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My DH is scaring me... and a ?
So twice DH already has asked when we want to start actively trying for a 2nd child. It took us 18 months the first time to concieve so we had already decided we wouldn't prevent anything. I'm fine with the idea of throwing caution to the wind, but he keeps talking about about actively trying(which for us will be more of a process due to our issues)
The phrase "I wouldn't mind Irish twins" was uttered. 
So my question is, when the baby actually gets here, he's going to realize that this is hard and we will be getting no sleep, right?
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Re: My DH is scaring me... and a ?
Nice
You'd think he might change his tune a little bit once LO arrives...
HOWEVER just FYI my crazy DH asked me the other day when I wanted to start TTC #2. He suggest August. I assumed he meant of 2011... but no. August as in this August... when DS will only be 9 months old.
He seems to think having them really close together would be fun for them (I agree, but not fun for my uterus), save us money in financial aid when they're in college at the same time (that is SO far away!), and get the diapering years overwith roughly all at once... not the worst reasoning I've ever heard, but I had been thinking we wouldn't start trying until DS was 18 months at least. We'll see!
Good luck in your last few weeks!
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I was a "let's see how the first one goes" kind of gal and I was ready for #2 before we left the hospital with #1. We managed to wait 8 months before we started trying and we ended up with an 18 month difference. Just saying...
But yes, the reality of a newborn could easily change his mind. DH had all these things in his head about how easy it was going to be and changed his tune on a lot of them once the baby arrived.
My DH was already talking to my mom about wanting baby #2 when we got home from the hospital with C
We have always wanted them close in age, but the reality of that is really scaring me too! I mean, a girl's gotta have time to fully heal right?
Sorry, don't mean to scare you more!
abso-freaking-lutely.
But I also think it's easier for guys to be casual about things like that because the reality of it is that the woman really does do the majority of the work. It's the woman's body that gets jacked up. It's the woman who stays home on maternity leave. It's the woman who is up feeding (usually even if it's formula) in the middle of the night. DH even said when DD was only about a month old that he can see the benefit of having twins--twice the work for but half the time--and I wanted to kickhiminthenuts. Sure HE thinks it would make things easier, but HE wouldn't be the one staying home with them all day every day.