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Secondary IF
:gulp: second guessing our decision to go with TI
in Secondary IF
Had our follow up yesterday to decide on the protocol for this cycle - DH & I decided to go with the clomid (50mg) and TI. Last cycle was a natural cycle and all of this is still new so we didn't want to jump to anything too quickly.
Anyway, we were offered an IUI as soon as we sat down. After a little talking with the dr, he understood where we were coming from and agreed to 1 cycle of TI and we're tentatively scheduled for IUI next cycle if this one doesn't work. We have to option of switching to IUI this cycle as long as we make that decision by the 15th.
This morning, DH leaves me a note asking if I think we made the right call. He was the one pulling for a cycle with TI!!
Then the RE nurse called to follow up about the rx (they sent it to village fertility pharmacy, and wanted to make sure the pharmacy followed up last night since the order went in late) and asked if I had given anymore thought to or had any questions about the IUI process. *We didn't have many questions yesterday b/c I was surprised that it was offered and hadn't done any research at all.*
ugh... I wish I knew more than I do. I want to make the best decision, but I just don't know what that is right now =/
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Re: :gulp: second guessing our decision to go with TI
The one thing I can tell someone about IF treatments is that you need to be ready for each step. If you have good coverage for US/bloodwork, there is no harm in trying TI for a cycle or three! If you have less than great insurance, and want tho give yourself every fraction of a percent of a chance, you may consider IUI. Both of my children were conceived with IUI, and we are planning on trying for a while for number three on our own (TI, ect)
If you want the IUI, and it is not a great financial burden, I say go for it. An IUI baby is just as loved as a TI one! That being said, there is no harm in taking treatment slow until you are ready completely for the next step.
I have a friend who discovered she would need help to conceive. She came to me upset about the possibility of IVF, and that she WOULD NOT do it. I told her to take it one step at a time, and if IVF is ever on the table, they would know at that time if that was an option for them. They did indeed end up needing IVF. and at that time, she was in a better place to be open to it. She conceived her twins that way!
Do what you feel, and don't second guess.
mmmm...cookies!
I guess it really depends on your issue. MH has sperm issues, so I would without a doubt do with the IUI. But, like PP said, you can always do some research this cycle and just go with the TI and do the IUI next cycle.
GL!
I know that one cycle seems like a long time but I would say try one TI and if it doesn't work plan on IUI next.
I had a similiar story, my OB gave me 50 mg clomid last time. We didn't think we got pregnant due to progesterone levels etc. Well during this time we saw an RE who set us up for IUI for the second cycle. Just before I was set to take the progesterone we took a PG test and BAM! pregnant first cycle.
So it is possible, good luck!
Thank you for the advice & support.
my official dx is "unexplained" (as of yesterday).
All of our testing came back normal. The only thing that was a little off was my estrogen level which peaked at 174 instead of 200 or above.
I don't think TI is a bad idea this cycle it just kinda blindsided me that DH especially was asking about IUI! I think knowing more about our insurance (b/c he was researching last night) and his upcoming work schedule might have made him think IUI was a better option.
We have amazing insurance, everything except "the storage of frozen materials" is covered in full. Our prescription coverage is a little different, but it looks like almost every drug is covered in part too.
with IF just take one thing at a time! on my follistim cycle with baby #1 I ended up stimming great and had 14 follies. We were scheduled to do back to back IUI (this would be our 6th IUI cycle) and I was freaking out about multiples with all those follies, lol!! RE came in nurses office and said we could switch to an IVF cycle and I was completely not prepared (sort of how you are mentioned the IUI was sprung on you :-P) and couldn't do it. we ended up triggering 2500iu and I got one beautiful baby that cycle.
I guess what I am trying to say is that while IF is super overwhelming and alot to take in...you really just have to take it day by day and cycle by cycle. do your TI cycle, if that doesn't work the move onto IUI. My dh didn't have the best count and his morphology stunk which is why we did IUI. btw, not sure if your RE suggested it but our RE put dh on a vitamin regimen that really helped with his count and morph issues...it was a multi vit w/out iron, 500mg selenium and 100mg vit E.
Good luck and hang in there!! sounds like you have excellent ins. coverage!!
DH was against it at the start and wanted to try TI for a cycle or 2. Well it ended up being almost a year of treatments before we did an IUI (my body didn't respond well to the meds) By the time I Oed again (November by then it was 11months of trying) we were more then ready to do anything possible that we could afford. So away we went with IUI. That cycle didn't end up in pregnancy =(
This last cycle I Oed again (OMG big surprise to O 2 cycles in a row) and due to timing I couldn't get to do an IUI. So we did TI again, and there is nothing wrong with that. Although again no pregnancy =(
Anywho, the point of my rant here is that I think you should go with TI for a cycle or 2 if that feels right and then play it cycle-to-cycle. You never know what each cycle will bring. Good luck hun!
"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming..."
My point is this - I agree with FIRST: just take this all in at the pace you can control. Rushing is going to do nothing for you. If you're stressed out and spazzy about "the new", your success rates go down regardless. Do some research, read threads on here (and TTTC) and see what the skinny is on IUIs, etc and see if that's your step for next month, or the next.
And on the note of guys - they take longer to "process" stuff. He was probably just as blindsided as you were and after processing it, he was just "checking in" with you to make sure everything was cool and you weren't feeling regretful about any decisions. Remember, while they're thick sometimes, they know (somewhere, deep down....and for some REALLY REALLY deep down) that this process is really challenging for us women and they want to make it as streamlined, "problem solving", painless, and quick as possible. So he's being a good guy by checking in with you - he's new to this too
Good luck!