Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Re: Anyone Due in August?
Hi! I'm due August 7th so only a day behind you! I've lived here my entire life and feel like I can deal with the summer fairly well, but I'm already nervous about dealing with the heat. I've been going onto Old Navy's website and buying some tank tops and shorts and other things that will help but its going to be pretty killer!
I plan on being in the swimming pool as much as possible.
Yea I thought thought at a certain point in pregnancy you're not supposed to go into the pool I could be wrong, I never actually heard my dr tell me. But perhaps I'll ask when I'm there on the 26th.
I've lived in AZ for a majority of my life, and I love it, I can deal with the heat but being heavier then I normally am and having to climb those stairs outside my apartment does not sound fun to me. Have you gone to the Dr. Yet? What about AZ do you live?
I went to the doctor when I was only 5w 6d. They did an ultrasound, blood work, pee in a cup, all of those fun things. I'm going for my second appointment on Friday. I will be 9w 6d.
I live in North Central Phoenix. What about you?
NE Phoenix near Deer Valley Airport.
What hospital are you going to deliver at do you know?
I'm going to go to Scottsdale Health Care Shea!! Even though I'll pass PV hospital on the way!
My doctors office is attached to Arrowhead Hospital (67th Ave and Union Hills) so that's where I will be delivering.
It's about 20 minutes from my house, but I think we'll be OK.
That's cool I hear it's a nice hospital!
Yea I actually am near 16th st and union hills.
why wouldn't you be able to swim? if you're a "swimmer" and want to continue you'll want to check with your doc on that, but there's nothing wrong with going into the pool. the pool is awesome for pregnant women. you might be referring to hot tubs, those are a big no no. don't want to cook your LO!!
i'm in north phx off the 17 and bell. not pregnant and not due in august though, lol. just wanted to say hi!
Hi!! lol You're pretty close to me. I don't know why I just thought you couldn't go in the pool, I knew about the hot tubs though.
I am!! I'm due August 23rd, 2010, This is my husband and my first pregnancy and we are sooo excited, I actually go into my first apt & ultra sound tomorrow afternoon!
I have no idea how I am going to make it through the summer but can guarantee every moment I can will be spent in the pool! I remember when I was 11 my mom was pregnant with my brother who was born in June and she was so hot her entire pregnancy..and we have to make it all the way to August!! eek!
Well good Luck with everything ladies!!
I know it's crazy huh!? Kind of sucky but I look forward to meeting my baby at the end though not everything has settled in yet. Lol like reality like I know there is a baby in there, but I worry, and I just can't wait to feel him/her and know if its a him/her lol.
Where in PHX are you?
It is all very crazy, some days i don't even feel pregnant then i get super hungry right after i eat and i'm like oh yeah something is going on haha. Were In North Phoenix, what about you? Do you know where youa re going to deliver yet?
I'm also in NE Phoenix. I will be going to Scottsdale Health Care Shea. I always knew I wanted to go to that hospital and between the two choices - SHC or PV I just knew I'd pick SHC! No contest!! It's hard to feel pregnant but I really feel like I can feel my uterus already and I won't be 12 weeks until Friday...sometimes when I bend over to tie my shoes or pick something up it is hard and feels like something is in the way. According to my Dr's notes I will be in the 2nd Tri at 12 weeks!! YAY!
With us being in the 70's for about 2 weeks in Jan, I believe that we will have a record summer....again.
Oh well A/C and Pool here I come. Hell just give me a big inflatable pool to set up in my living room and lets throw some ice in it.
Catching onto this pretty late but we are due August 4th and we live in Central Phoenix (around 12th Street and Thomas). Not looking forward to the heat -- I will be going to my in-laws a LOT to live in their pool!
If you girls are interested in getting together some time please let me know! I'd love to meet other new mom's in the area!
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Where are you located? I'm the 6th!! We should be due date buddies!? That would be fun I'm in NE PHX!
Yay, I'm due on Aug 12th and live in the Arcadia/Biltmore area. I am definitely not looking forward to the summer. It will be my third summer here (I'm from Philadelphia) so I'm not used to it. Plus, our new house doesn't have a pool! I'm delivering at Shea also.
How's everyone feeling? Is everyone showing? I have a really big baby bump! So far, I have felt great, no morning sickness (don't hate me) but I have been getting headaches.
My SO just took a pic of me and I look HUGE!! (to myself anyways) I didn't know I was that big when I look in the mirror weird how a picture tells you how big you are lol.