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MAJOR in-law drama vent-LONG!
Okay, I rarely post, but I am honestly losing it with these people. I know a lot of you think you have bad MILs, but really-my MIL and FIL can compete with the best of them-how I got an amazing husband I have no idea!
I know I got "gems" of in-laws, but this takes the cake. My FIL emailed me and my other SIL telling me we "needed" to host a baby shower for my SIL the first weekend in Feb. He said he would have it at his house and pay for it. WTH? So I email him back saying that I know she already has two showers between now and the end of Feb. He says HE wants her to have a shower hosted by her family so he can invite all of his friends so she can get more baby gifts. ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? These are the same people that called my hostess behind my back and tried to get my baby shower date moved because my SIL was getting married four weeks later and "this was HER month". Then, when I found out and that didn't fly they gave my DH a list of who we could not invite because "we want our friends to focus on SIL's wedding and not short her because they also have to buy a gift for you"
A little background....my SIL had SIX wedding showers and me and a few others were invited to ALL and got her a gift for each one. After the wedding there were three gifts that didn't have cards with them. They called a few of us who they "KNEW" would have gotten her a wedding gift. Excuse me, I got her SIX of them. My DH's cousin's wife got the call, and had to admit that, no-she didn't buy a wedding gift because she bought six gifts AND hosted a shower. They told her they would have expected a wedding gift from her-WTH? Also, I am not even discussing this Christmas-my MIL ruined it! Thanks for listening to the vent-I seriously have to move ASAP.
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Re: MAJOR in-law drama vent-LONG!
Tell them to kick rocks!!!
I would just make myself unavailable for a while.
This is the point when I would tell my husband he needs to step in and do some parental control. My ILs are very self centered and oblivious. When they get like this, I do not deal with them or talk to them. My husband "handles" them until the issue goes away.
Its not ideal, but we have no other choice because they turn me into a crazy person.
Oh my. That would make me irritated. Are you close with your SIL at all? Would you have thrown a shower on your own?
If not, you know, I'd just grow a pair and say no then have your DH back you up. I've started getting sassier with my ILs and standing up for myself and my family and they've cut out a lot of crap. The key is to be polite but make sure they are scared of you.
Ditto. I had never stood up for myself to anyone ever until I married into DH's family. I've had to learn to stand up for myself (often times DH wouldn't stand up for me in the beginning of our marriage). It does cause fights, but if your DH backs you up, then it makes it easier to deal.
Abigail Taylor 09.18.2008
Tritto this! I've really had to learn how to hold my ground with the IL's. One of the best days ever was when my DH realized how CRAZY his parents are. It made things much easier going forward and like pp I let him handle them a lot of the time esp when the are super crazy.
Honey vent away! That is honestly insane and the wedding stuff with SIL - out of control! I agree with others, get DH involved to settle this, keeps you out of it. Keep us posted on what happens. I am so sorry - maybe I should have my IL's come teach your IL's some manners. I adore mine!
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