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I'm beginningto think there is something wrong with me..

Pennylane824Pennylane824 member
in Babies: 3 - 6 Months

In regards to being back at work.

Everyone keeps saying, "Wow, I can't believe you are taking this so well" or some variation of that.

It is starting to make me feel like I should be more sad about it. I dunno, I'm just really happy with our situation and I know DD is just fine with the people who are caring for her.

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  • BengalBelleBengalBelle member
    I feel the same way - there's nothing wrong with you.
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    Hey, if you're strong enough to not let it phase you, then more power to you! Just count your blessings that you don't feel the need to fall apart.  Peace of mind is a wonderful thing to have.
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  • fairychick77fairychick77 member
    Nope nothing wrong with you...I was pretty happy going back to work and didn't cry or feel sad the first day I dropped J off at daycare.
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  • deltagirl79deltagirl79 member
    I don't think anything is wrong with you. The first day I came back I dropped DS off with MIL and it didn't phase me at all either. I'm lucky I really like my job and had three months off so I was ready. Sounds like you are too, I think that's a good thing.

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  • mavilabridemavilabride member
    My first day back to work was awesome.  They had a welcome back breakfast for me so I got to eat hot food, sitting down, and take my time with it.  I even got seconds! Then I chatted about things non-related to babies, grabbed a cup of coffee with a coworker that is also a good friend of mine, and listend to music on the way home.  It was a great day.
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  • Mrs_mamMrs_mam
    You don't have to feel sad about it! You obviously found a good place for her to go and you are able to work without worrying. That is great and you don't need to feel differently for other people's sake.
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  • ivs112ivs112 member
    Nothing wrong! Do they expect you to sit at your desk crying all day?
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  • Pennylane824Pennylane824 member
    Yeah, I know. I guess it is just weird because I really thought I would be a hot mess and I'm not so I feel weird about it like maybe I'm missing a hormone or something :).
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  • ab090509ab090509
    There is nothing wrong with you.  Sometimes I think people make stupid comments just so they have something to say.  Ignore them and be proud of yourself for balancing work and being a mom!
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  • mamababamamababa

    There is nothing wrong with you.  I think people say that for two reasons:

    The mommy myth  that "good" moms want nothing more than to be with their babies all day.  This is true for some, not for others, but the myth remains. 

    That moms who do feel a hot mess feel free to talk about it (see mommy myth, above) and also need to talk about it (since they feel upset) whereas moms who feel serene (or even happy) about going back to work don't have much need to say that, plus they may hold back their thoughts for fear they will be judged. 

    That being said, I felt fine the first week or two, and sad later.  Go figure. 

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  • BitterOldHagBitterOldHag

    There is nothing wrong with you.

    You are a healthy well adjusted woman with a life outside and away from your LO. 

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  • purple_posiespurple_posies

    I was perfectly fine being back at work and people were the same way with me.  Made me feel like sh!t, like I was some heartless person.

    I think it's fine.  I've had a few days where I've been like "omgimissmysmileysquishybuttsoooomuchithurtsandi'mgonna'cry."  But not all day, every day.

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