I had him all these new angry feelings hit.... How does a mother do that to her child?? I can't even fathom it.

It's not just me I have to protect. I have Adam, and I don't ever want him to know what she's like.

My DH went through these same emotions after Samantha was born. His mother left when he was 3 and he was raised by his alcoholic dad, his 2 older brothers and his nana. His mom has tried to re-connect and DH tried too for many years, but she was so unstable and unpredictible. But once Samantha was born, he said "forget it". He can never understand how she could leave her 3 boys, for no good reason. He doesn't want S to be exposed to that kind of instability.

You're doing the right thing by ignoring her request. She doesn't deserve to get to see pics of Adam or see how happy you are.. IMO. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.

Toosdai · January 2010

She clearly sucks at life. FB is not the way to mend that fence.

thomas&lynn · January 2010

mamamoos:
stephm0188:

It's not happening. Hell will freeze over first.

Up until I had Adam, I was always pretty matter-of-fact about it... "Yeah, my mother abandoned us after our dad died."

But ass corny as this is going to sound, once I had him all these new angry feelings hit.... How does a mother do that to her child?? I can't even fathom it.

It's not just me I have to protect. I have Adam, and I don't ever want him to know what she's like.

i had no idea about the backstory. you're definitely making the right call.
((hugs))

Honestly? Good for you! I admire your mama bear protector coming out big time.

stephm0188 · January 2010

Stephen just told me "My mom is enough for the both of us."

*NNO* · January 2010

stephm0188:

Stephen just told me "My mom is enough for the both of us."

Awww. : )

lisaroo · January 2010

I'm sorry Steph. That must have felt like a punch in the stomach

Ravings Rabbids · January 2010

I am so sorry.

But that is sweet what your hubs said.

Daisy77 · January 2010

Wow. After reading your responses, I think you're doing the right thing! What a shock though....

Back in Sept 08 I got a FB friend request from my half sister...who I hadn't seen or talked to in 20 years. We share the same bio-father (who was an a** to my mom and had ZERO sober contact with me in all my 31 years). I was so surprised and really struggled with adding her because I had no idea what her intentions were. I eventually did add her and it worked out well for us (she has disowned bio-father...I guess he never changed).

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