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i for warn you all this is a vent...

a_chance2007a_chance2007
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So I used to have this BFF. We have been friends since oh, 5th grade. She went away to college. I stayed here for college, and had a baby. (Mind you her going away to college is a half hour away). Since I had DS Ive maybe seen her a dozen times. She came around a few times in the summer. And then every time I try to make plans with her she is either "my life is so stressful right now and i just want to lay in bed" (thats a direct quote used from today mind you) or "I really dont want to drive all that way" When she is home here in town her excuses are "I work from 2-5" ok well what are you doing before, or after being that its only a whopping 3 hour shift. I know you cant be exhausted from working THREE hours.

 Ok so winter break came.. and is almost gone. She goes back next week. I called her in the beginning of break to see what she was up to.. She said her and her mom were going to the movies in 20 mins I could come if I wanted. I turned it down because she would have NEVER asked me if I wanted to go if I didnt call her, AND I can not find a babysitter, get DS ready, get me ready, drop DS at the babysitters, and drive 15 mins to the movie theather in 20 mins.

WHEN she does IM me or text me she always ask about my cousin (a little background there.. her and my cousin dated for a year and a half and she cheated on him on valentines day when he spent over $300 on her) "Did he find him self a girl yet" GUESS WHAT ITS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

Then she wants to hang out next week before she leaves. Like she wants to go to lunch the day she leaves.

Am I wrong for saying "No Im sorry I cant Im just way to busy and to stressed to do anything, I think I just want to stay at home" Just like she does to me when I ask her if she wants to hang out.

 

My new years resolution was to not bend over backwards for people who obviously dont try. Am I just being a biitch?

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  • LynnJonesLynnJones
    Eh if you miss her friendship then I would go to lunch with her even though she is always blowing you off, sometimes you just got to be the bigger person.  But if you really are fed up, which it seems like you are, then I wouldn't go to lunch but then I wouldn't expect much of a friendship after she goes back.  I guess it just depends on if you still want her friendship or not.
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  • NatPhoto09NatPhoto09 member
    If you are not going to have lunch with her out of principle then I think you are being a little mean but if you truly can't make it or don't want to hang out then so be it. 
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  • mAnYaShamAnYaSha member
    I hate when people do this. Personally,in your situation I'd feel like I am imposing my friendship and I'd tell her I cannot do lunch that day. If she reschedules, she wants to keep up friendship, if not - whatever, you will find a friend who wants to be in your life. And no, I dont think it's playing child games.Stick out tongue

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