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Is 20 to 25 wks too early for a shower?

PrincessBrideSarahPrincessBrideSarah
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When I was pregnant in the Spring, my mom set a date for a shower almost as soon as I found out I was pregnant. This time around, my mom hadn't mentioned a shower, but I figured she still wanted to have one but didn't want to bring it up.

A few days ago, one of my very good friends (who lives on the East Coast) asked me if a shower were planned. She and I both still have parents in the same town, which is about 500 miles away from here. She really wants to be able to attend my baby shower. Since the shower in my hometown will likely be fairly small, I am completely fine with planning around when she can come in to town.

So, I talked to my mother, and she very much wants to host a shower. I am hesitant to travel so far away unless it is during the second trimester. That would mean I will likely be 20 to 25 weeks pregnant during this shower.

Is that too early? I might not even look pregnant as I am a bit, er, "fluffy."

I think that 8 to 10 hours each way in the car will be very uncomfortable once I am hugely pregnant. Also, the weather will still be relatively pleasant in March/early April, which is a huge plus.

I haven't wanted to even think about a baby shower or buying baby stuff, but I've been hearing the heartbeat on the doppler for the last few days and it seems like this baby is doing just fine. I know things could still go wrong, but they have a much higher chance of going right. I would really like to be able to celebrate with my hometown friends and family, very few of whom would be able/wiling to travel to an event held here in Texas.

So, what do you think? Would 20 to 25 weeks pregnant be "too early" for a shower held 500 miles away from where I live? 

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  • ali-1411ali-1411 member

    I'm sure it would be fine.  People usually wait to have the showers, but there's no rule about it.

    fwiw - I was traveling well into my 3rd trimester.  I think I was around 33 weeks when I flew to Detroit and back, then took a 14 hr drive to St Louis and back around 35 weeks.  It wasn't the best time ever traveling, but I managed :)

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  • rssnlvrrssnlvr
    I think it sounds like a great plan and the perfect time to have a shower. :-)
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  • PrincessBrideSarahPrincessBrideSarah
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    I'm sure it would be fine.  People usually wait to have the showers, but there's no rule about it.

    fwiw - I was traveling well into my 3rd trimester.  I think I was around 33 weeks when I flew to Detroit and back, then took a 14 hr drive to St Louis and back around 35 weeks.  It wasn't the best time ever traveling, but I managed :)

    I know that it is okay to travel up until about 34 weeks, but I'm very nervous about things going wrong due to all that we went through to get pregnant and our prior miscarriage. If the baby is born early and ends up in the NICU, I'd much rather it happen in Austin than far from where we live. And if something worse happens...well, I'd rather it happen with my own doctor.

    I wish I weren't like this--I wasn't so worried about things going wrong back when we were first trying to get pregnant. Heck, back then I didn't even want to have more than one or two ultrasounds when pregnant, and I've had five so far!

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    So the consensus seems to be--a little early but fine. Which is kind of what I figured.

    This shower will be pretty small with guests who have known me for many years--if not my whole life--so hopefully no one will think that I should have waited longer.

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  • FireChiefsBrideFireChiefsBride member
    imagePrincessBrideSarah:

    So the consensus seems to be--a little early but fine. Which is kind of what I figured.

    This shower will be pretty small with guests who have known me for many years--if not my whole life--so hopefully no one will think that I should have waited longer.

    I might think it was odd if it was an in-town friend, but this totally makes sense and it sounds like the people there will be good friends, as opposed to acquaintances who may not be as fmailiar with your situation.

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    I'm sure it would be fine.  People usually wait to have the showers, but there's no rule about it.

    fwiw - I was traveling well into my 3rd trimester.  I think I was around 33 weeks when I flew to Detroit and back, then took a 14 hr drive to St Louis and back around 35 weeks.  It wasn't the best time ever traveling, but I managed :)

    I know that it is okay to travel up until about 34 weeks, but I'm very nervous about things going wrong due to all that we went through to get pregnant and our prior miscarriage. If the baby is born early and ends up in the NICU, I'd much rather it happen in Austin than far from where we live. And if something worse happens...well, I'd rather it happen with my own doctor.

    I wish I weren't like this--I wasn't so worried about things going wrong back when we were first trying to get pregnant. Heck, back then I didn't even want to have more than one or two ultrasounds when pregnant, and I've had five so far!

    Sure, I get that.

    You might want to consider....are you finding out the sex?  That usually doesn't happen until 18 - 20 weeks.  You wouldn't be giving yourself a whole lot of time to register if you want gender-themed stuff.  That might not be important to you guys.  Just something else to consider :)

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    So the consensus seems to be--a little early but fine. Which is kind of what I figured.

    This shower will be pretty small with guests who have known me for many years--if not my whole life--so hopefully no one will think that I should have waited longer.

    I think it's fine to have a shower that early.  especially since you're traveling and trying to plan around that

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  • PrincessBrideSarahPrincessBrideSarah

    Regarding the gender question--I'm told my doctor does an ultrasound at 16 weeks, so we should know the first week of February.

    I know the baby may not cooperate, but I'm okay with not knowing the gender at the shower. My guess is that there will probably be about 15 people at the shower, which is not huge. If we are "team green" at that point, I guess we'll just end up with lots of white, yellow, and green clothes.

    Our in-town friends--if they do anything--would likely know the baby's gender for sure since there would be no need to celebrate so early.

    But ultimately, we have money saved to provide everything our baby will need. Baby shower presents are just bonuses.

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  • kiarox2002kiarox2002
    I would think it was odd if it was an in-town shower, but not an out-of-town one.
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