TTC After a Loss

I knew it was only time... and it happened today.

I took a client out to lunch today. We were talking about life. He started to tell me about his 4 kids... and then he asked the question I was dreading.

Him: Do you have children?

Me: I have a daughter - but, she has passed.

Him: I am so sorry to hear that.

I was really proud of myself for keeping my cool. I didn't get emotional, I didn't get upset... I knew it was only a matter of time before someone were to ask me the children question. And I have to say... I did a lot better than I expected I would.

 

Re: I knew it was only time... and it happened today.

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  • It sounds like you handled it well. Good job!
  • You should be really proud of yourself. 

    That is usually how I answer the question "do you have any other children" and rarely do people ask for more details

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  • I'm glad it went well!
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  • Big hugs, Roxy!! Good job staying strong!

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  • ((HUGS)) I'm proud of you too, I can only imagine how hard a conversation like that would be.
  • I am so proud of you. I know for one I absolutely hate that question. For me it's easier to just say No... though it kills me inside to dismiss her :(
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  • good job.  You handled it well.  We love you!
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  • ::hugs:: I'm so proud of you! 
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  • Sounds like you handled it well. And I'm glad your client was polite about it as well and didn't say anything dickish.
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  • That is definitely tough, it sounds like you handled it well though! I am still sorry you had to go through it, I know it was hard!!
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  • That was great way to handle the question. ((((((hugs)))))
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  • **HUGS**  You should be super proud of yourself. 
  • Wow, you did a great job!  I hope that when that situation comes up for me I will handle it as well as you did.
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  • I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I just read your story, and I'm touched by how you wrote about your experience. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Great job on keeping your emotions under control today! I still tear up whenever I tell anyone about my loss. As they say, time heals all wounds. So - hopefully I will be there soon!

  • Good job.  {{hugs}}
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  • Wow - you handled it great!  I hope I can handle it that well when it happens for the first time.

     

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  • Aww it sounds like you handled it with grace and class.  Good job. 
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  • You handled yourself beautifully...big hugs headed your way!
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