Should he sleep in our room with us for the first few months?

miss_braun3 · January 2010

I was talking to my mother in law, and she said that were going to want to have him in with us for a couple months, but I have never heard of anyone doing that..I'm just curious if anyone has had any problems with there babies sleeping in there room, and not wanting to go to there own room? I'm at such a loss. Deffinately a first time mom.

MrsPreK · January 2010

I couldn't do it. It's just not for use though but a lot of families do it using a bassinet or a co-sleeper.

I'm a super light sleeper though and cannot sleep listening to even a baby breathing. Both our of our LO's were in there cribs from day one.

Remember that you need to do what works for you and your LO though!!!

krissyh21 · January 2010

It really is more to do with what you are comfortable with. I have had DS in his crib since the first night he was home and had no issues what so ever with it. Everyone is going to share with you their opinion, if you feel strongly about something - then go with what you feel is best for you.

Shananah · January 2010

It's a personal preference. I keep DD in our room in a bassinet next to our bed. She'll stay there for another month or so before we transfer her to her room. For me, I wanted her close for ease when I had to get up in the night, as well as to calm my own nerves about keeping her safe, but didn't want her in the bed with us all the time. The bassinet works out great, and when it comes time to transition her, she'll be used to sleeping alone.

Do whatever you feel comfortable with!

Rachel2315 · January 2010

DS sleeps in our room and probably will until he's six months old.

I am super paranoid about SIDs though, so its nice for me to just look over and see that he's okay. My DH can sleep through anything so it doesn't bug him to have a baby in the room.

I have heard if you're BFing its certainly more convenient to have them in the room with you.

JinglesChic · January 2010

We did it using our PnP for the first 3 weeks until I felt better from the c/s. Now DS is in his room which is right next to our room.

jema30 · January 2010

Our LO is still in his pack and play in our room. He still gets up around 4 am sometimes to eat and it makes it easier on us if I just have to hop out of bed to grab him. He will nap in his crib though and I don't anticipate it will be a hard change for him when he is moved to his room full time.

I'm not bothered by him at all and my DH and I do have alone time (as he has a crib elsewhere) when we would like some.

Rachel2315 · January 2010

I should add he sleeps in a pack and play next to our bed.

lissah23 · January 2010

DS sleeps in a bassinet next to the bed, and probably will until he's 6 months. It's so much more convenient for middle of the night feedings and diaper changes, and it gives DH and I some peace of mind.

dansozzi · January 2010

My DS is 2 months and sill sleeps in our room he sleeps in his Maclaren rocker and loves it. ?During the day I spend most of my time with him in his room. ?He naps in his swing!

SmallandNeedy · January 2010

Do what is best for your family. For us, bedsharing makes everyone happiest and gives us the most sleep -- we've had very restful nights since DS was born since I can just roll over and nurse him without either of us fulling waking. When DS is ready, we'll put him in his crib (he sleeps just fine without us, BTW, no "issues" with self soothing yet).

Co-sleeping is popular because babies want to be near you, especially in those early months. It can be scary for them to be separated from you since all they have ever known is your scent, your warmth and your heartbeat. Keeping them in the same room (a bassinet or co-sleeper or in your bed) allows for easier feedings and can often alliviate stress -- as a new mom, I found myself waking often to just check that he was breathing and happy -- if I had to get up and go into another room, I wouldn't have slept at all!

Follow your instincts and talk about the options with your DH. You will know what is best.

MamaS111 · January 2010

DS sleeps in a PnP next to our bed... I just felt more comfortable having him next to me when we came home! He will be moving to his room within the next month.. whenever he decides to sleep longer through the night!

Like others said, Just do what you are comfortable with!!

wheelenl · January 2010

MrsPreK:
I couldn't do it. It's just not for use though but a lot of families do it using a bassinet or a co-sleeper.
I'm a super light sleeper though and cannot sleep listening to even a baby breathing. Both our of our LO's were in there cribs from day one.
Remember that you need to do what works for you and your LO though!!!

This. I would also add that you shouldn't necessarily expect anything--just go with what works.

And, likely your MIL will give you lots of unsolicited advice, which you may or may not want to follow. Smile

jshf · January 2010

DS sleeps in a co-sleeper next to us and I am planning on keeping him there for at least one year. But DH would like him to go into the nursery at 6 mo, so we will see what happens. I just felt sad to be so far away from DS, so couldn't make myself put him in a different room.

That said, there have been some other advantages because babies nurse so often, it's easier to have LO in the same room. I can often hear him squirming and can sometimes help him fall back asleep before he wakes up. Or if he is hungry, will feed him and put him back to sleep. Since he isn't crying to wake me up, he stays sleepy.

The other day I had him swaddled and somehow he got the swaddle wrapped around his entire head and face! I heard him grunting and woke up and was able to take the swaddler off. I'm afraid what might have happened if I didn't hear him! So I was thankful that he was right next to me!

But like everyone said, you need to do what is best for you and your family. You might even find yourself holding LO all night cause he won't sleep any other way! I know I've done that!

MsAlyss · January 2010

For me it was all about not having to go in his room 30 times a night to put the paci back in this mouth! PnP next to my side of the bed.

thetwistedwillow · January 2010

You'll just have to wait and see what kind of temperament your child has. My second daughter never wanted to be held. She slept in the bassinet in our room but started sleeping through the night when she was about 2 months old so I just moved her to her crib. Never had a problem.

But my firstborn and this third baby LOVE to be held. We bed-shared with them.

My firstborn slept in bed with us until she was about 10-11 months old. Then she started taking naps in her crib. From there I started putting her down at night in her crib. She's been in her own room ever since!

Just like you have to wean a baby from a bottle or pacifier, so must you wean them from your bed/room at some point.

Here's an amazing article on bedsharing and it also reduces the risks of SIDS. Good luck on whatever you decide!

CJ2008 · January 2010

I think it all depends on you and your LO. We thought she would room in with us, but after we left the hospital she went straight to her crib b/c we didn't have the bassinet yet (were going to borrow from a friend). Then we realized she is a very noisy sleeper and there is no way DH or I would get any sleep if shes in our room, so we never made the switch.

greycoral · January 2010

SmallandNeedy:
Do what is best for your family. For us, bedsharing makes everyone happiest and gives us the most sleep -- we've had very restful nights since DS was born since I can just roll over and nurse him without either of us fulling waking. When DS is ready, we'll put him in his crib (he sleeps just fine without us, BTW, no "issues" with self soothing yet).

Co-sleeping is popular because babies want to be near you, especially in those early months. It can be scary for them to be separated from you since all they have ever known is your scent, your warmth and your heartbeat. Keeping them in the same room (a bassinet or co-sleeper or in your bed) allows for easier feedings and can often alliviate stress -- as a new mom, I found myself waking often to just check that he was breathing and happy -- if I had to get up and go into another room, I wouldn't have slept at all!

Follow your instincts and talk about the options with your DH. You will know what is best.

This is what is working for us as well! We don't have a time limit on how long we'll bedshare, but plan on doing it for a while.

GreenEyedGal · January 2010

Rachel2315:

DS sleeps in our room and probably will until he's six months old.

I am super paranoid about SIDs though, so its nice for me to just look over and see that he's okay. My DH can sleep through anything so it doesn't bug him to have a baby in the room.

I have heard if you're BFing its certainly more convenient to have them in the room with you.

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