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My thoughts about babies at RE's office.

howleyshellhowleyshell member
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I really think it has more to do with expectations.

When you go to your first appt with your RE you're very raw and scared.  You get an impression of that office and how they're going to help you.

If you know up front that babies are allowed/encouraged you expect it and may find comfort in it.

If you find the office to be non-kid friendly (no toys, no pictures of babies you have to walk past) then you expect it to be the one place you don't have to bump into a pregnant belly or baby.

I don't think either is wrong or right but I do think that if you're gonna have a policy and post a sign about it that you need to enforce it to respect your patient's expectations. 

If seeing babies bothers you while dealing with IF (and dear lord did it upset me) then you should have the right to find an RE whose practice rules fit what you need to support you thru that struggle.  I don't think that's too much to ask. 

Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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Re: My thoughts about babies at RE's office.

  • mrsolsenk12mrsolsenk12
    Well said as usual!!!
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  • firsttogofirsttogo

    I agree completely.

    We would wait in the hallway, or DH would follow me there on the way to work to sit in the car with DS while I had b/w or u/s. We did what we could, but undfortunately, it did not always work out for us to not have to bring DS. 

    I agree also about not judging until you have done it. 

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  • kittylovekittylove member
    Very well said. I knew going in that babies and children were allowed at my RE and while it upset me sometimes I CHOSE not to move to a new RE because I had faith in my RE.
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