Sharing a shower?
Has anyone had to share their shower with a sibling? My sister is due around the same time as me. It will be her 3rd but we are having a shower for her because her last baby was 9 years ago and she doesnt have anything for this new one. The shower will be my first and only one.
I am torn over if it is a good idea to have 2 seperate showers or one big one for both of us. All the same relatives would be invited to both so in that case it might be a good idea to have 1 shower.
However, my sister has a bunch of friends to attend hers and since I live out of the area but friends will not be attending mine.
Also since this is my first and only shower ( no more kids after this) I kinda would like to experience my own shower and not have to share.
I am curious what others thoughts on this is or what they did if you had a similar situation. Thanks!
Re: Sharing a shower?
If I were given the choice by whoever is hosting, I would choose to have my own. If I were your sister, I would not want to barge in on your only shower. However, it might be hard on your guests to make it to both showers.
I guess look at who is hosting and what they are offering and look at your potential guests and try to determine if they would go to both. If my relatives who were siblings were having separate showers kind of close together, I would be glad to go to both personally, but it really depends on people's schedules and how far they would have to travel.
All that said, if you have to do combined showers, it could still be a lot of fun, and you should still get plenty of attention.
First, I would want my own. Second, I think it can be awkward for the guests. if they know its a duel shower, they may feel they have to buy both of you a gift, which isn't really fair.
If your guest lists were identical, I might say not as big a deal. But if they aren't- do seperate.
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There should only be one shower since there's only one first-time mother - you.
That said, if your sister is actually going to go along with this idea for her to have a shower, they should be separate.
This, if the guest list is the same I think its easier on everyone to do 1. Are inlaws going to be invited? in that case the guest list would be different
If you want your own shower I see nothing wrong with it....except you do need to be considerate of whoever is hosting the shower. It would be tacky to go to the host and say you want your own if they didn't offer. My second shower (aka "sprinkle") was combined with my sister's because we share so many friends and had already each had a baby. It was a lot of fun and I really enjoyed it.