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This might be a little morbid...

Junebride 09Junebride 09 member
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DH's grandpa died on Saturday and on our way home from the funeral we were talking about death and how we would want things.  This is how the converstaton went:

Me: I have no idea what I would do if you died.

DH: All you would be thinking about is my sperm.

Me: Are you kidding me. That would be the last thing I would think about.

DH: Well you should you need to hurry up and get it.

Me:Indifferent

He said that he would want me to tell the docotors to get his sperm so I could freeze it and have a baby with it later.  I don't know if I could do this.  Does anybody else think this is weird and would you do that with your DH?

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  • PinkLove-SPinkLove-S
    I really don't think i could do that but i've heard of some women doing that. To each their own i guess, i just don't think i could....
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  • WI-mommy-hopefulWI-mommy-hopeful member
    Im with you... I don't know if I could do that... and it certainly would be the last thing on my mind.
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  • eyecndieyecndi
    I know I couldn't do that. As badly as I want a baby....I couldn't even think about having my DH's baby without him!!!
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  • chuleysnacketychuleysnackety
    Ugh, I probably wouldnt be thinking of that either, but would probably appreciate the foresite afterwards..
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  • MegannJayMegannJay member
    I've heard about some women wanting to do that... but I don't just want a baby, I want a baby WITH my DH... if he wasn't there, I don't know that I could handle it:/
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  • Junebride 09Junebride 09 member

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    I know I couldn't do that. As badly as I want a baby....I couldn't even think about having my DH's baby without him!!!

     This is exactly what I thought.  I would never want to have his child without him.  I do remeber there was a lady on Oprah who did this.  Her husband had cancer so they froze his sperm so they didn't have to worry about the chemo damaging them.  Well he did not survive and she went on to have twins with his sperm after he died.

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  • Jill070707Jill070707
    If it were possible, not thinking of logistics, I would totally want that.  If he didn't want kids before he passed away, I wouldn't.  But knowing how we both want it, if I lost him I would absolutely want to have his child. 
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  • moviesprincessmoviesprincess
    My husband and I have talked about it before. I would want to get his sperm for a few reasons. What if I never meet someone else, but I still want kids...I could use his sperm rather than have some strangers baby. Or what if I do meet someone else and his sperm does not work, we could use my husbands. Of course, I would not want this to happen but it has just come up in a few conversations of donating organs.
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  • jillybean800jillybean800 member
    Though I would want kids from him, as the pp said, I wouldn't be able to have his child without him there.
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  • Nicole0012Nicole0012 member

    I can definitely see both sides to this. Granted, I might feel differently if something like this actually happened, but I think that keeping the sperm and then having his baby later would serve more than one purpose: having a baby, and keeping a part of my DH around.

     

    God, this IS morbid...

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  • little_starslittle_stars
    I really don't think I could/would do that. It's a personal decision though. 
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