I knew MIL was going to do this....kinda long

Jimsgirl5821 · January 2010

My FIL has been in a nursing home for about 3-4 years now. MIL could have him home or take him out sometimes but she doesnt because she likes her new single lifestyle (going tanning, redecorating the house, going out with her single cousins, etc) She actually got annoyed he was well enough to go to SIL's wedding last month because it meant she couldnt run around and drink and dance and do what she wanted....Anyway, for Christmas we got FIL a digital frame with pictures of DD downloaded into it.....figured it would brighten up his room. MIL got a $75 gift certificate to a spa because that is what she said she wanted. She didnt get a frame b/c they were $70 and I wasnt spending $150 on her. Anyway, on Christmas we could tell she was pissy she didnt get a frame (my parents got one, too as their gift). DH called her the other day to ask how it was working and where she put it in FIL's room. She goes "Oh, I have it. I was afraid he's break it. But when I visit I bring it with me sometimes and plug it in so he could look at it" Ummm...its HIS gift to give him something to look at during the day instead of the f*cking walls. She just wanted to keep it, I know it. Apparently she has brought it to her job and DH's grandparents' house to show people. Umm...give him his gift back. DH is bringing DD to visit FIL on Wednesday, I told him while MIL is at work, swing by her house and take it and put it in his room. I will get some velcro with the tape on one side so we can velcro it to his nightstand or something if she was worried it would get knocked over....What a b*tch.

kristie06 · January 2010

WOW that's terrible. I agree that since it is HIS gift, it should be where HE is. If your MIL can take him out sometimes, does he really need to be in the nursing home or does she not want him at home? He could have a health aid visit the home.

I agree with you that your DH should get it and bring the frame where it belongs!

sammiekc · January 2010

Jimsgirl5821:
What a b*tch.

I agree.

Mrs_mam · January 2010

That is really mean of her. I hope you guys can get it and attach it to his room so she can't steal it again!

Jimsgirl5821 · January 2010

He needs help getting to bathrooms and getting dressed, etc. He doesnt need a nurse, just maybe a home aid. You have to go through insurance and Title 19 to get cleared for that. He currently I guess is approved for only 12 hours a week. She supposedly had an attorney who specializes in all that elder care/ social security law working on it, but nothing happens...and it has been three years and she never follows up with the attorney. She said its too stressful to have him home with her. And he can go out...DH takes him to lunch and stuff all the time, granted its hard work, but she just doesnt do it. There is alot of tension between her and DH because of this whole situation. Christmas Eve we went to dinner at DH's cousins' house literally down the street from the home. MIL wasnt going to pick him up and bring him. DH had to suggest it and we brought him. Otherwise MIL would have visited him for maybe 20 min. then would go to the party and leave him there alone on Christmas Eve.

easyBreezie · January 2010

yeah that's really shi!tty of her! I feel bad for your FIL for having such a bad wife. I would go get it or have your DH go get the frame because I'm sure he would really like to have it to look at. Velcro'ing is a good idea and gets your point across as well.